So me, a friend and this girl who's friends with my friend went to see a movie yesterday and we kinda started holding hands which ended up at the end of the night as kissing, not like little grandma kisses, more like long kisses kisses. When I dropped her off at home with my friend its waqs just kind of like "cya later". So today I think I cought her off guard but I asked if yesterday ment anything. She said she didnt know and that it caught her really off guard. Then I asked her if she wanted to see a movie with another of my friends. She said sure but not to expect anything to happen again. So I asked her if she liked me as a friend and she said of cource then I asked if there could be more and she said she didnt know. She said not right now and theres no for sure and she didnt want to lead me on too much since its totally contradictory to last night... at first its like shes not sure then it goes to theres nothing there right now. She did say she wanted to go see a movie tomorrow.
2007-03-16 01:42:44 · 6 answers · asked by teh_masta_of_all 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Im trying to decide if that means she could be interested and I may have a chance. Or if she just wants to hang out as friends. Either way I need to drive with her for about 20 minutes by ourselves tomorrow any tips on what I should say to not make the drive 100% akward lol?
2007-03-16 01:43:04 · update #1
1. No you don't still have a chance with her. She's made it pretty clear from what you've said. It's like that book, "He's Just Not That Into You." She's just not that into you.
2. Avoid awkward by treating her as you would any other female friend. Act like nothing happened.
2007-03-16 01:49:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay. Has she just come out of a relationship? Or has she maybe never been in one before? Because if she has just come out of a long term or possibly even short term relationship this may be why she hooked up with you but is now acting all hot and cold towards you. If this is the case you should just let her be and tell her that you wanna be friends before you take it to anything else. Once she feels comfortable and feels that maybe should can open up to you things may develop. If, however, she's never had a boyfriend or been in a relationship or whatever she may just be scared or uncertain as to where to go from the movies. Just let her know that you're willing to go as slow as she wants and that there's no pressure and also tell her that you're fine with being just friends. As for the car trip... perhaps don't bring the movies and what happened there up again just let that be for now and in the car let the conversation come naturally. Don't be afraid though, you can be yourself just don't be too full on. :) Good luck. X
2007-03-16 08:52:08 · answer #2 · answered by anything2getin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should get your hopes up with this girl. She could make out with you but from what she said, it meant nothing to her. Don't put much faith in what she says or does. She may be the kind whose interest in shortlived & unmeaningful.
It is obvious you felt it meant something to you and wanted to know if she felt the same. Well, it didn't mean anything to her. See the big difference between the two of you. Find someone more like you where relationships mean something, not nothing.
One more thing, don't listen to folks who recommend playing games. Be yourself, be sincere and you'll attract the right kind of girl to you. You don't want to end up with the wrong kind of girl now would you. And no, it is not true that all girls would run at a guy asking if a kiss meant anything. A kiss should mean something, not nothing, and it is nothing to run away from if she really likes the guy.
2007-03-16 08:56:00 · answer #3 · answered by Bugsy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK. You must listen to me.
No girl on this entire EARTH likes a guy who appears too desperate. You are sounding really desperate to her so she is getting freaked out by you. She is backing off big time because you are acting like a slathering puppy. You may even think you are playing it cool but trust me, just from what you said in your question, most girls would run if you asked her if the kiss meant anything to her.
You really need to take a massive step back and act like you don't care. Play hard to get. Women are weird like that. They like to fight to get a man's attention.
If you still decide to go ahead with the next "date", I would not even bring up the subject of the kiss. Just play REALLY COOL.
If she likes you, she will be shocked that you appear to not care anymore and wil want the attention back.
If she doesn't like you, she will not care if you have backed off in which case you could do better.
P.S. you sound really young so you have many years of experience to learn about the strange creatures that are women!
2007-03-16 08:54:29 · answer #4 · answered by Lisa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She probably liked it at the moment but than after it happened she didn't want it to happen....Girls are confusing and you sound kind of young or new at this let it if she comes around she likes you if not than she don't
2007-03-16 08:49:28 · answer #5 · answered by Miss. Nikki 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Wha?
2007-03-16 08:46:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋