I have been pursuing a lady for a while. She hasn't wanted to know until just recently and we've been having some very flirtatious and sometimes suggestive chat over IM.
But now I'm thinking if she's involved with someone else and is being like this with me now, is she trustworthy (not that she's actually done anything with me)? Or is she simply looking to move on now to better things?
2007-03-15 20:00:28 · 22 answers · asked by James M 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The mere fact that you pursue her knowing that even if you ever got near her you would be,in her eyes,second best is a major turn off for any woman.I cant put it any clearer than when she told you "I live for him and he for me".Is your life that empty and unfulfilled that you have to spend your days chasing imposible things ?
you live in a very sad fantasy world James.If you have proof send it,if not **** off back under your rock,theres a good little weirdo.You are coming across as a sad stalker.For your own sake,bin the dirty mac and get some self respect.
PS your also too old for her !
2007-03-17 08:59:19 · answer #1 · answered by Nick C 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Beware of unknown people on the chat sites....trust me they are not always who they proclaim to be.
You are right it sounds like possibly she was involved in a previous relationship and now she is moving on. If that is the case do you want to risk it happening to you down the road?
Rule of thumb, trust your instincts, they are usually right.
Does she live close by you to where you could arrange a public meeting?
I don't know it just sorta sounds a tad suspicious to me, make sure what she is feeding you is the truth, some internet connections work out, some are total disasters.. when you say for awhile, what time frame are you referring a few weeks, months what? If all of a sudden for no apparent reason she has suddenly expressed interest I really would be leary.
Take care and may it work out as you wish
2007-03-16 03:10:31 · answer #2 · answered by TheatreFan 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think I found what you are suffering from. Fantasist pyschosis. There is a treatment for it of course.... and they should be able to have you almost back to normal in a year or two.
What more can I add that hasn't been said above me....other than the man above me on here is really all I want and need. And I'm sorry if you can't accept that, but it's called reality, something that you don't have any kind of grip on.
I will say he was wrong on one thing, you wouldn't be 2nd best, James, or 3rd or 4th, or 5th or 6th..... are you following?
I would turn to animals and soft fruit before I ever turned to you.
PS: And you really are too old for me!
2007-03-18 14:27:59 · answer #3 · answered by Hobnobs 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Hi there James M, She should not be flirtatious with you while she is still with someone else. If she is not happy in her relationship, and she is looking for new love, she should already have broken off her existing relationship first.
In my opinion, if she can act like this with you now, who's to say that she will not do the same to you.
Look for a love who will be loyal to you!
2007-03-16 03:14:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you know she is with someone else how can you trust her not to be acting like this with someone else if you hook-up with her?
It sounds to me like she is just lost and has NO idea what she wants out of life?
I myself if I were in this predicament would tell her that you
need to know if she is involved with someone and if she is you do not feel comfortable communicating with her anymore.
That if she is involved then she should not be acting this way with a stranger.
2007-03-16 03:06:14 · answer #5 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i think if this woman has told you she's with someone and she's flirting with you online..then trust doesn't really come into it..sounds like she's just wanting some fun..and is not looking for anything with you,why waste your time on someone that is attached when there are plenty of single females out there..go on a dating site and find someone available and have fun..good luck
2007-03-16 03:06:57 · answer #6 · answered by ♥cozicat♥ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe when she first started talking with you she was seeing someone but now she isn't ,or maybe she was being cautious till she got to know you better, this is the Internet you know trust takes time to build and it works both ways, she may of thought you were flirtatious with everyone and didn't. trust you to start with
2007-03-16 03:20:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
did you know this lady personally or just through IM??as if you only know her through IM and only talk to her through then don't trust her that much as if she can flirt with you through IM she can do it too with others but infairness to her if your the one who insisted those flirty conversation then you shouldnt have to mind with it she might want you to just enjoy the conversation and all that... but if you want to be sure why not talk to her and have this flirty and sometimes suggestive chat into a relationship....
2007-03-16 03:10:19 · answer #8 · answered by Selfie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think she's just flirting with you and enjoying the attention. However things can't be too rosy with her other bloke if she feels the need for attention from you. Good luck.
2007-03-16 03:56:49 · answer #9 · answered by shady lady 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
hey stranger! well if shes involved with someone - and is in contact with you - then you have no guarantees she wont be that way withyou if you two get together..
However she could be looking toward bigger and better things too - I think you either take a gamble and be prepared for the worse case scenario... or you just trust your guy instinct and leave it go.
xx
2007-03-16 07:37:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋