Do you guys hate or love your parents?and how?and please state your original country that you are from.?

Question

as a chinese i hate my parents i believe like most chinese do.

ok,let me be more specific .when i was a child my parents always work outside and i cook for my little bro and sis as i remember since i was 7.like most chinese parents ,they punished me physically without minding my feeling.and my mom she 's like acting unreasonal,when i accidentally hurt her,she would fight back,and that confused me that " does my mom really love me?"untill couple years ago i found out she loves me,but i still hate her that she's a control freak that you have to do what she tells you too.seems like she's got all the rights.plus we got no common interests,she only knows money.and for me that sucks.my father's the same otherwise they wouldn't marry together.

the country thing i wanna know about is like a survey to knowing the parents beings between different country and cultures.thanks guys.

someone would convince me saying you are already better off than many people.i know but it's just like someone actually slapping your face and you just can't think of others pain-suffing.

Answer 1

Don't hate them, just never see them. Really, never. ENGLAND

Answer 2

Love. I am from England. In my opinion, if you don't love your parents, you will find it difficult to love other people.

PS I always thought Chinese people have utmost respect for their elder relatives. Maybe that is different?

PS Sorry to hear you've had such a difficult time. Remember that your parents may have been going through difficulties themselves as you were growing up (work, financial etc). Things that you would not have been able to understand as a child. By the way, I'm not saying this is any kind of excuse. Just a thought as to why you might feel the way you do. Maybe if you have children of your own, you will understand this better? However, I think any kind physical punishment is definitely not a good idea, better to sit down and talk it over.

Answer 3

I love my parents I think they are wonderful.. They live in the West Indies now and I live in the Uk and I love speaking to them as they are hilaious. When I go and visit them I never want to leave. When I was growing up my parents were very stern but thats because they wanted me to do well in life and reach my full potential. I cant ever understand why someone would hate their parents...and the information you have provided does not show any reason for you to hate them. And Im sure your comment abour most chinese people hating
their parents is far from true.

Also I got punished and smacked as a child but looking back on it I deserved it. They did not abuse you did they? I know in the West Indies kids are punished 10 times worse than how you are describing your punishements. How old are you?

Answer 4

I'm from Singapore and I'm Chinese. When I was young, i don't really have any opinions about them. They were just any regular folks. But now, I'm a parent myself, I tend to dislike certain ways that they handle their problems, stuff etc. Because I know things can be so much better when we were young.
You are lucky that you are not in the hands of parents that like to neglect or abuse their children or put into foster home that abuses the children who are under their care.
Parents are after all, just human. And human have lots of different kinds of characteristics. They were young once, making the same mistakes that you may be making right now. And they cannot just stand aside and see you step right into the hole and not saying anything, right?? Try to see things from their point of view... Respect and be respected... "Hot heads and cold hearts never solve anything" - Billy Graham

Answer 5

Love my parents and i don't really see enough of them--they retired to one end of the country, i live the other end...in January just gone--i met my dad for the first time in 30 years, my mum after 12--it was the occasion of their golden wedding anniversary--and a complete surprise to them when we all turned up--and i met my middle sister also after 30 years whilst there too. My sisters, brother and i would not be here now if it wasn't for the love my parents had--(HAVE!)--for each other--and if it wasn't for my dad sticking to his education, and getting a real good job, i doubt any of us would have visited the most gorgeous and exotic place's all over the world--including the far east. I miss them a great deal, even though we are all on the same island, Britain.

Answer 6

I live in the UK and I adore my mother. We talk about anything and everything, we are very close, and that's how it should be. I find it very strange that you, being Chinese, have that attitude, simply because I thought that China is where Buddhism is mostly practised. Buddhism being all about having respect for everything/life etc, and living a good life, treating people well, etc, and I always thought the Chinese were very family orientated ?

Answer 7

what a strange question? i'm from scotland..don't know why you want to know where were from,love and hate is the same in all cultures..but anyway i love my parents with all my heart,when i was young i done the whole rebellious thing and my friends were my "family"but needless to say i've grown up and untill i have children my parents are my number1..are you a teenager? you know addolescence is a very harsh thing,you may think your parents are "ruining"your life but they genuinely are just protecting you,i believe deep down there most definately is love in there for them and you will realise that hopefully soon rather than later..take care

Answer 8

Allow me to correct you; not all Chinese kids hate their parents. It's part of growing up and across all countries, religion and races.
I don't hate my parents. Without them I won't be here today. There will always be differences in opinion. Whatever you disagree with them, they are entitled to their opinion. The final action would still be your call and you will have to take ownership. Nevertheless, they still deserve your respect. You will eventually be a parent too!

Answer 9

I absolutely love my parents. They generously provided all my needs and set me on the right path through life. In fact, I believe that the bond between parents and children is the purest form of love that humans are capable of. I'm from the United States of America.

Answer 10

i love my parents mums know dead but their are time when i dont like them im from the uk and i to was punished by smacks for naughty thing i did and i did lots but i didnt do me any harm when my parents grew old dad is 92 mum died in january aged 82 i spent the last 10years or so helping them with anything that needed doing now its cooking dad a hot meal each day and his laundry he lives a 20 minuet drive each way away from me, i feel we learn to accept that our parents may not have always done the right thing for us but they did try their best for us and we are all humans and prone to making mistakes be gratfull your parents you do not know the full circumstances of your upbring from your parents point of view maybe it was the way it was so that you had food to eat life has got easier anyway dont end up bitter about it...

Answer 11

i dont actually hate my parents.i love both my father and my mother.i'm a malay girl from malaysia,btw.

my relationship with my father is very good,in fact,it is way better that my relationship with my mother.my mom and i often not to see eye-to-eye when it comes to various matters.just name it;be it music,interests,tv shows,boys and even cloth,we have different views to everything where it always end up creating conflicts.there was a stage where i thought my parents hate me because they always say no to my opinions.later,i realized that they were just trying to protect me.now that i am older i am thankful as all the restrictions made me wiser.

i have to admit that even though i love my mother,i didnt show it directly.she is a loud person;if she found me irritating,then i will find myself at risk being yelled in front of the public.i found this annoying,so because i dont want to talk bad or hate her,i avoid spending too much time in public with her.so when it happens,she try not to yell anymore as she try to cherish the times we could spend together.haha.

she might be annoying,but i still owe her for giving birth of me,giving me a chance to breathe,grow up,be what i am today and so on.she went through all the hardship raising me up.i know its hard to raise a stubborn girl like me but she pulled it trough.somehow,i respected her.shes my mother after all.i dont want to regret losing my parents after theyre gone.

help them whenever they need our help..try not to annoy them so much..be patient..and always remember they really work hard for u to live.=p