Okay... I started dating this guy three months ago and I thought everything was great. He told me he liked me, thought I was beautiful, and cared about me. He owns a business and he might lose it soon due to finances and has been super stressed out. I have tried to give support, encouragement, or just space when he needs it and be respectful of the situation. He also just divorced a few months ago and I wonder if that has anything to do with it too. Tonight I called cuz I hadn't heard from him in a few days and he said he was having a horrible week and needed to focus on his business and nothing else. I said okay and tried to be really nice to him. He just seemed frustrated and I told him he doesn't have to "go it alone," that his friends and me care for him. He told me he doesn't need a gf right now and broke up with me. Said I deserve better. I told him he doesn't know what I need or deserve. I really liked him. I am so hurting and crying all night. Help );
2007-03-15 19:18:57 · 9 answers · asked by jamie kat 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just know that he does care and know that you CAN do better. He's not appreciating you at this time because he really has too much on his plate right now. If you need to cry, just cry it all out. Bawl if you have to. Just know that there are lots of other people out there. SERIOUSLY. You can't find your true love if you can't stop thinking of the past. He might come back to you after he sorts out his life, but you can't wait. You need to take control of your future.
2007-03-15 19:25:04 · answer #1 · answered by C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well the reality is that when a person is in a relationship, they usually never do well with their careers because of all the stress from relationships. They have to balance their jobs with their lovers, which is hard. When they are single, they will have better focus on their jobs. Also, people with careers dont have much time to spend with their gfs or bfs. So, if your bf is busy with the job, then you will just feel lonely and not be able to see him whenever you want.
But if you really love this guy and want to stay being his gf, I guess you have to cope with what he has to do for his business. Dont be surprised when he gets mad at you when you start calling him a lot. Tell him how you feel and be honest.
2007-03-15 19:38:29 · answer #2 · answered by =P 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on, I know it hurts terribly but it's best that you move on. It's alright to cry and miss him, but he says he is not ready and so you should respect that. Right now the emotions you have makes you feel like you can't be without him, but I believe down the road you are going to be stronger because of this and you are going to view this situation in a different light. I've been hurt before and I feel your pain, and it took me so much courage to walk away from a person I loved, but in the long run I knew it was for the best and as heartbreaking as the situation was I am better for it.
Gather your strength and spend time with your friends, keep a journal, go to the gym, just keep yourself busy. I ended up volunteering at a homeless shelter and signing up for 10K races to get my mind off of him and it worked! I became fit and helping the needy keeps you from thinking too much about yourself and HIM!
2007-03-15 19:31:03 · answer #3 · answered by Kaylin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really need to focus on what you want.
You need to cry if you feel like crap cos thats what happens when you break up. You need to just let it all out until a tear can not drop anymore.
By the sounds of things he has used you as a rebound which in a sence he new it and now he is letting you go because he feels bad cos he probably never really cared about you to begin with.
You definatly deserve better hes doing you a favour. Trust me ull understand when your heart has had time to heal.
Good luck and keep your chin up life is way to short to cry over guys who only think of themselves.
keep putting in your mind that life is too short and tomorrow could be your last.
touch wood that it doesnt. all the best hunny.!!!
2007-03-15 19:30:24 · answer #4 · answered by Nat555 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
obviously the guy is going through a hard time, stop crying and give him some space,maybe he will want u back as soon as he's back to the right track. u can call him now and then to check up on him. if it was meant to be u will be with him eventually.
2007-03-15 19:28:01 · answer #5 · answered by sunshine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Focus on jokes. Like for instance-Do you know why it's called a baby shower? b/c the baby takes a shower. Get it? Shower the baby w/ gifts the baby takes a shower?
2007-03-15 19:32:20 · answer #6 · answered by Fancy L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds unfair but he really has alot to deal with in the past year...and doesn't really need anymore to deal with now...just give it time, I really don't think this is permanent...he will need you sooner or later but try and be strong because he will need you to be...good luck.
2007-03-15 19:25:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is having a bad week. He's going to realize he screwed up.
2007-03-15 19:29:38 · answer #8 · answered by DMan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Screw one of the guys who made his business fall. He'll appreciate that.
2007-03-15 19:23:39 · answer #9 · answered by todd 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋