i am a 22 year old who is really over life at the moment and really want to die?

Question

i have dont have family, i dont really have people i trust enough to talk to as they dont seem to understand just how hard life is and just how much i do really struggle with life and how hard i try to make a differencein life i am at the point where i dont feel normal i dont feel like i have a soul or a purpose for life and i self harm several times a day to try and make myself feel better but that only works for awhile i am a loss for what to do please help

Answer 1

Okay,. so tell me what benefit will you get from dying?

It is time for you to stop feeling sorry and being sad and start figuring out WHAT is bothering you. If you feel like you are not making a difference in life, decide what that means to you. Does it mean you want to volunteer and help children? The elderly? Does it mean you just want to be a hard-working, tax payer in society? You need to define your values and then goals can be made that are in alignment with your value system.

The release of endorphins when you harm yourself is what makes you feel better, so maybe you should find a similar replacement behavior that can also help release endorphins (for example - exercise/running, etc.).

I can help you more if you want - you should go on Messenger.

Take care and STOP HURTING Yourself .

Answer 2

I am sorry that you do not have family to talk to, I have a 21 year old , so this is really hard for me to answer you . All I know is that I am thinking what I could say to you that would allow you to see how valuable your life is. I would be devastated if my daughter was saying this to someone else and they did not know how to help her. So I am telling you that you can talk to your local minister,priest or there are help lines along with counselling places for this, but any time that I am on here you can im me if you need someone to talk to . I think that life is to important to take by someone else's hand or your own. Do you have anyone at your work place that you can talk to or do you work? If you feel that your life is hard , please go to a shelter or a place that feeds the homeless or even a place that has abused or sick children and help them . See how hard that other people have to struggle and maybe you can get a sense of meaning in your life. Do not give up ,
you are too young to destroy your life and if you think that you are alone , stop thinking that because even though we have not met personally, you can talk to me any time . When ever you get the feeling to hurt yourself, just think of your new found friend ONELUCKYDOG and remember that a dog is a human's best friend not just a man's as the saying goes..sometimes my pc is on all the time even though I am not and sometimes my children are on so make sure you type in my id name with a question mark on the end before you ask anything grown up

Answer 3

To kill yourself is to throw away a gift that you have not even opened yet. You are only 22 years old, your life has not really begun. There is only one thing that is permanent in life...change. You may feel that you have hit rock bottom now, but time heals all wounds and offers new beginnings. Love yourself enough to give yourself a chance. Life is hard. I have my battles, but what doesn't kill you, makes you stronger.Just please understand that though you may have tough times, you can also have times of joy and happiness too. 5, 10, 20 years from now, you will think back about the time you felt like ending it all. You have to ask yourself these questions...do you really want to destroy the chance to meet and make new friends? Do you really want to destroy the chance to fall in love and possibly have children one day? Do you want to destroy the chance to help someone who was just like you when you were 22 years old?

The best things in life are free. The warm summer sun, the cool autumn breeze. Blue skies, the smell of fresh cut grass. The innocence of a baby's laugh. The smile that says thank you on the face of someone less fortunate whom you've done a good deed for.

To commit suicide is one of the most incredibly selfish and self absorbed things a person could do. You may think the opposite, "well if I kill myself I'll be one less person to worry about." Not true at all. You are useful. We do need you. If you help others, you are valuable in one of the most important ways anyone could ever be. Holding a door open for someone or letting someone go ahead of you in a supermarket line because they only have one item, these small acts of kindness have the ripple effect. It changes a person. It's get them thinking about life again. "Maybe it isn't so bad. I was having a horrible day, but that lady held the door for me when I had my hands full and it restored my faith a little bit in mankind." Kindness travels. You have made a ripple in the entire world. If you destroy yourself, you would have destroyed the chance to accomplish these things, and to understand just how powerful you are.

Answer 4

You're trying to answer all your problems at once and you are being overwhelmed. Even though life is hard you have to remember that there are a lot of people that would probably kill to be in your position. I live in Detroit so I'm not bsing. Instead of focusing on how hard life is try to focus on what you like and build on that. Don;t worry about making a difference at this point because you have plenty of time to do that. So go out and enjoy yourself, or stay in and read, keep contributing to yahoo answers, or whatever you like to do. After you feel better about yourself then you can always try to help with organazations like United Way where you can make a difference by helping children who have had similar experiences as you have had.

Answer 5

I used to have such suicidal thoughts. Then I read in Buddhism that there is a rebirth after death. What's the use of ending my life now and I have to start all over again? Worst, I will be reborn as an animal or even in hell for killing myself. The thought of the kind of life after my death is too scary. Who say death will bring relief to your hardship. What happen if Christianity and Buddhism is correct with life after death? You will not end your suffering. Instead you will just change your location and continue to suffer.

Likely God make our mind such that only ONE thought can stay in our mind every second. You have to keep out the sucidal thoughts and keep happy thoughs (from past or future) in your mind. How?
- St John Wort : A herb to cure depression and make you feel happy. Non-additive and can be purchase off the shelf.
- Meditation : Buddhist mediation trains your mind to focus on one thought at any time. Never see a monk commit suicide, right?
- Keep a diary of any happy events so that you can look back and smile. Even patting a dog can be recorded if it makes you happy. Drawing and photos are also to be included. You can write down your unhappy events on paper and burnt it.
- A very effective exercise that I used often is to have a hearty laugh. When you are alone or when you are bathing, laugh as if you have heard a good joke. Laugh, not smile. Pretend you are laughing by opening you mouth and say "Ha, Ha Ha" with good emotion, like an actress. Laugh for 5 minutes and you will lost all your troubles.

Try it. You are only 22. I have such problem at your age. Time will heal everything. If you need anything, just click on my avartar and drop me a email.

Answer 6

18 to 22 were some of my worst years. I also felt desolate. It DOES improve. Searching for a purpose is important. We don't always have a burning paradigm shift that tells us that. In fact, most of us don't. Studies into careers show that most people change entire professions 6 times in their life time.
You should love what you do, so try some things to see what feels good. If you give it a fair chance and you don't love it, try something completely different. You'll figure that out.
Now, as to your purpose, we aren't all Mother Theresa, either, oh, well...One place a lot of people find a source of good feelings, even when they feel bad themselves, is in volunteer work. Go for helping to feed the homeless, or Habitat for Humanity, or one of many different charities. It takes you out of feeling your own feelings and teaches you how others have to live. The comparison will wake up your feelings of compassion.
Lots of us don't have a family of our own, but the people we help are our family. Sure, we don't invite them over to watch TV with us, but the world is our family. We help the ones we can reach. The psychological benefits are wonderful.

Answer 7

Ok at first we all may not find the purpose we are here for, but you will , give it time. Now for the self hard stuff, you are going to find that that is going to get worse, cause the relief it is giving you at this moment, is going to keep giveing you a shorter and shorter relief, you really need to hook up with a therapist , and work through all that baggage you have been carrying around inside of you, and get back on to the path, of getting better, and liking and respecting, and loving yourself once again. So please do not do any more self harming to yourself, and please go and seek some professional help, Life is worth liveing , even though you may not feel that way at this moment. I have been battleing my life for a long time, but i have come to realize i have come to far, and worked to hard to give up, and that is what you need to do too.

Answer 8

Why Do I Hurt Myself?
- A Diverse Profile
- “A Mechanism to Cope With Stress”
http://www.watchtower.org/e/200601a/article_01.htm

How Can I Stop Hurting Myself?
- The Value of Confiding
- The Importance of Prayer
- Helping A Self-Injuror
- When Additional Assistance Is Needed
- Two Things to Think About
http://watchtower.org/e/200602a/article_01.htm

How to Find Real Happiness
- Think of Your Spiritual Needs
- Keep your Life Simple
- Happiness and Self-Worth
- Hope--Vital to Happiness
http://www.watchtower.org/library/w/2001/3/1/article_02.htm

What Is the Purpose in Life? :
- Is There a Purpose?
- Who Can Tell Us?
- A Unique Source of Wisdom
- Christendom Has Betrayed God and the Bible
- Life Has A Grand Purpose!
- Why So Much Suffering and Injustice?
- God's Purpose Soon to Be Realized
- Live Forever oon a Paradise Earth
- If You Could Live Forever, Would You Choose To?
http://www.watchtower.org/e/pr/index.htm

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Answer 9

i hate it when ppl like u whine about how bad is life to you and how unfair our life is...do u actually think ur the only person whos not having a good life? my mother died when i was 5 and then my dad left when i was 8. then i moved in with my grandparents who dumped me in a home when i was 11. then i found out my dad had cancer and dying. All these happened to be before my 13th birthday. I had to work at the age of 14 just to pay my sch fees and and life was taking me down and i thought i wasnt gonna make it thru. But when u give up and whine and do sh*t to urself, thats when u really go down hard. ohh fuk it, i dont even think what im saying here matters to you.

Answer 10

Please, just take a moment to relax. I myself have been there, and I am there now. A little history. In 2000 I tried to kill myself becuase I thought that people didnt care for me, and that it was either Id be dead, or live life alone. After I swallowed 60 muscle relaxants, one of my friends found me on the floor. He immediatly rushed me to the hospital. When I awoke, I found the room crowded with people I thought didnt care. What I am getting at is that my mind made me believe that people didnt care, so I didnt either. Please, dont do what you are thinking of, because its not worth it. I have had a recent relapse of cancer, I am 25 and am trying to go to school at the same time amist all these problems. The one thing that keeps me from killing myself is that I know there are people out there that care for me and understand me, but I am stopping myself from letting them help me. Do what I cant do please and save yourself, find help. Let go of our pride, because there are other places out there than where you are. Beautiful places you may go one day like Italy or France with a person you care for. Always look to the future, and never get caught up in NOW too much. I truly hope this helps, and I wish for you the best. Talk to those people tomm. that you think dont understand you. I think youll find them to be very responsive to you, and show you that you are not alone.