2007-03-15 18:18:25 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
yeah!! it shows that he is basically a sexist ********!!
2007-03-15 18:22:25 · answer #1 · answered by :..: 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Alright, let me start by saying you sound nice but a little naive. "I pay the bills" so pay'em. Can you have what you want without my opinion. Depends? Does it hurt the relationship? Is it ammoral? Can you , Jackie have what you want? What makes you happy. It is said that the one who controls the money, controls the relationship. This as a stay aT home mom I think is not fair. I want to ride horses every weekend. I pay what bills I can with what money I get from Hustling. YOu know finding whatever I can to sell. I try to contribute, but I will be happy. If I can't have the fun and freedom I want , it's not worth it . YOu only go around once. Life is meant to live. I guess this goes for him too. Do what makes you happy. Maybe you can find a common hobby. IF not, you two will just have to set aside time for yourselves and then time for yourselves as a couple. IF you can't be happy, life ain't worth living.
2007-03-16 01:29:36 · answer #2 · answered by k.webb 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel that marriage is a team sport, and BOTH parties need to be on the same team. I don't think your quote falls into that frame of mind.
I'm not talking about not being able to buy lunch or something like that, but major purchases should be discussed between both partners, or better yet, they should be be there.
I would not care if my wife bought a new dress without saying something, but if she drove home in a new car or bought a new living room set, I want to not only know, I want to be there.
Long story short, your quote should raise a red flag.
2007-03-16 01:25:08 · answer #3 · answered by Voice_Of_Reason 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
YES! YES!! YES!!!.
See ur key word is WIFE.
If it was a normal girlfriend or even a fiancee it prob wouldn't matter much but a wife......
Your supposed to consult each other on every issue and consider both opinions even if you don't agree or eventually don't act accordingly.
See that's why when I get married or I'm in a relationship, my husband can make more money but I'll still make enough to be independent..then he can't talk to me like that. It's not like I'm a lazy bum or sumn.
Those words are just the beginning....be ware!!!
2007-03-16 01:26:42 · answer #4 · answered by Natasha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, Jackie, that brings back memories (and not so good ones) I dated a guy and we had talked marriage some. Then one day we were talking about vacations and I said how I would love to go to San Diego and visit their world famous zoo. My boyfriend said if we were married he wouldn't support a trip like that because it wasn't tangible, HE would spend money on a dirt bike because he would have that and be able to enjoy it for a long time......it was pretty much downhill from there, so just talk about all kinds of "what ifs" and "dreams" with your guy to see how he feels about things that are important to you. You'll both be happier in the long run! Best of luck to you!
2007-03-16 01:26:00 · answer #5 · answered by gayley 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is a sign for a controlling man. "my way or no way". when men can figure out how to have a baby, run a house 24 hours a day, clean the house, take care of the kids, make all the medical decisions, appointments, dress the kids everyday take their baths, still look beautiful when he comes home from work, entertain him and have a hot meal ready for him with a cold beer, then that fuqer can have whatever he wants. if not.....there is alimony and child support to consider.
2007-03-16 01:24:09 · answer #6 · answered by Bella 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's a real bad sign. That's old fashioned thinking. It's also selfish. Someone who cares for you and respects you would want your input and want you to be happy too. This guy sounds selfish and self-centered. He's not evolved enough or mature enough to consider the feelings of others which is a basic quality in any adult. Most of us learn to share and consider others before we're old enough to vote.
2007-03-16 01:23:24 · answer #7 · answered by Annie D 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well atleast he isn't spending the bill money, BUT it's not right to make financial decisions without consulting with the other half. there is a thing called selfishness what wrong with saving money . sounds like you two need to have a long talk if not it's not gonna change . believe me I've been there with my man too. we worked it out and so will you.
goodluck
Tia
2007-03-16 01:26:33 · answer #8 · answered by Desi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's gonna be a YES.
Many people believe that a good relationship is founded on communication and mutual respect, and whether that's important to you or not is up to you.
Some guys are still workin' things out, but that doesn't mean you have to be one of the failed experiments.
2007-03-16 01:25:39 · answer #9 · answered by Rudy DelRojo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That a bad sign.... its a sign of being unfaithfulness and a control freak...
I would consider also a sign of bad things to come especially in the relationship...
2007-03-16 01:21:41 · answer #10 · answered by Jean Paul 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't really have to ask that question, do you? The answer is very obvious. It's a sign that the guy is extremely self-focused, controlling, and quite possibly abusive.
2007-03-16 01:28:26 · answer #11 · answered by SLWrites 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋