I am the only friend of a 82 years old man, i am 29 years old, he has no children, only 2 elderly brother and 1 nephew, his family rarely come and visit him, he has no wife either. I honestly care about him and i often go shopping for him and taking him to the doctor visit. He calls me 'grand daughter', and i just took him out last weekend to his favourite restaurant. The problem is that i am not very weathy ( i work very hard), do you think my elderly friend will help me out and leave me somthing one day?
2007-03-15 18:26:00 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Dont count on it. People arent predictable. He might want to leave it to family.
If youre only being his friend because of his money then you are no better then his family.
2007-03-15 18:32:44 · answer #1 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are thinking this and hoping for such and this is even one single reason as to why you do these things for him, then SHAME on you!
You should not covet others' posessions and.or money and even entartain the idea and lay in hopes that you get something from him.
Had he told you that he wants to leave you something or he had passed away and did leave you something without your foreseeing such, that would make it wonderful and would suggest that your works of kindness were pure and not expecting something from him meant that the kindness and your genuine compassion came back to you in the same manner.
I however see some not too very good motives on your part. I wonder if many told you here that he most likely will not leave you anything if you would quit being nice to him.
To think of him or yourself in such light makes your kindness come under great scrutiny.
Why does your Question strike me the way the Anna Nicole Smith's marriage to a Texas Billionaire struck me? Hmmmm!
I think you need to step back and ask if what you are doing for this gentleman is truly honorable.
2007-03-15 18:44:27 · answer #2 · answered by The Sylvan Wizard 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Never do things with the idea that you'll inherit. I'm a retired nurse and I've seen many people go out of their way with the expectation that they'll be left something only to find out that the nephew who hasn't visited in 40 years inherits it all. Just do what you feel like you want to do because you find it satisfying. If money is a problem, only do what you can afford.. a casserole at his house rather than going out to a restaurant. If you find yourself doing something with expectations of future reward, stop and think about it. Will you be bitter if your kindness isn't rewarded? If so, don't do it.
2007-03-15 18:38:48 · answer #3 · answered by Annie D 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Probably. But that shouldn't be the reason you help him.
You're 29, and while I'm not quite in any position to tell you otherwise, you have a lot of time ahead of you to get that money. If I were you, I would urge him to put that money towards a cause he supports. You have your spotlight someday.
2007-03-15 18:30:02 · answer #4 · answered by This Little Apple 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How sad for him that's where your head is at. You just told us all your hoping for money, not really his friend at all because a real friend does not think like that. Shame on you, the world is full of people like you. Doing something nice and hoping for a pay off!
2007-03-15 19:18:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Boy...try not to sound too greedy!!! Is this the reason you are friends with him??? If it is then that is very sad. If it isn't and you really care about him..then don't give it a second thought. Enjoy the time you have left with him.
2007-03-15 18:48:29 · answer #6 · answered by mysweetluvie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He might but it is pretty tacky to even be discussing the possibility.
2007-03-15 18:30:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
hmmm, it sounds like you are waiting for his death...are you just his friend so you can get something out of it? why should it matter?
2007-03-15 18:30:11 · answer #8 · answered by MomOf2 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you hanging around him hopign to get something?
2007-03-15 18:29:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He might. But it would be VERY tacky of you to ask him.
2007-03-15 18:38:10 · answer #10 · answered by kp 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋