how do i start loving myself and enjoy being single?

Question

i just got out of a relationship that left me really heart broken. i want to learn how to love myself and focus on myself. but it's difficult at this moment because i am still hurting over the guy that dumped me. i want to start being happy about being single. i would like to be independent and happy by myself and not need a man.

Answer 1

Seriously you will get over him! Time heals! I was ENGAGED to a guy for 2 years when he dumped me because he met someone else. Now, two years later I am HAPPY because I didn't end up with him! Everything happens for a reason. And how do you start loving yourself? Start by going to church regularly, and by buying products that'll make you feel more attractive. Buy some face products, like face masks, and nice body wash lotion, like Oil of Olay, and then whenever you work on making yourself pretty you'll feel pretty. This weekend go get a mani and pedi and seriously you will be happy. And when you think about him and get sad, think to yourself "why am I going to get puffy eyes for a guy who doesn't care about me?" Live your life to the fullest NOW and smile a lot even if you don't feel like because you don't know who might be falling for your smile and that might be a better future boyfriend...

Answer 2

In all honesty, the only person who can make you independent or happy is you.

One thing I noted from your question however was your comment of “…and not need a man.”

Ask yourself the following question…but give yourself some time to come to an answer.

Since when did I ever NEED a man?

Often we all tend to confuse the ideas of “need” and “want”. Admittedly, they are similar words…but the meanings are a bit different.

Need is something you practically must have or require.
Want is something you would really like to have.
(See source links for more accurate definitions…)

While I myself am a bit of the pessimist, I do understand and appreciate the power of positive thinking, and I think you might have this a bit backwards for yourself.

Try to start considering that you NEED to love and focus on yourself, and tell yourself why it is so important for you to do so.

After some time, it will become easier to do…and perhaps after that, you may find you might WANT a man in your life…even if you don’t NEED him.

Answer 3

You need to find something that you are interested in first that only takes you to do. Go get a pedicure or a manicure or even your hair done to make you feel good also. Being alone is not that bad. You do not have to inform someone else all the time about what you are going to do. Spend time with friends or family. The hurt will eventualy deminish the more energy you put on doing what you want to do. It is ok to cry some nights just to release frustaration. Take time to figure out who you are and what you want out of life. You will soon become more comfortable with yourself and then you can look for someone to fall in love with knowing what you want and who you are to contribute to the relationship.

Answer 4

Think of some things that are a benefit of being single and then give yourself something to look forward to. Me, I like to flirt with guys so that would be a benefit of being single. Girls night out whenever you feel like it, pursuing something you couldn't before or having more time to do things you wanted to do. Give yourself manicures and pampering, take long hot baths. Stuff like that. You can do projects around the house, redecorate, change the color of the walls, reaarange the furniture. Make stuff, like pillows to match the couches. You are basically free to do whatever you want. You could even take a class at the local college in something you've always been interested in or wanted to try.

Answer 5

HI....i think i can give you some ideas here,bcoz i too face this problem recently.........
try to forget the past and always think that whatever was happen to you is good,do you know why?this is the time you can feel the person real character.its will be a lesson for you... you don't loose anything.get back to your own world....
do what ever you like.do yoga,singing,try focus your mind the things make you grow in future......learn new things,so your mind will divert the concentration to the new things......by doing this you wont feel the hurt,but you will be more confident to meet new qualified people.

Good luck

Answer 6

You probably need a man; just not that one. It wasn't meant to be. There is someone out there that is far better than this guy. You will find someone else when you least expect it if you take things as they come. Don't force things. Keep busy helping others and things will work out for you. You can bet on it.

Answer 7

First get that thought out of your mind bout 'not needing a man', we all need sombody sometimes in some way. You might think this is crazy but get busy doing something new. Don't idle. Heck get into MMO like EQII or something meet new friends online. I love all my gaming freinds because we share our life without burden due to a simply computer. My bud sent me emails like crazy because he didn't see my toon online. concern person. Different strokes for different folks but don't idle and stop playing sad music.

Dis my music list for you
1. rock box
2. planet rock
3. pack jam......think thats right.
4. everything soul sonic force. lol
5. KRS One
6. Public Enemy....Power Music tough up cry later when you can handle crying.
Dis foe real-power music, power music gal and denn buy you copy of EQII join me and my buddies on Vox server and I promise you never wanted normal life again. hehe

Answer 8

I've met several man who feel the same way toward women. However, I think the adice would be more-or-less the same. Just restrain you desire for intercourse and focus on the activities you love. It may sound overly simplistic, but that's basically all there is to do.

Answer 9

dear! we are not in life just because of someone else. you can enjoy your life personaly, besides you can have good friends(specially those who think of life positively) and spend a part of your time with them.dont never, never, never forget excercising it really helps you to enjoy more in life. if you dont have a good work choose one, it really helps you to think of yourself as a useful person. I recommend some extera activities (cooking, painting... ) that you like, it will make your life more fun and meaningful.
at last I belive that if you werent successful in one relationship dont be dissapoined, maybe GOD will show you the right ways to choose the best but you must decied with your heart and mind...
good luck, and have fun.

Answer 10

i think being single is tough i too got out of a relationship i m a boy well i fell everyone must have a friend whose is good and wise
if u wanna be single make ur self close to god which is very good and let ur life be in the sevice of lord and mankind