Is 16 too young to think about settling down with someone alot older?

Question

My bf is 26 and I'm 16 is that too young to think about settling down?

Answer 1

Not too young to think about it. But too young to have a family and raise a child. Be CAREFUL in the bedroom if you have to go there at all.

Wait until you're 18. If he loves you he'll wait. If he's after a young 16 year old he can dominate mentally and (hopefully NOT) physically... he'll be gone.

Answer 2

whoa whoa whoa. first of all that could be way illegal. secondly, if you were about 22 or 23 i would say that age doesnt matter. But you are way too young to be with someone that old. Either he is looking for something that you dont want to be part of or he is just a total freakish loser. Either way you need to stay away from him. You are 16 so even if he was 16 or 17 i would say no do not settle down with him because you are young and you have alot of life to live. And if you do settle down with this guy, in a couple of years when you are 18 or 19 you are gonna look at your life and realize that you missed out on so much by not being with people your own age. Dont do this.

Answer 3

First of all, marrying at the age of 16 is not preferable for u.

The majority of the states allow for marriage at age 16 with parental consent. I think there should be a national age, though. With some laws it's good to have them different in different states, like driving laws for example. The driving ages in some midwestern states are younger since many teens drive tractors on their farms and whatnot. But with marriage, it would just be easier if there were national regulations.

With the laws the way they are now, a 12 yr old who wants to get married just has to take a trip to Mass. and can get married as long as they have parental consent. Every state should just be the same.

Having a marriage age under 18 causes problems with statutory rape laws. There was an article a while ago in People magazine in which a 14 year old girl was married to a 22 year old male. The girl got pregnant and had a baby. If the girl wanted, she could have charged her husband with rape since she's a minor. If the marriage age was 18 nationally, then this could never happen.

My health teacher told us about an incident in a midwestern state (I can't remember which) in which a 16 year old married a 19 year old. She got pregnant and had the baby and they were living like a normal family. Then a family member who didn't approve of the marriage told some local authorities that the 19 year old raped the 16 year old. During the trial, even though the 16 year old said the sex was consentual, the 19 year old was charged with statutatory rape and sentenced to 5 years in prison. Now the 16 year old and her baby have to live without the father even though he isn't really a criminal or anything. If there had been a law not allowing the marriage until both parties were 18, then this case never would have even come up.

Some people think 18 is too old of a marriage age, but why? If a couple is that dedicated, can't they just wait out the few years until they can legally marry? If they can't then the relationship was obviously never as strong as they had thought.

Also, the divorce rates of young marriages are astounding. Getting married before age 25 increases your chance of divorce by 50%. If you get married to someone with at least some college education, your chances of divorce decrease by 30%.

I think if you love someone you can wait till you get older to marry someone. I see it this way, if they wont wait to marry you, then they arent willing to wait for you and you dont need that. get rid of them, they are not what you need.

So i think it is very important to think about marriage before you just run off and get married.

Answer 4

If you don't get married until you are thirty you will still be married for about 50 years. You have plenty of time to be an old married lady and then you can do interesting things with this early part of your life. You don't know how to live successfully on your own yes. You don't have an education, you've not traveled and seen the world. You should spend the winter in school and the summer with a back pack on and be riding the trains through the UK. Hostel living is so cheap you don't have to have much money at all. Be a footloose fancy free girl and then think about getting married when there is nothing else to do. Good Luck and God Bless

Answer 5

Yeah... way too young.

You will change a lot between 16 and 18, even more between 18 and 21... and a whole lot more between 21 and 25.

Don't look at yourself. No matter how great you are, how mature you are, etc. Look at it as an outsider. Then ask yourself, "Why does a 26 year old man have an interest in a 16 year old girl?"

It's not normal. He is able to impress you where he couldn't a 25 year old.

At that age I had twin 7 year old daughters. He probably has (or should) friends in the same situation. He would be talking to his friends about their kids are doing in second grade.

At that age, I couldn't imagine talking to my friend about his girlfriend and how she was doing in high school. He would be telling me about how his girlfriend was struggling to find a job with her two college degrees.

You two are in a different world. He knows it, you don't.

Sorry sweetie, but you got a lot of life to live and I guarantee you that he isn't one you will be interested in when you are 25.

Now if he was 45 years old and you were 35 years old, you "might" have more in common... just might.

Let me also say that girls your age are most easily impressed by older men. IOW, you are at that age where it is very flattering. Just give yourself a couple of years... just two and you won't be that flattered.

Answer 6

WOW, to answer your question bluntly, YES!!! Look, I've been where you are, you think your in love, and no one could ever compare to this PERFECT person. If you hear anything in this response, listen to this...You are 16 years old, you are still young in comparison to the world, and him. If you don't want to be hurt, and run a risk at hurting him in the process, then give it some time. Finish school and go off to collage first, experience life, experience different people, different cultures. It's ok to date, ok to go as far as your comfortable with with someone, but getting too serious before you actually get a chance to experience life, it can be a HORRIBLE mistake. If he loves you, he can wait until your ready to commit when you've learned what love REALLY is. And if you love him,waiting until you have seen what's out there, will only make your relationship THAT much better. Give it time, all you have to lose is the pain you would experience if you wouldn't have waited. Hope that helps, good luck!!!

Answer 7

Yes, you have all the time in the world why rush. If you want to have a releationship that young I guess so be it. Personally I think a 26 year old has no business dating someone so young but I can't control that. If you are with him I say what is the rush, if you talking of marriage. Just take your time.

Answer 8

Yes it is for you.I know right now you probably feel like you are really in love and this is the one you want to be with, believe me at 16 i thought my then b/f and i would be together 4 evr...im sure alot of people do.
I wish you luck in this, and hope you can find someone you trust that you can discuss the situation with. I hope you are still in school if you havent graduated yet and if so maybe you can speak with a teacher ot counselor if you are not comfortable talking to a family member..

Answer 9

How long have you been with him? If you have been with him in a long term relationship I don't see any reason not to as long as you are absolutely sure about this. Age is just a number. Just remember to think about what you are doing. What are your plans for the future? Do you want to go to college? Do you want to go out and experience the world before making a commitment? What will happen if things don't work out between you two? How will you make money? Will you still be happy with the life choices you have made? These are some things to consider. Wish you well, whatever your decision may be.

Answer 10

What exactly do you mean by 'settling down'?

Moving in together?
Marriage?
Having kids?
Never leaving the house?

Haha- sorry, but the phrase 'settling down' sounds really dull. I'm married but I wouldn't say I'm in that category.

But 16 is very young. Enjoy being unmarried and not living together for a while longer, hey.