Do I need to go talk to her or write her a letter?

Question

The reason I liked her in the first place is because she said she liked me online after two weeks of us talking, then I was excited because I felt good that someone finally liked me. I asked her how she felt about me the next day, then she said she didn't really know, she had too many boys in her life and didn't know how to handle it. After a month she told me she didn't liked me but I still liked her. So I kept talking to her hoping she would eventually change her mind and give me a chance. After a while I noticed she was everything I've looked for in a girl and I fell in love with her. After 4 months of us talking she told me she was falling in love with someone else, whom she gave a chance and not me, and that a couple of her friends were falling in love too. I implied to her that I was falling in love with her and she kept asking me who. Then she asked if it was with her, but I felt I shouldn't say so online so I changed the subject and found out we were unknowingly both watching

the same tv movie. We were going to be somewhere and there I would tell her. I panicked and told a friend what she said. I was afraid of her liking someone else besides me. I left out the names of her friends when I told him. He figured out who and teased her friends about falling in love, so the girl I like got mad at me and wouldn't talk to me. At the time I didn't know better to not say anything at all that we talked about. After I gave her space for two months, then we had a small conversation until her bus came and I asked her if she was still mad at me. She told me no, she just didn't want to talk to me anymore. So I haven't tried to talk to her but when I say hi to her sometimes she says hi back, and once we did have a very short conversation. I wonder if maybe she cut me off because she doesn't want to get hurt in case I'm too good to be true. Boys have dated her friends and told them they loved them, had sex with them (she's the only virgin in her main group) and dumped them.

So now, I want to write her or speak to her and get her something for her b-day in two weeks if I should, but I really want to. I would put what I want to say to her but that would make this a little longer.

Answer 1

Well, I guess you are one persistent guy. That would make it like almost half a year? So I guess, you really like her. Go ahead, give her something for her birthday, but don't expect anything in return. Actually, its just really up to you if you still want to pursue her longer. If you feel you've got a chance, then go for it. We girls, usually fall EVENTUALLY, really. Some men I know take it to as long as 4 years. And yes, these are success stories. Take heart!

But, if you think you dont have a chance, then take a risk too, probably there is really no chance. As the song goes: letting go is just another way to say I'll always love you so (barry manilow). Good luck!

Answer 2

I would've quit after the first month and you shouldn't have let it go that far. Somethings you have to let go, you can buy her a little gift, but dont count on anything happening between you and her. you think because what just happen is the reason she's mad and wont get with you but its not. if the hookup doesn't happen in the first couple of months, it probably wont happen.

Answer 3

Be honest with yourself and with her. Some of the best love notes and letters were written by Shakespeare--take a lesson from him put "How I love thee" in a nice neat, legible and concise love note and take it from there.......hopefully she'll she you for the good guy that you are, good luck!