Should i leave or should i stay?

Question

i have a partner for almost 7 years and we have a two-year old son. Everything seemed perfect and ideal, until now. I have odd feelings for him..he touches me and i want to jump, he kisses me it makes me puke! I believe that it's the result of his changes towards me. he failed me number of times, i was a battered wife at least twice and i fought back..and i even wound him through words..I believe i still love him and don't want a broken family..Are these signs that we have to part ways? or these are just part of the test that every couple experiences? Someone please help..I want to act on this now or it will be too late..Thanks!

Answer 1

No its not a test. Getting beat by your husban is in no way a test of your love for him, or your ability to take a beating. Its just plan anger. Pure and simple anger. Usually due to insecurities on his side. Which form what you've said is most likely a very big pile of insecurities on his side. Ether way your not here to make a descision about your marriage. Thats ruined. Not because of you, but him and his inability to accept love for you. Yes if he was willing to go to consulin there is a possibility of it all working for the good, but thats your call weather you think he can do it and comment. The really delema here is do you want this "man" to teach your kiddo how to be the "man" he is? Because thats what you doing. It isn't about your guys love for each other now that went out the window when the little one was born. You should of had the love way before you took that step. Now its time to show that kiddo that you don't have to surrender to your problems that you can stand up against the world and live a good life. That you can get what you need which isn't having to deal with someone else's problems, espacilly a grown "mans" problems. Don't worry about a broken family it would seem that he already did that, its now really in your hands to get the family away from him before he breaks the rest of it, namly You and your son. I would say the same if he was just mentally abusive but to have him welling to not just cheat but hit you.... he has issues that go way, way back. Your only help like I said to keep this family together is if he well accept outside help. If not you need to leave things well definitly get worse before they get better if he is left up to his own devices.