Is it wrong to like a person?

Question

Or perhaps the question should be 'how wrong can it be to like a person?'. I always believed there was nothing wrong to like a person. To like a person, and to want to care for a person, expecting nothing in return, is the fundamental of a friendship, and the basic level of love.

But breaking up with my first love of 5 years (she chose to leave me, citing seeing no future together, due to her imminent decision to move to another country indefinitely to look after her grandmother), and attempting to be 'just friends' has proven to be more difficult than I anticipated. Talking to her, asking her how she is, has proven to be a one-sided small talk affair.

As much as I am ready to move on, I see no point in denying my own feelings for her. I am willing to just be friends and care for her in that way, nothing more. I just want to know she's really doing fine, from her own words, instead of resorting to asking her other friends.

Am I wrong?

A few more points.
- It was her who say we should be just friends when she broke up with me.
- A common friend told me before that she thinks I got to stop liking her before we can be just friends. (Keep in mind I told her my this belief long ago and she is aware of it.)

Answer 1

Hi.
Personally I see nothing wrong in that except for one thing.

you are just losing the time you should be living to take care of yourself.
I believe you have a lot to give for some one else her.
I know how hard it is to be trusting another girl after a long relationship ended up with the most damn thing I hate called (break up)

My man you really have a lot to give so just move on and find somone to give you at least 25% of what you can give her.
No one is perfect on this planet. so just be wise finding the right peson for yourself.

I believe that can make both of you happy.
she will be happy for you ( if she really mean it when she said you should be just friends )

on last thing.
the way you wrote that question make me believe that you are a very kind a wise person.
and ladies wont be looking for more than that in a man they want to love.

I hope it help you.

Wish you all the best
Good luck man.

Answer 2

The answer is no, you are not wrong. However, you are not offering it to the right girl.

She has already left you. From what you said, she sees you as a pest. Don't go running after her and spending your time on someone who doesn't want your affections or care. Find a girl worthy of your affections and who will return that same to you. That kind of girl will be the right kind for you, not someone who makes you miserable & who doesn't care anymore.

It takes two hands to clap to make a relationship work, be it friendship or something more. She gave up & has moved on. She does not want to returning those affections anymore & has made it clear that there is nothing she wants from you. You should move on to. It is ok to have feelings for her still but you must remember one thing. She doesn't want it. In time, you will see that she is not the right one for you. Go find someone else who suits you better in terms of views and temperance & who actually appreciates what you are doing. You are only hurting yourself more and not letting the right girl into your heart if you continue on this path.

Answer 3

No, you are not wrong here, she was your first love and will always be....but there are a lot more things than just a love. Like she went abroad to take care of her grandmother, you would also have some relations to be taken care off. Swing your attention to that direction and that will help you reducing the sourness of the relationship, and may be you'll find another girl whom you start loving more than her...what I think is love is just another emotions, it never lasts long.

Answer 4

I think you are hanging on to something you should let go of if you ever want a true, loving and lasting relationship with someone.
by the way, the something you are hanging on to is your ex
let her go and move on

be cool...

Answer 5

no its not weird, i think u just need stop asking retarted questions and do what u think is rite