is it ok to shoulder the fare cost to visit you? for women only plss?

Question

this is a long distance relationship (bf & gf), ur financially stable and he lost his job. he asked you to shoulder his fare cost in visiting you coz he has no money, is this ok?

Answer 1

Ack... Read the question wrong.

If he asked nicely and if you know he deserves your help and he is worth your money, then go for it. But since you are having second thoughts, I doubt that he is worth your time and money. I could be wrong. Just guessing.

If you decide not to pay for his fare, politely explain yourself and tell him that you appreciate him wanting to see you but most importantly, you appreciate him being understanding to you and being respectful to you.

If he didn't do anything wrong and you miss him, why not? However, make sure you only do these kinds of things sparingly. Do not be his sugah momma because then it would be all kinds of trouble.

Answer 2

I would say NO if he really loves you he will understand instead of getting upset. The main thing that should be on his mind is finding another job. You don't want to open a door that you can not close. First its a ticket then it will be paying his rent or utilities. Be careful, if you pay for the ticket when he gets there YOU will be paying for everything because he has no MONEY!!!!! Paying for half the ticket is o.k. but footing the bill is another thing. Talk to your boyfriend about this and ask him to wait a few weeks before a visit( that will give him the chance to find a job). he's only a boyfriend, if he was your husband it would be a different story. Good luck

Answer 3

How far is he from you? How much would it cost? Do you have the money to spare? Personally, I would be hesitant on this one. Why would he want to visit you at this time? Is he wanting to look for work in your area? Is he willing to sign a contract between the two of you (get it notarized-and he and you best be over 18 for this), for him to pay you back-starting with his first paycheck? It's your call. And only if he is willing and will sign an agreement to pay you back every penny of it.

Answer 4

Why not? If i am financially stable and we are very much in love. But if I am going to be shouldering the expenses forever and ever, then that's a big problem because i dont like lazy guys. :o)

Answer 5

Guys are pretty resourceful for things that they want. I think that too many women think that they have to help a man help himself to you. Not true-they like to pursue!
Just tell him you care for him and that when he can afford to see you you will see him then if you are still available.
do this unless you want a dependent for the rest of your life or him to be spending your money on another woman because you insulted his manhood!

Answer 6

why not?
you might gain love and all you have to lose is a months wages?
make it a return ticket with 3 months gap though

Answer 7

Depends on if you ever visited her while you were working, did you ever send her gifts or cards, maybe flowers!
Don't expect her to pay your share if you've never offered to pay hers.

Answer 8

if u are already in a relationship, yeah. you would expect him to do it for you right? you want him to be there just as much as he wants to come right? i wouldnt make it a habit though. that goes for anybody.

Answer 9

uh yeah it's fine. as long as he doesn't start bumming off of you it's all good. no offense but i betcha if you were low on funds and wanted to borrow many, you wouldn't question it.

Answer 10

it is up to you. but i personally would make the person pay half. if that person wants to see you bad enough they will have no problem paying half.