I have a friend who is disabled and living on a fixed income..Her grown children go and drop off the babies at grandmas and never offer to pay her or buy her aloaf of bread.When she told them that she needed help with money they got angry.They said Grandmothers werent supposed to charge.They were really teed off.She tried to explain that she didnt mind watching them and she loved them but that she needed a little help.. she told them that they dont have to worry about their kids being abused or ever being hungry wet of neglected.I have seen that those babies prefer the grandma over the parents.They cry when they leave her.My question is this why do kids think its ok to take advantage of a grandparent.Especially that of one with limited income.?Dont you think the right thing to do is pay the grandma.Even if its only to keep peace of mind..Is it wrong for a grandmother to charge family?
2007-03-15 19:55:49 · 5 answers · asked by Angelbaby 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Pity things have come to such a pass,her children should have realised how lucky they are to have their own mother babysit,seeing the advantage to them in this arrangement they should have been the first to offer or ask in what way they could help,it doesn't take a sleuth to look around & see what needs doing around her house.It could not have been easy for her to ask,but now that they know her needs,they should most willingly help out,this is no favour to the mother I think she has a right.
2007-03-15 22:09:35 · answer #1 · answered by dee k 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My sister has taken advantage of my mom on countless occasions when it came to babysitting. My sister had the same line of reasoning as your friend's children, ie, why should you pay relatives especially grandmothers to watch her own grandchildren. Grandmothers are worth more than the price of a babysitter. Even if your friend wasn't babysitting, her own grown up children should be taking care of her esp. if she is disabled. They should be offering to pay an electric bill or the rent or bring a bag of groceries. I hope your friend will use a little tough love and say no to the babysitting occasionally. It's the only way to teach them and then maybe the grown up children will know what an invaluable service she has been providing.
2007-03-16 02:13:11 · answer #2 · answered by Paddington 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shame on her kids. Where would you ever get a better babysitter then grandma that loves those children like her own. Its priceless, she is worth her weight in gold. She apparently raised some very inconsiderate selfish kids. I would have been so happy to have my mother help me take care of my kids.....having the peace of mind that would have come with that...I would have gladly paid. Knowing the grandmother's circumstances, I would have tryed to help her out financially without babysitting my kids. My thoughts would have been "geez, that's my mom and she needs help."
2007-03-15 20:13:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
She isn't charging them, she just asked for help. After all she's helping by watching the kids. There isn't any rule that Grandma is a free babysitter. One hand washes the other so to speak. Other wise Grandma should be busy a time or two.
2007-03-15 20:03:15 · answer #4 · answered by Granny 1 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is the right thing to pay the grandma, she is OLD for goodness sake! First she had to care for HER children, and now, her own children ask HER to care for their offspring! Give some love and $$$ to Grandma, it is not as if SHE asks YOU to dump your children there! You did it! Pay for it, and don't BS about families don't charge. They have every single reason to, as this is their precious time, skills, effort and energy you are using! Have some sense peopleï¼
2007-03-15 20:31:29 · answer #5 · answered by joulsey 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋