My bf and I broke up because he neglected me (hung up on me, yelled at me, ignored me, didnt consider my feelings, chose other people over me, tried to make me feel guilty etc).
After we first broke up, I tried to work things out with him but he told me that he didnt want me anymore. So I tried to move on.
Now it has been 3 months but he is now telling me that he cant sleep at night cause he misses me and cause I "hurt" him. And he says he loves me still and he misses me oh so much, yet he still doesnt want to get back together. What is wrong with him? Why is he still talking to me and why is he being so confusing?
2007-03-15 20:56:19 · 15 answers · asked by haley l 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He is trying to make you uncomfortable. Just ignore his words. Although i am a guy myself (24) i know how guys does it. They ignore you and the stuff you listed above, and when girl wants to get away from them, they blame her for the cause. Try to ignore him and his words, he is trying to make you feel guilty, as he did before.
Best of Luck and keep smiling
2007-03-15 21:02:28 · answer #1 · answered by Ali 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he is just playing games with you.
If he was a mature individual he wouldn't be making you feel guilty. Making people feel guilty is an unhealthy and immature behavior.
If he doesn't change.... drop him. Or he will take you down with him. Don't let a man like that waste your time.
And probably the reason he is going back to you...is he is feeling lonely and has no one. That is not a reason to go back to someone. Have you ever heard of prisoners who fall in love with girl on the outside. Its because they feel lonely. But once the guy gets out and discovers his freedom he doesn't feel obligated to that woman. Lot of those relationships don't work out because the girls was naive.
You have to accept the cold reality that some people cannot be saved...and that the only one that can change them is themselves.
2007-03-15 21:12:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's confused and he's trying to find closure. You're the closest thing he has to a confidant and you have the pertinent information already, seeing as how you lived through it with him; so you're the one he's bouncing these emotions off of in hopes of finding an answer. Tell him you aren't interested in how he feels or solving his problems, you have issues of your own that he didn't seem too concerned with when you broke it off...which is WHY you broke it off in the first place. Suggest to him that he find a new girl because you're seeing someone and aren't going to mess it up because of him. He'll lay off...
2007-03-15 21:07:05 · answer #3 · answered by wetdreamdiver 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your ex is insecure he likes having someone he can push around, it makes him feel better in a screwed up way, he knows you will keep taking him back no matter how he treats you, advice stop talking to him it will hurt but you will feel much better then you did when he was neglecting you. I've been there before. good luck.
2007-03-15 21:07:07 · answer #4 · answered by mdgbear68 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Forget him, he does not love u. In love there is no confusion, the mind is clearly focused on only one girl. Maybe he is using u as a back up, in case the other girls he is trying, frustrate his moves. Maybe he wants u to lick his wounds and make him well, so that he can again go to battle, to hook another girl.
2007-03-15 21:03:46 · answer #5 · answered by wizard of the East 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your typical teenage male Im afraid. Most guys grow out of it. He sounds very self centered and is trying to make you feel bad by breaking up with him. Sounds like you really hurt his ego. Ignore him and move on!!!!
2007-03-15 21:01:48 · answer #6 · answered by drew 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have given a long enough list of the things he did wrong by you,do you think he could have changed so much as to set all this right,besides he isn't showing a desire to get back with you,so why make his problems yours.I don't think he is confusing you so much as being confused himself,let him first set things straight in his own mind.
2007-03-15 21:05:16 · answer #7 · answered by dee k 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's trying to make you feel so guilty to move again in with him.
Move on, away from this guy.
2007-03-15 21:00:55 · answer #8 · answered by peachy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
thats very very much like a guy!
he really wants to be ur friend!and he means it and he really misses u!
he isnt able to express them ......... thats it!! nothing else is wrong wid him..
if u want to be his frnd..well and good ,he would make a wonderful FRIEND
but i guess u both wont have the same closeness as before still.....
dont get into a relationship once again..though u hav said he doesnt want to hav one again.....
repeat::>:: HE WOULD MAKE A GR8 FRND!!!!!
2007-03-15 21:05:25 · answer #9 · answered by ~~mruthyu~~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's a player. Avoid him like a postman avoids a Rottweiler.
2007-03-15 21:04:35 · answer #10 · answered by Your Uncle Dodge! 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋