I am in love with a girl, we were lovers for 8 month 2 years ago. we broke up, reason was she was tired of our relationship. then we started again six months ago. she is kind a girl that doesn't show up her emotions. she keeps everything in her heart, I tried to change her but it's her personality and I wasn't able to change that so I became like her. when we started our relationship for the second time she was telling me that we are not boy/girl friends, but I said that i wanna marry you and she accepted to think about marriage. I know she likes me and I am sure she has been madly in love with me 2 years ago. but right now I don't know because of her introverted nature. we accepted to just stay in touch so in last six months we only met once. we speaking on the phone once a week. I am leaving alone and it's getting hard for me to stay alone, i have guy friends but I need a girlfriend, sex and a relationship with her. but she seems not ready for that, I don't know why.
2007-03-15 20:53:51 · 3 answers · asked by mani_bono 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sometimes people are just better off as friends and sometimes people don't really relaize what they had until its to late.
I would say stay in touch with her so you can remain friends and who knows maybe down the road when she has grown up a bit more you two can have a relationship. Don't put your life on hold though for her. Go out and enjoy life and have fun. Maybe you think she is the one for you but really there is someone else special to fill your void.
Live life to the fullest and don't let others bring you down while you wait for them to catch up
2007-03-15 21:09:22 · answer #1 · answered by workit 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
OK you pin pointed what's "Broke" (she doesn't show emotions) and this is IMPORTANT to you, Yes?
You can't expect ppl to change so either you accept the 'Scraps' she's throwing you or you find that inner person within you to take leadership for your well being. Yes, break the addiction. Define what you want from a relationship (physical, emotional, and spiritual). After you do this exercise, you'll see that she is a 'square peg' you're trying to force into a 'circle whole'.
This doesn't make her or you bad; but simply 'not compatible'. If you decide to take the 'Sadistic Approach' by hoping then you're only setting yourself up to get burnt and heading down the road to hating all women. The only way it would work from here is if she changes and chases you. You better make the chase DIFFICULT (to get everything you want). Anything less is leading you to a path of pain.
Everyone deserves to be with someone who appreciates them and gives as much as they take. She is entitled to this and so are you. Go find yours and be happy!!!
2007-03-16 10:47:59 · answer #2 · answered by Giggly Giraffe 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
complicated situation indeed....
well first of all one way love is the worse disease in the world. the trouble with your situation is that you cant force this girl to follow a script. you have to give her, some space, to let her get over or do what ever it is that she's doing right now. maybe she really does love you but it just doesn't sound like shes ready for such a heavy commitment,... "yet"...
so just have fun for now. relationships that start out this stressful tend to spiral into more stressful relationships.
give it some time so it can work out.
2007-03-16 04:22:41 · answer #3 · answered by mrhuntern 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋