We dated for 2 yrs. Things were good initially. In this period i was cheated on, lied and disrespected. He broke up and got back with me a couple of times. Finally I moved on with someone else. He made me break up with the new guy in my life. I did it for him . My ex wants me back and promises to treat me right and also is willing to marry me and speak to my parents. He is treating me exactly the way i wanted all this time and is keeping me really happy. Will he let me down again??? Is it just time before he reverts back to the old himself cause im available once again. Please tell me. Am i gonna end up hurting myself all over again? Is this just a dream??
2007-03-15 20:18:20 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Don't you realize he will continue to do this he is all charming and all to get you back but he see's already that he can you treat you like a doormat and you will keep taking him back.
I would have told him in the first place he had his chance with
you and he treated you like crap so get the F out of my life because I don't need an a ss like you to hurt me again.
STOP ALLOWING THIS GUY TO TREAT YOU LIKE A PUNCHING BAG DO YOU HAVE NO SELF-RESPECT. STAND UP FOR YOURSELF TELL HIM TO GET LOST.
YOU DESERVE BETTER HE IS PUTTING ON THE CHARM BECAUSE HE LIKES TO DISRESPECT AND HURT WOMEN OR ATLEAST THATS WHAT IT LOOKS LIKE?
Please do not make the mistake of marrying this person
he has cheated on you most women would have told him to go to he ll and never to speak to them again sorry to be blunt but really are you a moron?
God Bless and I hope you tell this guy to leave so you can find that guy who will treat you right from the beginning!
2007-03-15 20:33:03 · answer #1 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Some quick questions for you...
How much do you respect yourself?
Would you warn your best (female) friend to stay away from a guy that treated her like he has treated you?
Beyond that, it sounds like he is someone who is manipulative...he's made promises and broken them before, do you really think he's changed?
Even worse...he sounds controlling. What do you mean he "...made you break up with the new guy..."?
I could be wrong but I don't think that he really cares anything about you...it sounds like he only cares about what he can get from you, or get you to do for him.
As far as if you are going to end up hurting yourself again...I think you already have or you wouldn't be feeling this level of concern and anxiety over this.
If what he is offering you is what you are looking for (which I'd doubt) believe in the fairy tale dream...after all they come true in movies and Disneyland...even if not in reality.
Otherwise, I get the feeling you respect yourself too much to allow someone to treat you the way he has...and you've probably already decided what you want to do...you're just waiting for someone else to say it is okay.
2007-03-16 03:40:09 · answer #2 · answered by ATS 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are definitely going to get hurt again. If there is one absolute true fact about relationships, it's this: Once a cheater, always a cheater. That is all you need to know. You have to remember that guys are wired differently than chicks. Because he cheated on you, he betrayed your trust. Trust is most important. Ask yourself this..."Do I really want to be with him because I love him, or is it because I don't like being alone"? Some advice honey...nobody wants to be alone. The ultimate strive is to find someone you love who loves you back to be with forever. Dude cheated on you, that's not love. Your better than that right? So go do better...Peace
2007-03-16 04:15:20 · answer #3 · answered by Donnie Darko 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Write out a promise list and make sure he signs on it. Get the parents to witness this too.
Seriously, I think you got to know it yourself. If you don't feel that you can trust him again, then let it go. Let him know you are not interested and that is it. You will feel better this way.
2007-03-16 03:23:00 · answer #4 · answered by Ashley 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why is it that a woman with a perfect man will leave them, but someone that is real crap will stick like glue, Is this some sort of brain defieciency?? Get away from the dude dummy. Whatever you think he is, oviously he's not.
2007-03-16 03:22:46 · answer #5 · answered by shadycaliber 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
History usually repeats itself...he will do and tell you anything to get you back...then do the same things again. Move on
2007-03-16 03:21:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, this guy will break your heart over, and over, and over and he just doesn't care to the point of breaking up with you before.
It's like asking: I got burnt when I touched the fire, should I touch it again?
No honey, NO NO NO NO.
2007-03-16 03:24:31 · answer #7 · answered by peachy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only time will tell, nobody can predict the future...Chances are, he will eventually go back to his REAL self...
2007-03-16 03:25:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats wat we call the honeymoon period honey
beats u and illtreats u then say he's sorry the back again
2007-03-16 03:41:10 · answer #9 · answered by antish_r 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋