We have been seeing each other for nearly 4 months. We met on a dating site about two months previously. We took it slowly at first. I've been hurt before, and I admit I'm insecure and find it hard to trust.
Things have been great lately and he's started referring to me as his girlfriend. We went away for a weekend and had a great time. I started to feel close to him.
However, I had a problem with the dating site so I had to log back in as they were still taking money from my card even though I cancelled the account about 2 months ago. I saw he is still logging in regularly. It did my head in and so I asked the advice of a friend. She said I should create a profile and see if he gets in touch. I shouldn't have done it, but I did. And lo and behold, he added her to his favourites.
Of course now, I don't quite know what to do next. I can't accuse him of anything but obviously he's not as serious about it all as I am. Suppose it serves me right for sneaking.
2007-03-15 23:31:22 · 21 answers · asked by Picky Bird 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You've been seeing each other less than 4 months and you talk about how you were "taking it slow at first". Ding-ding-ding. It's still "at first". You hardly know this person. He's obviously not serious about you yet and is still dating.
And what is this "serves me right for sneaking"? Sneaking? On a website that YOU have a membership on and have every right to use...and that he KNOWS you can use?
Stop fooling yourself. He isn't your "boyfriend". He's a guy who is dating you and probably others too. Did he SAY he wanted to be exclusive or is all that just an assumption on your part? This doesn't make him a bad person, it just means that you are not clear on exactly what you are doing.
YES, talk to him. Ask him about exclusivity if that is what you want and stop playing "peekaboo" games.
2007-03-15 23:38:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
It's still not right from his side to do this, but on the other hand...what did you really expect to get on a 'dating site'? True love?! C'mon be serious and honest to yourself, half the men on that type of sites are there for 1 reason : To try to get as many girls as possible!
Forget about the slimeball and dating sites! Besides a genuine MAN will never hide away on a dating site....
2007-03-16 07:37:35 · answer #2 · answered by Yollie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the saying ignorance is bliss is so true - but then look where we'd be - obliviious to the fact your loved one is still chatting up other women!
Id forget about this guy - you'll never be able to trust him after this. There are plenty other guys out there that would kill to have a girl like you as their own- this guy obviously doesnt appreciate you so show him the door.
xx
2007-03-16 08:21:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well clearly as he saw you was logging in then obviously he was doing the same to of seen you!! he's also added your fictictious profile to his favourites. dont confront him, dump him. he clearly cannot be trusted. dont waste your time or your heart on this man. all that will happen is you get it broken again confirming your mistrust. you was right to snoop. why would he still be on there if he thought you was the one? find someone who deserves your love and your trust. good luck hun. but plz dump him before he hurts you. x
2007-03-16 06:41:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i really feel for you..have the same problem myself we met on a dating site both left the site..or so i thought then a friend of mine told me to take a look at this profile she found on the site it was my bloke but using a different username..i don,t know what to do either ..email me if you like maybe between us we can come up with a plan to tackle these guy,s best of luck
2007-03-16 07:06:54 · answer #5 · answered by hawthorn330 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Babe...
Look... you're just doing an investigation to prevent you from being hurt again...
Four months is pretty early into a relationship and its ok to have your doubts.
You are well within your rights on those concerns.
Find out if he's two timing you now...
It'd be tons better than finding out later on
Good luck
ily!
2007-03-16 06:37:45 · answer #6 · answered by ilyena 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
O sweetie it doesn't serve you right...you realized what a snake this guy is and thankfully it only took 4 months! Now that you know he's not serious go out and have fun,,,go meet other guys. You deserve someone who will treat you right....not someone who will lead you on and lie to you.
2007-03-16 06:38:55 · answer #7 · answered by pamomof4 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Confront him, but do it with oomph and pizzazzz ... arrange to meet him as the new profile, and see his reaction. Get a photograph of his face at this point, and then dump him by text message ... or not, depending on if you could be bothered. He sounds like a ****, to be honest.
2007-03-16 06:59:15 · answer #8 · answered by Orla C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
4 months the world is not coming to an end. get some balls kick his *** to the curb and find someone Else. So what if you went out of your way to find out if he's a cheater. It's your right to know.
2007-03-16 06:37:54 · answer #9 · answered by loving U 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your dating. Nothing serious. Enjoy yourself. Why are you trying to find that one person. Date, have fun, and when you find the right one go for it. Until then don't try to make the first person you get someshat involved with the IT person.
2007-03-16 06:38:05 · answer #10 · answered by spiritius4 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋