I have been dating this really great guy for 8 months, he asked me to marry him and i said yes. He wants a traditional wedding and i don't want the headache. We agreed on getting married on a cruiseship with family and friends joining us on the cruise. Now he doesn't want to(he doesn't want anyone with us on our honeymoon) should i throw the whole thing in his lap and let him plan the wedding?
2007-03-15 22:05:33 · 9 answers · asked by sayj 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
No you need to sit him down and work together on this one. Explain to him that you don't want a traditional wedding and that you just want something simple, because you don't want the wedding to get too big and out of control because you don't want the hassle. Hopefully by doing this the two of you can reach an agreement that makes everyone happy. An idea could be to get married abroad and have a very small wedding with a few close family members and friends and then after the wedding have your honeymoon somewhere else. Or just have a small garden wedding or go to the registry office and then have a big reception afterwards
2007-03-15 22:16:52 · answer #1 · answered by Baps . 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you both continue on with a destination wedding (cruise ship or something else), and have a nice reception and party with your family and friends after wards? I can totally understand him not wanting to share you on your honeymoon. That is your time. It will be hard to be alone when you will have family around that you will understandably want to see as well.
You two also could have just a small ceremony with family and friends and then do the honeymoon. My fiance and I both decided we wanted a simple wedding, and we are getting married outside of Vegas in a really pretty park. Our family and friends will be there, but it will not be full of the stress and pressures some large weddings can bring with them. We will hang out with everyone the day before and following the ceremony. The next day we are going to be off on our honeymoon.
Try to compromise. You don't want to just throw it in his lap, because it just sounds kind of childish, and I am sure you don't want to start out your marriage like that.
2007-03-15 23:38:08 · answer #2 · answered by kalea_kane 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Instead of having the wedding on the cruise ship, why not have the wedding on a beach with the same family and friends you were thinking of. Then the two of you could hop on a cruise ship alone the next day and your guests will be able to enjoy the beach.
2007-03-16 01:24:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your ready to throw in the towel with an issue like this one now, you are NOT ready for marriage. This kind of stuff comes up all the time and marriage is about 90% compromise and hard work. You dont seem to be up to the challenge. I would step back and look at what you really want with this man.
2007-03-16 01:26:22 · answer #4 · answered by kateqd30 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Understandable he wants you and him alone on the honeymoon, he has a point... why should he share you during this time....
don't dump it on his lap, just see it his point of view and see if you two can work something out....
2007-03-15 22:10:47 · answer #5 · answered by Maken trax 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's sweet that he wants to be alone with you on your honeymoon.... Girl be thankful... My finance's aunt is letting us use her house in Hawaii for a week and the MIL is trying to figure out when we are going so she can tag along (of course he said um... NO!) .....So be Thankful he is putting his foot down...
2007-03-16 03:02:40 · answer #6 · answered by Lizzie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is all about compromise--a great lesson for you both to learn in the planning phase.
2007-03-16 01:54:51 · answer #7 · answered by melouofs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it is just something you will have to negotiate on.
Be ptient, there are plenty of ideas for weddings and eventually you will come across the one that suits both of you.
2007-03-15 22:11:25 · answer #8 · answered by han83b 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if you have to ask strangers, then NO!
2007-03-16 00:05:32 · answer #9 · answered by abc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋