Last summer I made friends with this girl. We worked together and had a really great relationship. I am 21 and am at college. She is 18 and at a boarding school at the other end of the country, and so I only get to see her during her school holidays. However I am still in touch with her by text messages and emails. At New Year she invited me to her party and we had a great time, and it was then I realised I was in love with her. The only thing is I am not sure if she loves me or not, and I want to tell her I love her, but don't want to ruin our friendship, what should I do?
2007-03-15 23:40:44 · 8 answers · asked by Matthew H 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
thanks for all your answers so far- I am also wondering do I wait till next time she's up or risk asking her out by text or email
2007-03-15 23:52:20 · update #1
You should tell her you love her . She probably feels the same ya know...........
2007-03-15 23:45:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In life, the biggest regrets are not the things you do (because you gave a shot at it and even if it didn't work out you get kudos for trying) but instead the things you did not do, and are stuck with the persistant reflection on what might have been after the window of opportunity slips away.
Do it, before she ends up with someone else and the moment is lost.
Just make sure that if she says no, you can deal with it and still be friends. (i.e. dont be a dick if she says she isnt interested)
If nothing else it will clear the air, and you will know you had a damn good crack at getting what you wanted.
2007-03-15 23:47:49 · answer #2 · answered by Caffeine Fiend 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should tell her, everyone likes being told that someone loves them. I bet you'll find out that she feels the same way and is probably going through the same dilemma as you are! Tell her face to face not over a text message if you can, and good luck x
2007-03-15 23:49:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cannot ruin a friendship by saying you love someone, only by not accepting she may not feel the same. This would make you feel rejected. If you are man enough to say I love you but continue the friendship if it is not reciprocated then go ahead. You won`t know how she feels if you don`t ask.
2007-03-15 23:56:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is such a hard thing to find and when you do find it, by all means, share it with the other person! Life is too short to be waiting around and you don't know what is going to happen from day-to-day. Good luck to you!
2007-03-16 00:06:29 · answer #5 · answered by Minx 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"IT'S BETTER TO HAVE TRIED AND LOST, THAN TO NEVER HAVE TRIED AT ALL"... tell her... could be risky, but it's high time for you to know where you really stand. If she turns you down, don't take it against her. Continue being friends. But if it so happens that she loves you too... then it was worth the risk. ( It would be best that you tell her in person )
GOOD LUCK!!!
2007-03-16 02:00:06 · answer #6 · answered by TIGERLILY 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her! You sound intelligent and mature, and if she turns you down, you'll be able to handle it.
If she does turn you down, well hon, it would surely be her loss ... and you will stay friends.
2007-03-15 23:56:27 · answer #7 · answered by Orla C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her. tell. it may be the only way to find out if she feels the same...
2007-03-15 23:51:12 · answer #8 · answered by ywe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋