I saw him about 4 times before he did it and it was in person and I don't like him as more than a friend, but he really likes me! I haven't seen him in 4 days as i've been avoiding him. But he lives on the same street as my friend and I go there all the time. I'm scared to break up with him and have to see him all the time and it will be so arkward! And I don't want to break his heart; I'm his first girlfriend... HELP ME!
2007-03-16 01:58:26 · 15 answers · asked by anything2getin 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I said yes because it was in person and I couldn't say no to his face!
2007-03-16 02:10:56 · update #1
Tell him that you want to be friends. He is going to hurt but it is better to tell him earlier than continue on and cause more harm for him and you. Over time he will understand and if not he will find someone else.
2007-03-16 02:02:15 · answer #1 · answered by selena d 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Lets start by clarifying something: you ARE NOT his first girlfriend. You haven’t even accept to be, so don’t think you are.
Now, if you know him, and for what I read, you actually care about him as you don’t want to break his heart, then it means that somehow you are his friend too.
So, you said you don’t like him. Well, if you are sure about it, and don’t want to give him a chance to show you who he is, then I suggest you brake his heart now before is too late. Just go out with him, talk, and then if he is really going into trying to become your boyfriend, then you stop him, and you explain to him that you are not interested in a relation (not him), and that you don’t want to ruin the friendship either.
Let him think and do whatever he wants. Is not you problem. He can’t force you to be with him. If he is smart, he will stay friends with you. As for you, keep on being yourself, and try not to look at him too much so he doesn’t get any false hopes.
But if by any chance you want to give him a “try”, then go out with him and see what happens. You know, sometimes we fall in love with the person we less expected to happen. Is not all about appearances, is also about mentality and personality.
But whatever you do, do not stay with him just because you feel sorry, because later you are going to feel sorry about yourself, and nobody is going to help you.
2007-03-16 02:14:44 · answer #2 · answered by Dan D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you didn't like him then why did you agree to date him? This is something you should have really thought about before hand but seeing as we can not go back to when you agreed the only thing to do now is to be honest with him and tell him how you feel. Break it off now before too much time goes by. He may be hurt when you do this but he will heal and it will give him the chance to find someone who will eventually like him.
2007-03-16 02:05:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should sit down and talk with him quietly. Tell him its not a date. Buy him lunch or something. Then say "look I really like you, but this relashionship isnt working. I dont want to loose you as a friend over this and if something bad happens then we wont be friends anymore." Or the easy route would be to sneak into his house and shove a knife up his a** and be done with it. Only Jokin lol. Just let him down easily. Good Luck =)
2007-03-16 02:14:45 · answer #4 · answered by J3NNii.. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you dont really like him, you shouldnt have said yes to him in the first place. Stop avoiding him and tell him how you really feel about it. Would you rather have a fake relationship and lead him on, or would you rather tell the truth? It wouldnt be fair to lead him on. Everyone has a first girl/boyfriend, and a first breakup, so dont worry about that.
2007-03-16 02:09:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
from experience, its hard 2 break up with any one, especially ppl u dnt like, and after you do u feel hell bad, but it gets easier to see them walk by you, and bump into them on the street, tell him the truth, he deserves the chance to find someone who loves him the way he deserves, and so do you, dont live a lie because you too afraid of the truth, the longer you wait the more it will hurt
2007-03-16 02:09:04 · answer #6 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a difficult experience (I've been through something similar). I'll be honest here, it's not easy to get over the awkward part and it takes a while. All you need to do is follow your heart and what you want to do.In the end, it usually all turns out to be alright!Best of luck;-)
2007-03-16 02:05:11 · answer #7 · answered by Honey 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have only seen him 4 times and you consider yourself his girlfriend??? that is pretty wacko!
If you don't like him tell him no you do not want to go out with him. Let him know you are sorry, but you only like him for a friend and you don't think it would be fair to lead him on.
be cool...
2007-03-16 02:07:11 · answer #8 · answered by CC Babydoll 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should never date someone because you feel sorry for them. Simply explain that you'd prefer to be friends. And don't avoid him, that just sends the wrong message.
2007-03-16 02:02:11 · answer #9 · answered by jeepguy_2x 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh you really went and done it now girl! Some guys go their entire lives without getting dumped, but you gotta do the dirty deed and dump this sorry sap!
2007-03-16 02:05:22 · answer #10 · answered by FarOut 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋