I met a fellow temp a couple of years back and if we're lucky, we'll meet up again in the same company to temp! When we're not working together, I post her her birthday cards/presents and Xmas presents to her (usually vouchers), as I usually ask where she might be working during those times. The thing is, she keeps saying she has both my presents from ages ago and although she knows where I'm working, I never get them. Even now, we're in the same massive company again and when I saw her she giggled and said, "I've still got your Xmas present and birthday presents at home, plus the £3 I owe you" and I replied, "Well, why don't we meet up for lunch then?" in which she said she isn't available to. Am I a mug or what?
I give her presents because I want to and I told her I like her for her. She said the same of me. The £3 is petty to me by the way. She even mentioned that it was my birthday yesterday and still not got a thing!
2007-03-15 22:48:44 · 17 answers · asked by Say It Like You Mean It 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Time to cut the ties my friend.
She doesn't sound like a very nice person and not someone who I would like in my circle of friends. I believe you should treat someone how you would like to be treated. You could force the issue and have a 'chat' with her but it doesn't sound to me that you actually even like her so why bother?
Move on and find someone else who will treat you with more common courtesy and respect. You can always tell the type of a person by who their friends are.
2007-03-15 23:03:15 · answer #1 · answered by Charm 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like she has a different view of your friendship than you, not in a bad way but just different. Not everyone thinks to get presents for anyone other than close family and best friends so she might feel uncomfortable about your gifts. The likelihood is that there are no gifts waiting at home for you.
My advise would be to forget the gifts and make an effort in frinmdship in other ways. Lunch, emails and drinks after work. Change the boundaries of your relationship and take pressure of material things. Talk to her instead. Don't worry about this more than you need to, relax and be happy that you are friends.
2007-03-16 06:19:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ah, do you know I was in that position and I bought my friend a birthday prezzy and christmas present too and she text me on my birthday but I didn't get a present because we didn't have chance to meet up. When we did she had always 'forgot' my present. But I didn't mind too much but after christmas she came round my house and she brought the presents! So I didn't have to doubt her she had remembered its just that she was busy with things and maybe its the same for your friend too. It does seem strange that she won't meet up though, if she keeps saying 'no' to meeting up then maybe make another friend instead who appreciates your kind gestures.
2007-03-16 05:57:11 · answer #3 · answered by agent flora 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to hear that, there are many possibilities. She may take advantage of you or she doesn't want to let you down with a rejection.
My conjectures can go on and on for ages. My advice, have a chat with her and tell her what you seek and it could be good to start out a friendship, don't be too pushy, try to act as a fisherman and put a good bait in your hook, (a nice dress may do the trick). And good luck.
If this doesn't work out, remember what they say there are many fishes in the sea.
2007-03-16 06:00:47 · answer #4 · answered by Nraf 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It does sound like she is messing you around. Or perhaps she has money trouble and can't afford to get you anything, but doesn't like to say so?
Maybe you should stop buying her presents, then she might not feel obliged to lie about buying you stuff. Or if you still want to buy her presents, make it clear that you don't expect anything in return.
However, it sounds a bit like she is taking advantage. I would stop buying her presents, and stick with a card.
2007-03-16 05:55:39 · answer #5 · answered by louloubelle 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
she hasn't bought you anything that is totally obvious and why do you buy her things anyway?? if shes not even a close friend she probably thinks your a bit weird don't mean to sound nasty but if i had a "friend" who I never saw other than if i happened to be working in the same place as them (i personally would call them an acquaintance not a friend) and she kept sending me presents and cards I would think she is weird.
move on and find someone who deserves your friendship xx
2007-03-16 05:59:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Friends like that you do not need, she is taking you for a mug, forget about this selfish degenerate, she only says that she likes you to see what more she can get out of you, if she was thinking about you she would have brought in those alleged presents that she supposed to have for you, give this cow distance.
2007-03-16 06:03:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
poopsy
what relation are you seeking?
it is obvious that you either a mug or you work on long term hunter
so you doing this for the may be that might come in future
stop being silly
2007-03-16 06:53:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
The answer to that problem is simple, tell her that her birthday and christmas presents are at home too.
2007-03-16 05:55:27 · answer #9 · answered by Mike 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
She doesn't want to spend money on an acquaitance she meets a few times a year.
Stop gifting.
2007-03-16 10:37:58 · answer #10 · answered by shrek 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋