Why is it so hard to get men to listen to what you are trying to say???

Question

Even if your straight to the point and very clear about what you are trying to say.

Answer 1

First of all, it depends on what you are trying to say.

If you expect a man to be fascinated by the fact that the sweater you bought does not quite match the colour of your shoes so you wanted to return it but your mom had already removed the label and now you wanted to buy some new shoes that match your new sweater but you are not sure if the new shoes will be all right with the jeans you've seen in this lovely boutique where you bought that nice top last month...
you're on the wrong track.
Men are not going to be fascinated by such information. Never have, never will be.

On a slightly more serious note: Men tend to think in solutions. When you've told no more than half of what you're going to say, they already want to give you a solution to your problem.
That's it, problem solved. Next problem. That is how men think.
You on the other hand, just want to tell your story.

So, two free tips for you:
- don't eat yellow snow, and
- accept that men are different and share your stories with a female friend.

Answer 2

Men's brains experience a woman's voice as music (proven by science). This lulls them into a state of reverie. When the music turns sour (such as when a woman tells a man something he doesn't want to hear) of course the man does not want to listen to discordant musical tones. It's like listening to bad music. They tune out. Men should realize this in order to be more objective when a woman is making her asssertions. Usually, a woman's voice is sweet music, but at other times it should be heeded more carefully. A switch in perception will allow a man to pick up and zero in on a woman's voice when it changes tone from melodic to logical or assertive. Some detachment is needed by the man to facilitate this process, as well as light insistence by the woman for her to be shown general respect. Raising your voice won't help overcome this difficulty, nor will getting angry. Don't be threatening. My suggestion is to come to the point quickly. Say things that are self-evident. Engage the man in a two-way conversation as much as possible to keep his attention, don't monopolize.

Answer 3

Men and women are different. Women communicate differently. However, this is a very general statement because I find that my man is a good listener. Unless of course there is a sport on t.v. What are the conversations that you are having that you feel he is not listening to? Maybe it is the timing of the conversation. Whatever the problem is you owe it to yourselves to figure this one out because communicating with your partner is critical to a relationship. Men Are From Mars Women Are From Venus is an excellent and entertaining book that deals with this communication difference.

Answer 4

Most men could give a rats *** about what you have to say. I will now tell you the best and worst times to talk to a man, here goes:

Worst time:

During any sporting event either live, or on TV.
When Sportscenter is on.
During sexytime
When he's answering questions on Yahoo Answers.

Best time:

When he's sitting on the can. (except if he's reading Sports Illustrated).
Right after road head.

Answer 5

I am not too sure why that is but I think its a rebellious thing. We sound like thier Mother so they dont listen well. Funny how they can listen to thier friends and remember the entire conversation but cant remember what we tell them.

Answer 6

Because we have attention deficit disorder, try turning off the television and talk to them when there's no distractions.

Answer 7

Men have selective hearing. They have no interest in anything that doesn't have to do with sports, sex or their hobbies. They are lovable but incompetent!