please help me with this problem.?

Question

I'm asking for a friend. She didn't want to post it, I'm posting it for her. here it is.....
would you say I'm in love? I think about this same guy almost 24/7 a day. he was my Dr only once a week for over a year and through out that whole year I've been in total love he was always on my mind. My chemistry is high, I know he felt it, I felt that he felt the same way about me, but the only big problem is.....is that he's single and I'm not and have children. I still talk to him over the Internet but I would never tell him how I felt cause I'm sure he felt it.. he hasn't been my doctor now for a couple of months now and I'm a mess, I feel total love sick. what should I do? and I don't get along to good with my husband ,but i would never cheat I don't think. And I don't even think my ex Doc would go for that.
what do you think my friend should do?

P.S. she is really pretty, doesn't look like a mother she looks so good he seems to feel the same way.

I just wanted to mention that she didn't fall in love on purpose it just boom out of nowhere and she's a Dr also. But was his patient.

Answer 1

Well, I'm afraid that the heart is something you can't really help, but if you've kids AND a husband, I'd say you need to strengthem bonds with your family first. It's a really difficult situation, that it is. GOod luck. It won't end up good no matter what, and it'll get worse the longer you wait. Make some strategies, follow through, and get things settled. Loving someone falsely is the worst possible thing to do, even if you've promised your life with them through marriage.

Answer 2

It is obvious your friend was seeing this person for emotional issuse. It is completly natural to feel a connection with someone who you are personal with. Fantasizing about the Doc is not doing no one harm unless you are taking it into reality. If you want something more with him then you need to handle your situation at hand first. Also, you need to beat around the bush with the Doc and see if he even feels remotely the same way you do. Just because he noticed you had a major crush on him does not mean he feels the same. I would keep it all secret and fantasize about him. That way no one gets hurt including yourself just incase he is not interested.

Answer 3

I don't think that i can give you a good suggestion but i rather ask this to you. Do you really like him? What about your kids and your husband? What if one day your husband will know about this? What will you do? You entered a life commitment that there's no turning back.. If you really love your husband, why did you let this happened? Come to think of it, do you still want to continue about this then what about the future of your kids? Is he really like you? Make sure about this... Because i guest that you don't like a broken family... What if he dumps you later? your making a trouble to your family..

Answer 4

You are cheating its called emotional cheating and it can be more hurtful that an actual sexual affair.You are in a horrible spot and you have a huge decision to make" will I go or will I stay."
you have got to do one of two things.(1)Stop talking to the other man and try to mend your marriage,(2)End the marriage and do what makes you happy.I know that you have children but they can sense if your not happy.You want your children to see you madly in love and happy because your marriage/relationship is their example of how it should be.They'll be happy if you're happy.

Answer 5

thats simple,, telll this person freind, to take to bare aspirin and call me in the morning,, and to read more readers digest,, because she choose her first hubby and hes who counts,,, not a dream doctor who makes your clit more moist,... as we say finders keepers loosers weepers,,
TAKE 2 ASPRIN A DAY THEN CALL THE DOCTOR
AT LEAST YOU BOTH HAVE EACH OTHER IM TOTALLY ALONE IN THE WORLD AND TRYING TO LEAVE FOR A NEW ZONE,,, TODAYS WOMEN ARE SO CREWL TO US MALES