In general men are visual, sexual creatures, therefore wanting the lights on.
Women are generally self conscious of their bodies, therefore wanting the lights off.
As a totally uninhibited female my preference is lights on but dimmed a bit....provides better ambiance.
Having sex in the dark seems so disconnected...why even bother? I mean, I don't even get myself off in the dark !
2007-03-16 06:26:52
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answered by Anonymous
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its simple if your are bout to make it and she sez lights out it could be a couple of reasons 1. she is embarrassed about the looks of her body (fat, acne, scar, tattoo, birth Mark, hair,ingrown hair dirty feet skid mark in under ware big feet painted toe nails weird color) none of which would bother the ave. man with an erection or 2. she is worried there might be a video camera running or someone might be peaking through the window or walk in on you in the middle of xtc. or maybe she doesn't want you to see the expression on her face when and if she has an orgasm or 3 she doesn't want to see the expression on your face, or 4 she cant help giggling when she sees a men naked. or 5 she feels free to fantasize and you ain't part of the fantasy. no matter what the reason turn the lights out and slip on the love glove then try it again in the morning with of course the lights off and 6 this is the only good reason she just wants to save electricity.
2007-03-16 02:50:54
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answered by rogerjimerson 2
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Well, it really doesn't bother me any. Although i personally like to do it in the dark, simply because i'm not too fond of my body.. we do it during the day all the time.
I think it just has to do with comfort levels since most women feel they have very imperfect bodies.. and we figure if we don't have supermodel bodies that you aren't going to be attracted to us..
Fortunately, for the most part, in loving relationships that isn't true at all.. it becomes more about the experience and sharing emotional pleasure along with physical pleasure.. instead of just physical :)
2007-03-16 02:16:08
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answered by ashwee 2
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I know of some females who were self conscious of their bodies, so they prefered the lights out. But, the ones with the perfect bods, believe me, they are just as happy with the lights on. If they were facing some butt-ugly man who had a tore-up physique, then they probably would prefer the lights out. We all think the same when it comes to wanting to see a nice body on the opposite sex.
2007-03-16 02:15:39
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answered by fingerssfv 3
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Ok personally it all depends on the women, Some women are insecure of their bodies, they maybe all fine to u and u dont see nothing wrong with them, but the majority (NOT ALL ) feel more in a comfort zone with the lights , they think ther bodies are imperfect, me personally I used to love having the lights on but as Ive gained weight , I have to have the lights off and my partner hates that! Put yourself in there position for ex... hopefully this is a good one, lets say u had the oppurtunity to have sex with a porno star or a fine *** model , JLO, Jessica Alba etc..) Adriana Lima ( victorias secret )You consider yourself in average joe some guys wont even think twice about it and hit it within a quickness but other guys might be like, dam my **** is to small or it not shaved or its curved ,im hairy fat etc... something that u might think is imperfect but to others its nothing, some girls might see it that way like, gosh I want to impress him what is he going to say about me if I dont think Im perfect myself, u know what I mean , well I hope I was a ble to help u out!
2007-03-16 02:24:46
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answered by Ms Romance 3
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Not all women like the lights off but some do most likely because they are insecure with their body's and simply feel more comfortable with the lights off. Also...sometimes it is nicer and more romantic for it to be dark and you can get into the moment more instead of with bright lights.
2007-03-16 02:13:17
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answered by *Mariah* 3
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Men wanna see everything and women usually don't like their body in some way and feel more comfortable with the lights off. No lights, no flaws to see.
2007-03-16 02:12:59
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answered by Anonymous
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Why do we like the lights off?.... Well most women, me included, are super self- conscious. If you want the light to be on do it gradually. First try like a night light, then move on to candle light, then move on to a little night lamp then move on to the actual light. Also one way to get your girlfriend or whatever to be less self-conscious is to compliment her. Tell her she looks hot, wonderful, sexy. Anything to make her not focus so much on her body. The woman's worse critic is herself. We are 20 times harder on our appearance then any man could ever be. Thank the skinny *** models and movie stars that EVERY man ooo'sss and ahh'ss at.
2007-03-16 02:16:21
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answered by LYL 1
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I guess I'm not the norm from what you've said. I love the lights on. I love to see facial reactions to what I'm doing. I'm comfortable in my own skin...maybe that's why. I guess some women are afraid to show their body? On the other hand, my husband prefers the lights off. I guess to each their own.
2007-03-16 02:15:39
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answered by just jenn 3
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some are more insecure about there bodies,but if you know them long enough they usually feel more secure.but hey if that dont work and you cant wait do it during the day in a room with windows so if the lights out you can still see what your getting into.
2007-03-16 02:15:04
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answered by east2west 3
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