Hi. I'm 17, and I've been going out with this guy, Alex, since Valentines Day. I'm extremely nervous around him, even if its just when we're hanging out in a big group at school. I can't make eye contact, my stomach seems to do flips, and I can't stop fidgeting or playing with somthing (i.e. A necklace). I haven't kissed him yet, and I'm extremely nervous about that, too. I'm freaked that I'm going to make a fool of myself. xD
Is there something wrong with me? And, does anyone know anything that might help?
-Maggie
2007-03-15 18:40:35 · 10 answers · asked by Maggie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It sounds like you have no self confidence and that you think you arent good enough for him.
Relax because if he thought that he wouldnt be with you. He likes you. You need to have more faith in him.
Dont worry about making a fool of yourself because if you look around you will realize we are ALL making fools of ourselves. Its ok because we all do it. Those who care for you wont even notice.
2007-03-15 18:47:46 · answer #1 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't understand why you are so nervous around him. when he asked you out he did so cause he likes how you are. Your outside and inside. Appearance and personality. Be yourself and don't be nervous. Does he do something to make you feel that way??? Does he criticize you?? I am not sure what is happening. If you have to walk on egg shells everytime you see him you will be worried all the time. Don't be insecure just be yourself. That's the way he liked you from the beginning. I am not sure about the other things that I have said. You are in the relationship and know what is happening between the two of you. It should flow naturally and you should not have to make him laugh every day. What if some days you feel out of sorts or something. People have different moods too. No worries if he does not accept you for you then there are many fish in the sea. Warm Regards Michele
2016-03-29 00:44:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you're really self-conscious, so you're putting a lot of attention on yourself and whether you might do something wrong. To get the pressure off of yourself, try this: when you're with him, start thinking about him more, what he might be thinking about, how he might be nervous (even if he's not showing it), how you can make him more comfortable, etc. Even if he seems smooth, he might be just as nervous as you are. Also, remember that he likes you – that's why he asked you out in the first place – so just be yourself. If something goes wrong, just have a laugh about it, you'll be fine. Deep breaths....
2007-03-15 18:51:47 · answer #3 · answered by me oh my 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you guys havent kissed or done anything then hes really not your bf, no offense.
I would suggest to keep relationships outside of school like you go hang with your friends and same with him and then maybe meet up after school and go out. IMO they just dont mix, and if their is relationship probs then it comes out during school and thats just a no no so keep your love life totally seperate, plus Im sure your school friends wouldnt wanna see you being all kissy and what not, your just asking for trouble and to show off.
I would say get to know him more and go out on lots of dates and what not. Talk to him on the phone every other day and then progress to every day and just go from there.
If you really like him then just ask him out on a date and get to know him and go from there, hope it works out and if not then move on! I hope this advice helped you.
2007-03-15 18:54:43 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well try 2 talk 2 him on the phone would b a good start.then u move 2 bein alone and gettin 2 know eachother.then mayb a few weeks of that then u could probably stop bein so nervous around him.
2007-03-15 18:51:36 · answer #5 · answered by janae_gaines 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No Maggie, It is normal to feel that way. Try your best not to let it get the best you though. Try as much as possible to act normal and not make it extremely obvious.
It's ok to feel that way, but try to mitigate the expressions if they are showing.
Be Confident Girl...You Can do It.
:)
2007-03-15 18:45:52 · answer #6 · answered by JamQueen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no honey its completely normal believe me. those signs thst you are describing only means that you really like him. he already likes you so dont be so nervous. and honey wait for that first kiss dont rush
2007-03-15 18:55:57 · answer #7 · answered by sweetbaby4362401 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kiss him. That will solve all your problems.
2007-03-18 18:49:37 · answer #8 · answered by hellenwashington 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to kiss him and hold his hand and you will get use to him
2007-03-15 18:45:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hold his hand and you can do it.
2007-03-15 18:47:00 · answer #10 · answered by jasmine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋