My son is on the phone every night 3 to 4 hours to Queensland we live in N.S.W.. he is obessesed with her. he wants to go to Queensland to see her in the school holidays I said no and she told him that i am to controlling and that he should be making his own decisions . he is sleep deprived but he says that he is fine won't talk to anyone in the house stays in his room. I recieved a letter from the school stating that he is in danger of failing his high school certificate. he is in the advance class and wants to be a computer technician . he is in year 12. What can i do to help him realise that this is going to affect him badly if he fails. She told him that if i say or do anything to him or her about thier relationship she will leave him. please HELP!
2007-03-15 22:47:45 · 12 answers · asked by helpless mum 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
1/ his study have to be no. 1 priority
2/ if his grades are good he gets reward points
so many points for phone calls...or saves up his points for a trip to visit her..
1A=50 points...phone call etc ... all As =500 points =trip you work out what you think is reasonable..if his grades used to be all Bs...then make B the benchmark
3/ if his grades falls no rewards..no phone no trips..
I used to have to show my report cards to mum and dad every term...and if I got the marks in the holidays they didnt dare say anything...I can go out every night etc....and I knew to play according to their rules...they get what they want I get what I want...:)
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2016-11-25 23:30:33 · answer #2 · answered by ecker 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who is paying for these 3 - 4 hour telephone calls every night?? When does he find time to study??
He is still a minor and in HIGH SCHOOL.
Invite the clever, pschology major, girlfriend to YOUR home for a few days. Sounds as though she is attempting to be the controlling influence in his life.
You, on the other hand, are responsible for controlling your child, guiding him with decision making along with his care and education.
Charge her RENT.
2007-03-16 05:29:48 · answer #3 · answered by Pacifica 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is seventeen, he must be able to think for him self.
As parents, you must give him the liberty but at the same time you must attach some conditions.
Explain that you are not stopping him from knowing that girl from Queensland but you are concern that he will neglect in his studies.
Offer him some kind of carrot, that if he keeps to his studies he can invite his girl friend over to NSW and that if he does very well, offer to pay for his trip to Queensland.
Hope that he listen but please do not use force or threats or you may loose him all together.
Good Luck
2007-03-15 22:58:41 · answer #4 · answered by sonisunny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You aren't controlling you are just look out for your son like you are suppose to. If he wants to become a computer technician he has to understand that he needs good grades to do that. He shouln't be trying to see no one untill he's grades inprove. I know your son cares for her, but maybe them breaking up will be a good thing.
2007-03-15 23:02:33 · answer #5 · answered by kcl46647 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your son is not a child and a high school senior, do not try to come between him and the young women or you may loose your son and he may do manmy things to spite you. Right now she has alot more influence and importance in his life than you think. Try to find a way to compromise and do not try to prevent him from seeing her.
2007-03-16 01:05:25 · answer #6 · answered by badmikey4 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
why did you say no??
it would be better to set up an internet connection to allow them to see each other while they talk.
and let him visit her during the holidays. that's what holidays are for.
just remind him that he needs to finish school before going to live with her.
you can't shut down teenagers hormones. the best you can do is to nudge him in the right direction while he is still in your home.
2007-03-15 23:01:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
explain him that he can have as many girlfriends as he wants.but u also tell him that it is his time to study for him.i know he might be wanting to have sex with her . u can explain him that after ur marriage he will be doing sex as much he wants.me to was having 7 girl friends but i left them all just due to studies and i got third rank in the class.if then to he doesn't agree,stop giving him pocket money.
2007-03-15 22:59:39 · answer #8 · answered by sonugandhi_thesecret 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him go see his sweetheart...he is 17...just tell him he needs to spend at least 2 hrs doing homework every night.
2007-03-16 03:08:01 · answer #9 · answered by Justintime 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
But a block on the phone to prevent long distance...if that doesnt work ground him..
2007-03-15 22:53:34 · answer #10 · answered by anthonymperkins05 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋