I am 20 years old, and I am still at home. I am going to college and will still be here for about another year. At that time I will move out after college, I have a really good relationship with my parents, and it seems like they want me to live here till im 40.I love them both verymuch and wouldnt want to hurt them but when I move out I wanna move to nyc. Im from a small town and my parents think that im gonna stay here even though Ive told them I wanna live there.Its very important to me, but now Im starting to have second thoughts, what if when I get married they wont get to see my kids. everyone is leaving them and I feel horrible about it.....what should I do? I want them to be happy, but I wanna leave here and see whats out there. Ive already been in nyc and LOVED it there....what do I do?
2007-03-15 18:27:00 · 4 answers · asked by william e 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
you're WAY too stressed out over something that's a year away at best. a lot can happen in a year. stop bringing up NY bec it only stresses out your parents and you really don't have a crystal ball.
sounds like your folks are having trouble facing an empy nest, but they're not the first. you may find, once you leave, that they may actually adjust very well.
stop stressing over kids you don't even have. you're in college. concentrate on your studies and stop giving yourself an ulcer. as you get older, you'll realize you should not tell yourself these kinds of negative "stories." think about positive ones. how you'll get your degree, seek and get a good job in NYC, go home to visit the folks often, bring them up to see you and how happy you are etc. good luck.
2007-03-16 13:40:38 · answer #1 · answered by rainyday 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We also have sons we love very much that are grown now. My wish for them has always been that they be able to go out on their own and have a great life. We always promised ourselves as much as we love them, they are only yours for a little while. We wanted them to pursue their dreams, experience life and have a good life. If that meant they would move far away, so be it. We will go visit when we can and they can come visit when they could. For us, it means when we are no longer on this earth our kids have proven they can take care of their self and we can die happy, knowing this. Are thoughts are, if you love your kids, you set them free when they are old enough.
Not to mention, it gives us sometime to be there for each other.
We have a daughter also, and a beautiful granddaughter. They live 1500 miles away. We see each other a few times a year. Sure, I would love to have them here in town but I am so glad she has a great husband and life, I would want nothing different for her.
2007-03-15 19:33:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dont decide now. You have a whole year yet. See what happens between now and then. By the time you graduate things might change.
But in the long run you have to live life for yourself, you cant turn your whole life over to your parents.
2007-03-15 19:21:49 · answer #3 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know its difficult when you are close to you parents and want to be there for them, but trust me dont put you life on hold, you might regret it. Talk to them and let them know how you feel. Remember visiting NYC and living there are to different things.
2007-03-15 18:35:26 · answer #4 · answered by another journey 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋