One of my best friends has an issue with one of her guy friends:
They went to school together and have known eachother for about fours years. She was dating someone for three of those years (since her and the other guy met) but she has been single for the last year. She flirts relentlessly with her guy friend now, asks him questions about dating and stuff. He has admitted to her on several occasions that he likes her (only to quickly change the subject), but he never acts on it. She hints all the time that she never makes the first move, believing that a relationship isn't worth having if the other person isn't willing to persue it.
Is he an idiot and how do i get him to ask her out?
She's weird like that and won't ask him, so please don't suggest that. It's childish, but that's how she is.
2007-03-15 20:27:45 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
That's supposed to say, "Why don't guys just ask a girl out?"
I don't know how to edit it.
Sorry!
2007-03-15 20:28:35 · update #1
Take charge, Cupid!
Drag them both to a coffee shop.
Don't ask him- TELL him "you are going out with her. Right Now."
Threaten to smack their heads together if they don't both Grow Up. Sheesh !
2007-03-15 20:38:33 · answer #1 · answered by Alan 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm that kind of guy. I never ask a girl out and I never will. I can be madly in love with her but still can't do anything about it. Too much pride I suppose! It's the fear of being rejected. All the girls I've dated so far made the first move. Sometimes, I just need a little bit help from the girl showing me she's also interested. Based on my own behaviour, I would say; this guy is not able to take action without a little push from her. She should try to do with him what a guy would do with a girl, such as inviting him for birthday parties, offering him to help him with things, paying more attention to him than to other guys, creating some private moments only for him and herself etc...
Hope this will help and good luck!
2007-03-15 21:01:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why doesn't she just ask him out?
It works both ways.
I wouldn't say he's being an idiot. He understands that most women never take any risks establishing a relationship. Instead they sit back and "hint" and play mind-games while waiting to pick and choose amonst all the offers they receive. Most of the time reject the guy when he does ask.
2007-03-15 20:34:46 · answer #3 · answered by S h ä r k G û m b ò 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Cause alot of guys can feel a huge sense of pressure, especially with something direct like being rejected for some reason. It can lead to humiliation and a sense of inaddequecy.
However if the signs are that obvious then your just gonna hope he finds the stones to try and roll the hard six
2007-03-15 20:36:31 · answer #4 · answered by Michael M 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, just remember if there are two parties that aren´t willing to budge, then nobody is going to get anywhere. If he is too shy to ask her out, and she is too shy too...somethings gotta give. I was shy as a teenager and I would´ve loved for some girl to ask me out, or tell me she would let me make a move. But that is a hard thing to say (especially for a girl, growing up getting everything you want makes it harder to understand the real world). You should talk to the guy. Tell him, she WILL say yes. Give him some pointers if he asks. And definitely let him know that she is interested. If both sides are going to act to silly about a date, then maybe you can set it up for them and without their consent. Good luck.
2007-03-15 20:34:34 · answer #5 · answered by nassim420 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Since you seem to want to play matchmaker then why don't you do it......hand a note to the guy saying meet (girlfriends name) at blah blah..a pizza place or ice cream shop on Saturday the 17th at 3 pm ...then give him a note that says meet (guyfriends name) at of course the same place ,time and date..when they meet there they will try to figure it out but it may get them started...
2007-03-15 20:42:16 · answer #6 · answered by connie b 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is probably having a hard time on getting the courage to do so and on how is he going to do it without making it awkward for any of them.
Just tell him that she told you that if he does not grab her face and kiss her the next time they see each other, she will lose her faith in him. Meaning, she will stop thinking he likes her. Tell that to him even if she didn't say it. Don't tell her you're going to tell him that either. Tell them both later what you did when it all works out for them.
2007-03-15 20:36:58 · answer #7 · answered by Honesty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if they have know eachother for that long maybey the guy is worried about screwing up a friiendship
2007-03-15 20:32:04 · answer #8 · answered by hlind28 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Say..."dude, just ask her out!!!"...
2007-03-15 20:33:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋