I am a mature women and that she dont want me around no more. I dont understand why she said that. I am crippled and handy capped but that should not matter. She said that the only way that my other sister and mother could have a relationship is when I am dead. I am so sad that someone would want me to be dead in order to have my mom as a part of her life. How should I think of it.
2007-03-15 18:29:19 · 11 answers · asked by babycakes3557 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Oh my gosh - this is terrible! I can't believe your mother would do that to you! And no, it shouldn't matter if you are handicapped. You are still her child just as much as your other sister. And it's ridiculous to think that they can't have a relationship unless you're dead! I have a mentally handicapped brother (who can be very difficult for me to deal with at times), but that doesn't mean we can't BOTH have a relationship with our mother! I really don't know what to tell you - I feel so bad for you! I guess for now you will have to find a place to live - like an assisted living place, and maybe a therapist to help you get through this difficult time. Also express to your mother how much this hurts your feelings and you feel she wants you dead and that she loves your other sister more. Maybe she will realize she's VERY wrong. The best of luck to you - my heart goes out to you.
2007-03-15 18:37:38 · answer #1 · answered by jlg_jdf 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Grrrrr@ them! Okay, they sound to me like cold and callous people and you are not to let the likes of them upset you.
Here is what I suggest. Get on housing, get on food stamps and medicaid for now. Get SSI if you do not have a job. Then go to college or find grants and on line college on the computer.
I know you said you are cripple BUT you can type fine and you show you have a brain so do not EVER say I am a cripple again OK? You can do so much more in life if you set your mind to it so do so. I know as I have disabilities but never let the disabilities define who I am. We are more capable then we realize.
By the way, you will one day find the people who mean the most to you and do not let others make you feel you are not worth it all. You are worth alot and have lots to contribute to this life. You deserve better then that and tell anyone who cuts you down to go jump in a lake.
2007-03-15 18:39:19 · answer #2 · answered by The_answer_person 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
we are all 'outfitted' diverse , so in spite of I say right here's only a gut feeling, there is likely a custom of idea that could want to point you've a private note with with this in regulation and communicate it over including her. Sorry I cant do this. i'd chop up now, tell your unfeeling husband his mom is an ***, you want no more beneficial to do including her. save faraway from the stupid bit*h. If she ultimately sees the mistakes of her procedures provide it yet another bypass until eventually the subsequent time. I wouldnt make a really sturdy councillor may I ? As on your husband words fail me, in spite of the undeniable fact that some do come to options . style it out lady , you're the spouse assert your position or basically curl up in a nook and settle for all this cr*p. that's all the way down to you.
2016-12-02 02:06:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having a member of the family who needs more attention than other family members makes it difficult for others. BUT- you are family, flesh and blood,- and whatever needs to be done for you- to help you live and survive- IT NEEDS to be done. That's terrible that your mother said that. Could you live by yourself and mostly take care of yourself? There are agencies who will help with a caregiver. Like- myself- that's what I do. I clean, shop, organize, and am a companion for people who can't do things anymore because of illness.
Your mother sounds very selfish- and should realize that YOU CAME FROM HER - NO MATTER What- YOU ARE HER Child! Even if you are grown! You are family to the end. And if that doesn't work- get into a situation where it does work out for YOU!
2007-03-15 18:42:11 · answer #4 · answered by regwoman123 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she didn't think this out before she said it. Hopefully they will realize how hurt and offended you could be after that. Nothing is keeping your mom and sister from getting together and enjoying some good times. You have to find nicer people to spend time with so you can get some support, friendship,and fun in your life. Best of luck to you!!
2007-03-15 18:36:41 · answer #5 · answered by whrldpz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are serious, then i'm so sorry. i'd seek help at a womans shelter. abuse is abuse even if its coming from a family member other than a husband or boyfriend. you may need to get out of that situation. if you live with her. if you dont, then dont have any more contact with her. seek professional counceling about this matter. you have a right to be happy and accepted and loved. its really sad in the world when people can be that way to their children.
2007-03-15 18:36:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I dont know how any mother could say that to their child.
I really dont know what to tell you except that im sorry you have to go thru this.
My cousin had the something similar said to her. Her mother told her that she wished a wolf had ripped her out of her stomach when she was pregnant. (Very weird i know). She worked her way thru it and im sure with some more advice from people who have experienced this first hand, you will too.
:)
2007-03-15 18:36:24 · answer #7 · answered by jinxed_pixie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make your mother a cripple, then she will know how you feel.
2007-03-15 18:34:00 · answer #8 · answered by ewf20612 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
>:D< I dont know what to say but i bet you can really use a hug right now.
2007-03-15 18:37:20 · answer #9 · answered by Smurfy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wow man that's a bad one. can't see how your mother can be like that. dump her if you can.
2007-03-15 18:38:28 · answer #10 · answered by freeman3905@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋