My first relationship ended about 1 mth ago and i find it hard to let go. We were together for 1 year plus and we've been through a lot of breaks and patch ups.
Things were fine in the beginning and then things became bad. He's an angry person and would insult me whenever he's mad. He even pushed me before once, left me alone in public twice, said I was stupid and unreasonable when I expected him to turn up at the funeral and be there for me when my aunt passed away. I'm quite close with my aunt and he knows that.
I don't know whether I should move on or still cling on to whatever hope I still have left that the relationship will work out eventually.. We were still in contact when we first broke up but he suddenly stopped all contacts. Why is this so? Should I still wait for him or move on?
2007-03-16 01:56:01 · 11 answers · asked by Grace 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
There were just so many good memories with him and he seemed so good to me at times...
I'm also afraid that I won't be able to find another guy. I'm not a person who falls in love easily. :(
2007-03-16 02:04:52 · update #1
I tried to talk to him before but he just shuts me out of his life and said he has moved on already...I'm confused. help!!!
2007-03-16 02:15:35 · update #2
I would move on. Why would you stay around for an abusive person when you can find something better?
2007-03-16 02:01:34 · answer #1 · answered by McB 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Interesting. People always wonder why abused women don't simply walk away. You're a prime example.
You think there is no-one else out there, you down-play his abuse, you cling to the 'good things'.
Fact: He Will Not Change. Get back to him, be abused again, until you eventually break up - again. Another year of your life wasted. Down the drain.
Don't believe me?
Go to www.google.com, type in 'abusive boyfriend'. You are NOT alone.
The question you ask has been asked MANY times before, by many other women.
Read up. Is their situation anything like yours? How did they cope? What did they do? Did their boyfriend promise to change? Did their boyfriend really ever change? What was the solution for them?
Don't ask for our opinion. Find your own. Read up, you're NOT the only one.
2007-03-16 03:42:10 · answer #2 · answered by mgerben 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you really serious? You don't like yourself do you? If you value who you are, and I don't think you even know what this means, then you would not even think about getting back together with him. He doesn't care about your feelings or what's important to you and you want him back? Move on with your life, don't get into another relationship, work on how to be more confident and assertive. The next guy will appreciate you for it..if he's worth anything.
2007-03-16 02:01:13 · answer #3 · answered by Lisa D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should move on. You don't need to be with someone that is going to treat you like dirt. He treats you like that because he knows you will always be there for him. I think you can do so much better than him and meet someone wonderful that will tell you all the nice things that a woman likes to hear. Good Luck
2007-03-16 02:01:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's always hard to loose your first love, but you have to move on. You will always have some feelings for him left over for him but remember that they are old feelings. If you start to ignore him too you will be able to move on, and you have to. you dont want to love someone who doesnt love you back. so find someone who love you.
2007-03-16 02:04:17 · answer #5 · answered by sastelmach 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you wait then you may as well give up. You will find someone who deserves you. Don't worry. I know you might feel like he is the only one for you, but there are others.
2007-03-16 02:03:31 · answer #6 · answered by Solar Ball 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ltake it from me,be it any relationship,there's always ups and down.you both are young ,and react at the spur of the moment.he has a short temper,thats all,help him get over it.try talking to him and find out what makes him mad.if you don't then who will.jumping from one to nother is not a solution.good luck.
2007-03-16 02:12:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on and find someone who will appreciate you for who you are.
2007-03-16 02:00:25 · answer #8 · answered by selena d 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would move on hun you could do much netter for yourself, no point living in the past. go have fun and forget him. good luck.
2007-03-16 02:32:11 · answer #9 · answered by kira s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
MOVE ON.he obviously doesnt care about you, find someone who will
2007-03-16 01:59:30 · answer #10 · answered by jumpy789 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋