She wont leave me alone?

Question

I posted this same question a number of months ago now... and it all calmed down... now it's all fired up again with some extra's.

Since I became single after a long term relationship about 4 months ago I have this one girl that I once dated who wont get off my case.

She keeps inviting me out for drinks - I constantly decline
She calls me up asking to come round for a chat - I pretend I'm already expecting friends round.
She calls me up randomly saying she needs to talk, like we're best friends or something.

Also!

As we both go to some of the same places together she's now purposely asking me for lifts home and because I'm a nice chap and don't want to see her left with no-way of getting home but the last couple of times she asks me to go in for a drink, or to listen to some music she's been putting together, and I keep having to make excuses. . . . . . . . . . .

I would have thought she'd have got the message by now!
In the nicest possible way..... HOW do I get rid of her???

Answer 1

1) tell her your bisexual if he knows u been with other ladies ,might scare her off ,you into bondage and other kinky stuff that might scare her off,2)get a new g/f and tell her you don't cheat 3)find her a man 4)try new places she isn't at 5)when leaving at night tell her you aren't going to your place but another direction as your house is getting renovated.
6) just let her know you are sorry but not interested in anything but friend and its keeping out of hand (if at club have few drinks and build courage up)

Answer 2

You can't be having nice chats on the phone with her. If she calls you, you mustn't answer and send a text telling her you are not interested in a relationship with her anymore. You will probably think this is nasty and feel quite bad but just think how bad you feel when she keeps stalking you.

I was crazy about my ex and did the same type of thing and learned the hard way - if he told me straight and ignored my calls and didn't visit me (giving me hope) then I'd have let him be.

Don't give her lifts anywhere - tell her it's very inappropriate as you know that she wants you back.

She won't get the message unless you make it CRYSTAL CLEAR.

You will enjoy your freedom soon. Hope it all works out for you. You are too nice for your own good!!

Answer 3

I would suggest you try your best to avoid any contact with her.try NOT to go to the same places she goes...go somewhere new, somewhere else.
If she still is by your side...you honestly need to tell her to her face so she "gets it"....I like you as a friend..I dont' want a relationship with you so pls stop~
Of course she may be crushed....but if you don't be honest with her...in her head, she may feel there's a slight bit of "hope" that one day you two may become an item again.
As for giving her a lift home...She's a big girl...and will not be stranded....she can make her own arrangements to get home. YOu just tell her, sorry you'll have to find another way home as you're not going home...and it's out of your way..You have plans and wont be home for the rest of the night. But just be straight up with her, tell her you're not trying to hurt her feelings but you want to be Honest and upfront with her. SHe'll respect you more, even tho she may be crushed..hopefully then, she'll be off your back.
GOODLUCK*

Answer 4

Get a backbone lad!! Honestly, by being nice ur leading her on, but if u turn all nasty your going to hurt her. She obviously really likes you, which is a compliment but by being so nice to her your leading her on. Without you being brutally honest (in a straight but reasonable way) she won't get the message and will keep hounding you. By asking this question publicly your obviously a nice guy as most others would have just binned her off without concern for her welfare, n trust me that hurts so much more!!! Maybe start going to different places to avoid seeing her n if things get really bad consider changing ur number

Answer 5

You HAVE to be cruel to be kind here, you have to be up front and tell her that you are not interested in having a relationship with her.

\Once you have told her (nicely) it may be a good idea to stop going to the same places for a while, just until she gets over her infatuation.

The sooner you are honest with her, the sooner you can sort this out.

Answer 6

Well perhaps the nicest possible way to get your message accross isn't the right answer with this one. Just be very honest and tell her "hey you are a nice person and all but I can only think of you as a friend and that's it".

Answer 7

U need to be honest with her, tell her u dont mind giving her lifts home if she is stuck, dont mind goin for a drink once in awhile but make it clear to her you dont feel anything for her except being friends and youj dont want to loose th friendship u have got. U need to do this nicely but straight to the point so she knows. if it was me i would want to know its a non starter, it wil probably effect her e.g pretend she aint upset but is so she probably wont speak or will keep speaking to you. whatever the outcome go with it.
hope it helps and good luck. do this as soon as you can!

Answer 8

Ha ha ha I quite have da comparable problem different than I quite have 2 wrk wiv da 30 year old dat fancies me like im in basic terms sixteen! i attempted tellin him that and that i had a b/f and he nevertheless didnt get the factor on the same time as quickly as I advised him 2 piss of and leaf me on my own yet a minimum of hes given up phoning me approximately 6 situations on a saturday nighgt after ive achieved a shift with him LOL u think of youve have been given problems get a woman pal to come back around and pretend shes ur g/f dat ought to get the pint accross

Answer 9

Tell her that she is a very nice person, but you are not interested in developing a friendship with her. Explain to her that you are tired of having to make excuses, and that you would prefer that she not bother you any longer. If that doesn't work, tell her that she is stalking you, and you intend to file charges against her.

Answer 10

You should tell her that you would like her to stop nagging you all the time. tell her just as it is. it may be a little harsh but you have to let her know where you are coming from. tell her that she comes on way too strong and you would like her to tone it down a bit and ask her if she can lime with her own friends a little more than she does with you. good luck!!!!!!!!!!!