my dad(stepdad ) the closest thing ive ever had to a dad . my really dad use to beat my older brother ,my mum and me . but hes very protective . he wont let me out . ive to b in bed by 8.30 . im not allowed down the town and we live in a small village . im not allowed to any discos wit my mates and he doesnt like me havin a boyfriend i don twant to hurt his fellings but i wish he was not so protective .
2007-03-16 01:54:56 · 24 answers · asked by sexi-dol 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
im 18 years old still livin at home
2007-03-16 03:55:47 · update #1
you dont say how old you are,better to be careful,theres too many nutters out there
2007-03-16 01:58:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He obviously loves you but I think he's being a bit too controlling. Try talking to him, change a bit at a time. I'd start with the bedtime thing if I were you. Ask if it would be ok if you stayed up and maybe had some family time with him and your mom. Maybe suggest that you all have a 'cinema' night where you pick a film and eat popcorn at home on the sofa. 8:30pm is way too early for you to be sent to bed. my daughter is 3 and goes at 7:30!!
Maybe you'd be better talking to your mom about this?
Good luck
2007-03-19 11:43:22 · answer #2 · answered by JJ J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok I read this and thought you was a 12 maybe 13 year old, you are 18 for gods sake there is protective and there is totally controlling you need to talk to him about this and get some professional help this is imprisonment. at 18 you should be enjoying your life not in bed at half 8 someone is gonna get hurt here and if you don't find a life it will be you hunny
2007-03-19 04:45:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i read this and thought you were a youngster. but, at the end you say you are 18? what do you mean he wont let you? what can he do? you are 18. a woman. not a child. sit him down. tell him calmly and firmly that you are an adult. a woman. tell him you are no longer willing to allow him to control you in this way. say that you love him and appreciate all that he has done for you, but his job is almost over as you have grown. if he will not accept this, then it is time for you to leave home and stand on your own two feet.
2007-03-19 09:37:25 · answer #4 · answered by fat momma 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To escape a situation like this I moved house, the lady I cared most about was taken advantage of and that made me think she should have stayed with her family for longer, in other countries the males of the house have a simple way of protecting the females they care about, they lock them in the house all day and expect a meal when they get home.
2007-03-18 10:16:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I'm sorry, but at 18 you are an adult, he should not be telling you to be in bed by 8-30. My girls are 15 & 16, they have to be in at a resonable time weekdays, but my 16 year old goes to town to a club with her mates, I make sure I pick them up by 11-30 .weekdays they go to bed at 10-10-30
2007-03-19 02:24:45 · answer #6 · answered by Weed 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well im a girl but im also the only daughter out of four kids my dad has three kids which is me and my two older brothers i think dads and brothers mostly older brothers are so protective because there love for their daughter/sister is so strong they think nothing or anyone is good enough for them and they dont want them to get hurt.
2016-03-29 01:34:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your a young girl say 11-13 years old then i dont blame your step dad,he sees through adult eyes just what this worlds like and the possibility of you being hurt terrifies him.
Sit him down and talk to him about what he wants for you,what you want for you and what you want to do when your older.
If you find him always refering to you being hurt and how angry he would feel then you know hes trying to protect you.
Dont fall out with him,he is your dad and the only man a girl can ever really depend on.
Talk to him to find out what hes thinking and why he thinks like that.
Dont forget that your step dad reads the newspapers and watches the news and sees what could happen to you,this must terrify him.
See things from your step dads point of view,try to see why hes over protective,im 36 and my dad still phones me worrying about me wanting to know if im ok.
2007-03-16 03:44:13 · answer #8 · answered by freerange00720002000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand just how you feel i went through the same thing with my stepdad you just need to make him understand that you will always be his little girl but its time for you to become a woman maybe it will put him at ease if you shared things with him to give him some reasurance. Make him see that you are mature enough to take some responsibilty in your own life.
2007-03-19 23:07:48 · answer #9 · answered by Claire 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes their’s no question that your stepdad is overprotective.
My advice would be move out when you’ve got the first opportunity, your 18 and he’s treating you like you cant choose for yourself how you should live your life.
It wont get any better for you unless your prepared to get yourself out of the situation, believe me I know.
2007-03-16 10:52:28 · answer #10 · answered by Free Tee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he needs to watch his 18 year old daughter even closer when she has a name such as listed by the asker of the question. Maybe it is things like this that make him the way he is.
2007-03-16 03:01:24 · answer #11 · answered by Preacher 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋