Is there anything wrong with loving your Dad more than your Mom?

Question

Would you think it'd be okay for a teenage girl who just started PMS to love her Father more than her Mother?
Nothing like sex wise, but more like "family bonding"...
I don't realy like my mom very much because she demands people to respect her...And I think repsect needs to be earned. I have resepct for my Dad, yet more of a fake "I'l go with it..." respect for my Mom, therefor, I like my Dad more than my Mom...They just moved back in with each other and I have a closer relationship with my Dad more than my Mom...
Would you think this is right? I mean, I don't realy think of a person who demands things like that shouldn't get very much respect, and my Dad expects for a person to earn respect, trust, and love, not to demand it, and I agree with him...

Is it anything wrong to love my Dad more than my Mom?

Answer 1

There's absolutely nothing wrong; I've always gotten on better with my dad (probably since infancy even!) and this difference (between my relationship with him compared to my mom) became even more noticeable when I was around your age.
I understand your viewpoint and think it's totally reasonable.
I wouldn't worry about it; just try not to make it obvious--you don't want to upset your mom any more than necessary (believe me, I speak from experience :-)

Answer 2

heck yes its okay...................its natural...............i suspect you are at the age where you and mom are going through a rough time. it is difficult for two females to live under one roof, especially when one is testing the limits as i am sure you are, after all you are a teenager.
if you were a boy you would be asking us if it is okay to love your mom more than your dad. mothers/daughters or fathers/sons are like oil and water, they don't always mix very well. my neighbor and his sons are always squabbling, while my other neighbor and her daughter go at it tooth and nail! boy the arguments out of both houses is pretty intense at times.
our statement 'one has to earn respect' - i kinda think you are wrong there. one deserves respect from others until one does something that destroys that respect. your mom has raised you, perhaps not always given you everything, or given you your way every time, but it is tough being a parent. it is especially tough being a mom; dads are always the ones that are: the most fun, the coolest, the most reasonable, the most easygoing. they are the ones that say 'ok.....but don't tell mom'. whereas moms are generally the disciplinarian, the one who doles out chores, who makes sure your homework is done, the one who is 'never any fun'. as for your question - its okay - we all go through phases where we think we love one parent more than the other, personally i think it is more
'we like' one more than the other, and its way easier to like the fun one.....usually the dad! mom is boring, always telling us what to do and how to do it, and dad is the one winking at you when she isn't looking and making jokes and generally being the good guy.
mothers and fathers show their children love in different ways and dads almost always get to be the ones dishing out the fun! so it is natural that you feel closer to him right now, but trust me when i say in the next few years you will come to realize your mother can be a very close friend.
it sounds as though your parents have been through some marital discord, so that on top of everything else makes life tough.
you say your dad expects a person to earn respect, trust, and love and not demand it.....whatever went on between your parents, is between them, not you and your dad or you and your mom, just between them. hopefully your father isn't talking to you about your mother when he made that statement. he shouldn't be involving you in his arguments with her and you shouldn't be taking sides in this issue. this is their problem, and yes kids get stuck in the middle but dont judge either of them.
i believe your mother deserves respect for raising you if for nothing else. give her a break, and dont throw her love and friendship away just yet......... try to have patience with her, and respect her and help her as much as you can. if you try harder she will too.
good luck with it and hang in there, it will all work out!

Answer 3

i too love my dad more and pretty much for the same reason my mom demands respect but doesnt give it...and i believe its a 2 way street, she said to me once that i wasnt her daughter anymore and pretty much disowned me...my dad has always been the better parent..when i get married my mother is not coming, and i dont see her as my mother, shes just another person in the same house as me...she never has and never will be anything more than that to me..through my whole life...
i dont think its wrong at all...i think you have every right.

Answer 4

wow...okay, to answer your last question first: NO, there is nothing wrong with feeling more loving toward your dad than toward your mom. especially for your age and stage of maturation, this is absolutely normal and not unusual. and on top of that, you have been struggling with your parents being separated and have been pulled both ways between them. often when that happens, we kind of choose sides with one parent or the other and that causes unnecessary confusion and hard feelings. don't get sucked into their problems, that's unfair for all three of you.

loving and liking are two very different things. you can love people you don't like, and you can like people you don't love. think your feelings through; they're more like clues than written directions. remember love is an action verb, not a passive noun.

don't use your feelings as a weapon against your mom, and don't withhold affection as revenge for her shortcomings. nobody on this earth is perfect-and they crucified the last one that was. it sounds like your parents are working hard on their marriage, and marriage takes two determined and committed people to survive.

Answer 5

I think that you are using love in the wrong way here. I dont think that you love your dad more but you are closer to him and have a better relationship with him. there is nothing wrong with it. I have a much better relationship with my dad than i do with my mom.

Answer 6

I think if everyone is honest with their selves, we all favor one parent over the other. I favored my dad over my mother, but that didn't mean I didn't love my mother, also.
I think its the personality of each that makes you favor one over the other. I always tried hard not to let it show because I didn't want to hurt my mom. I suspect they know, though.
But, in answer to your question, no its not wrong, we cannot help what we feel.

Answer 7

I loved my Mom(she died 2 weeks before I turned 16), but we feared her more than loved her. I respected her more for what she did with her life(she went to college, got the masters degree etc) more than what she did with ours as children.
My Father has earned my respect, he walks on water as far as I am concerned, because he showed us love. He dealt with her and LOVED HER no matter what she couldn't give. Showed her love and respect no matter how hard she resisted it. When she died, he carried that through to us. Taught us it was important to show love and affection to your family, and that it was okay to do so.
SOmetimes one parent makes up for the others shortcomings.
My Father has earned my respect to this day because of this.

Answer 8

I think it's pretty normal. I've always favored my mom over my dad. I mean, sure they're your parents, but they're also just people, and we always like some people more than others (and some not at all).

Answer 9

Most girls are closer to their Dad then there Mom and Boys are closer to their Moms

Answer 10

I think it's perfectly normal. Your mom and dad are separate people, and they have separate personalities and do different things, so why shouldn't you feel differently towards each of them?