Serious question??? Need an honest answer?? Please?

Question

We dated for 2 yrs. Things were good initially. In this period i was cheated on, lied and disrespected. He broke up and got back with me a couple of times. Finally I moved on with someone else. He made me break up with the new guy in my life. I did it for him . My ex wants me back and promises to treat me right and also is willing to marry me and speak to my parents. He is treating me exactly the way i wanted all this time and is keeping me really happy. Will he let me down again??? Is it just time before he reverts back to the old himself cause im available once again. Please tell me. Am i gonna end up hurting myself all over again? Is this just a dream??

Answer 1

I think you want someone to guarantee that life is going to end up happily ever after for you and your ex. The truth is, we can't guarantee anything. I would say that his track record speaks for himself, BUT, however; people ARE capable of changing. Perhaps he had an ephiphany and realized his feelings for you. Or, conversely, he is TRYING to change, and probably will behave for a while, but he may revert back to his old ways.

Love is often a gamble. And just like Vegas, you go there to gamble with the hopes of winning big. But most of the time, you wind up losing big instead. You just have to decide if your ex is worth gambling on. And that is something only YOU can decide.

Good luck...

Are you ever REALLY going to be able to trust him again? And that is your one million dollar question. Given his past treatment of you and your relationship, I think if it were me in your shoes, I'd have an AWFUL time trying to trust him at all.

Answer 2

If he has to speak with your parents that's lets me know that you're young and too young to think about marriage. You don't want to marry him and he cheats. Do not go back to him. He can't treat you the way he did and expect you to run back to him. Have some self respect. You deserve better. He had more than one chance. He will let you down again. You can't be with someone who wants to control you....I mean he MADE you break up with someone else??? No one should be able to make you do anything. Please find yourself and who you are first, then give other guys a try. Maybe even the one he made you leave. Whatever you do just don't let him slip right back in. Date other people and she how he acts or just become his friend to see if he has really changed but I guess is that he hasn't and you should move on because there is someone out there who knows your worth and doesn't need several chances to treat you right.

Answer 3

Both possibilites are thr-
1) He is fooling you again
2) He has cleaned up and changed for good.

I would say take things light. Do not fall too much for anything and dont go too fast. Marriage is such a case is a risk. I would suggest wait for some time and use this time to spend with him. You are the best person to judge if he is worth giving a second chance. But make sure you dont hurt yourself again by not counting on it and not taking it too seriously. I assume you are single right now so just chill and treat it is a fling or short time affair.
If it works for you - be happy with him. Otherwise, you know he was not worth it anyway.
But if in case, things dont fall in place for you. Move forward.. Life will offer you a better chance and a soulmate....

Answer 4

I'd take things slow right now-don't rush into marriage just yet. Okay-he messed up and cheated on you. That was then. Maybe he's had time to think and mature,and see the error of his ways. But he has to prove himself to you before you make this big commitment. Tell him how much he damaged your trust in the past,and that as much as you love him,you are still afraid he will do it again-and you need his help to rebuild that trust. If he's willing to do that,then it would seem he's turned over a new leaf. But if he balks in any way-refusing to answer questions,hiding things from you,etc.-then you'll have to accept that he is the same as he was before. Just go slow and tell him how you are feeling-and do what you can to get him to open up and talk about why he cheated on you in the past,and why he believes he won't do it again.
Good luck to you.

Answer 5

Hi.
you know how really hard it is to find out what is coming on the next moment of life.

But looking back to his past can explain a lot of his future behavior.
Any way .
the best you can do is to judge it your self. I can only give you an Idea how to do it.

i know you cant forget what he did to you before. I know it's hard to remember it again. but (sorry to say that) the only way you can make a decision is to recall the timing ..

when you found out that he is cheating on you the first time. and he managed to get you back.
how long did it take to cheat on you again. or even to lie at you.

if that time is enough for you to live and have kids and make a family with him go ahead and trust him again . .
but if not then (Sorry again) as you said it's just about time to revert back to the old himself.

that's the way you can find it out.

and trust me if I say: you dont want to make a decesion effects your future family.

Hope it help you.
Wish you all the best.
Good Luck.

Answer 6

When you have a relationship w/ someone you have to trust them. If you can't do that you have nothing. Some people learn from thier mistakes .Some do not . You can't keep letting someone drag you over the coals because they r resentful or imature.& they will hurt you again. I cannot say if you will be hurt . Life dishes out alot of hurts all the time . It depends on how we handle the situations . Will we grow from them or fall back into a unwanted cycle? Trust is earned . W/O it we have nothing. Only you know that person you love & you need to decide weather your love is worth giving to that person.. Are you appreciated ? Ask yourself this >>Is your life important to the other one ? Ask yourself this . If the answer is "NO" move on.....

Answer 7

You said he made you break up with the other guy and he got back together with you.It's time you realise, "HE" didn't do anything," YOU" broke up with the good guy to be with the bad boy YOU got back together with the bad boy after he cheated on you, lied to you and disrespected you. Most women are soooooooo weak, all a guy has to do is cop a 2 dollar attitude and women are ready to fall to thier knees. You need to stand up to this loser, tell him that you are a good woman and he only gets 1 chance to treat you right and he blew it a long time ago. He will control you as long as you let him.

Answer 8

Chances are that as soon as you get back together, he will turn back into the snake he was before. I went through this and I know countless other woman have too. They love the creep and when he promises to do everything they ever wanted they want to believe him. He may even be sincere in his promises, but you already know who he is and his putting a wedding band on your finger won't change that. If anything ti will get worse, because now he'll know you'll never leave him. Do yourself a favor and move on with your life without him. I know it will hurt for a while, but that's the only way to avoid a lifetime of misery.

Answer 9

You musn't go back to this guy. If he has already cheated and lied to you and you won't trust him again. It sounds as though he only wants you when you have moved on. Tell him straight it is over. How do you know he isn't lying when he says he will treat you right this time. He would have treated you right the first time.

Answer 10

Who knows? That's the best answer I can give. Either take a chance again or don't.

You've seen his bad behaviour & been hurt before. Could you do it all over again just for him? If not, then don't go back to him.

I noticed that you let him walk all over you. And you said he even made you break up with your boyfriend. Now, no one can make you break up or do anything you don't want to unless you let them. And he knows you'll let him do so - again and again and again. Don't you think that he doesn't. That's the advantage he has. He can do whatever he wants and you let him do it.

You have got to stop being a doormat and stand up for yourself. Give him a good piece of your mind and put him in his place. He mistreats you cos he doesn't respect you like you said. And he doesn't respect you cos you don't respect yourself.