Is she cheating on me????

Question

My gf is currently sleeping....I am not the jealous type but out of curiousity i went through her phone....There was a text that said "I LOVE YOU" and "WHAT ARE YOU DOING MY LOVE?" She responded "ME TOO" in one of them....This guy is also #1 on her speed dial....Most would say shes cheating on me..but i dont want to jump to conclusions... and that same person just called her but I didnt pick up...How do i approach or handle the situation "SMARTLY"???

Answer 1

Just play the game along......... Pretending nothing has happened. Observe what’s happening next and just don't be too serious over your relation with her. Take it easy. It may not like what you and I expected.

Answer 2

Wow. Good for not jumping to conclusions too fast. Although the scene does look bad, there is still a chance it could just be a bad looking innocent situation. For example, he could be a really close friend or something. One of my best friends is a guy and we often tell eachother that we love each other, but we both know that it is in a non-sexual way. Well, obviously since he is gay, but still that is besides the point. I guess the only true way to figure this out is to talk to her. It will be tricky to bring it up, but find a subtle way to do it. Maybe a simple, "Oh while you were asleep some guy named Dave called your phone." Just see her reaction or then ask her something like "isn't he *so and so's* brother? blah blah blah." Once you get her talking then you should get a real feeling for what is going on. Good luck and hope things aren't what they seem!

Answer 3

Well , first off are you sure its not her dad,brother,uncle or someone else who is related. Secondly If the person just rang and she is sleeping . Phone the number back and say that you were sorry that you did not get to the phone right away,because your girlfriend was sleeping and you were not sure if you should answer it , because everyone has a right to their privacy. Then tell that person that you would gladly relay any message to your girlfriend when she wakes up, and that you hope it is not an emergency....This should help you without making you look jealous .

Answer 4

Wake up. SHE IS CHEATING. There's no need to even discuss it. You're being played. In fact if you did discuss it, she'd probably cry and accuse you of snooping, etc. And you'd take her back. If you live with her, take your stuff and sneak out while she's sleeping. Then never speak to her again, not even a word. That will drive her crazy. If she lives with you, crate up all her stuff and put it on the front lawn. Then wake her up and politely tell her to leave or you will call the sheriff. Don't even tell her why. She'll know, even though she pretends not to. You don't have any kids with her, I hope. Don't be the sucker who gives her money while she is in love with another guy.

Answer 5

You need to talk to her but i wouldn't go to her angry just explain and ask what it was about. Also I had something similar happen to me not i love you in my phone but a guy that was boy friend went through my phone and found a bunch of guys names. All of them but one were work contacts. The one that wasn't was a friend that I had agreed not to talk to because he didn't like him. Now the thing is I wasn't talking to the person. So my thing is if you don't trust her, why are you with her? By the way the guy is now my x boyfriend over this incident.

Answer 6

It doesn't sound good. Do you know the guy? If you have answered her phone before I would go ahead and answer the next time he calls.....If you live on the east coast I would say yes she is cheating if he is calling this late....I am so sorry if that is the case......if it turns out that she is don't breakdown infront of her....it'll just give them something to talk about later....get out with a clean break and move on....if she is cheating you deserve better!!!!

Answer 7

Stay calm, but try not to let go of your insticts on this one. Those messages sound pretty fishy. I had the same thing happen to me and I some how was convinced to bielive her. Found out I was right not long after. Ask her about the guy without first mentioning that you looked in her phone. Maybe you will get lucky and she will talk herself into a corner or vindicate herself without even knowing it.

Answer 8

Well, you could call the number out to find out who he is. If you get another girl over while she is there that would call the number while you occupy her outdoors the girl could perhaps pretend to be her. I didn't say this is SMARTLY. But, I'd rather find out myself than ask and let her either admit or wiggle her way out. For your sake, I hope its a misunderstanding but from where I sit at the moment it isn't looking pretty. Good luck.

Answer 9

be straight with her. just ask your girl friend and say "someone called and so i picked up ur phone. who is that?" that's all u need to say. then u just stop thinking and talk about this.

let her decide if she want to tell u the rest of the story. if she really cares about u, she will lie and say that's her friend, relative or coworker...and continue to saying oh he is just a friend. no biggie. u know she doesn't want to break up the relationship with u just yet.

if she doesn't care about u and she is really having an affair with that dude. she will start saying im sorry blah blah. that's when u know u need to let her go. u need her out of ur life asap. u will regret it if u don't let her go if this happens.

good luck. i hope she lies and u two will be together like nothing ever happened. :D

Answer 10

The best way to handle things like this is to be straight forward. Ask her. Do it casually and calmly. There's no reason to get huffy over it....esp since you don't know anything. She'll either tell you the truth and it'll be something that was easy to explain or she'll confirm your fears. Even if she tries to lie it'll be written all over her face or in her body language. I hope she's not a slut.