My guy an I have been together for almost 3 yr I'd do anything for him. we 1st started dating I knew he had a lot of ex gf's that he slept with(more then I'd like to remember) anyways,6 months later I find out that he has a 7 y/o son.I was MAD cause earlier that day I gave him $800 to get something for his car He said he was sorry and that he loved me so much that he though by telling me about his son that Id leave. He cried and I stayed. 4 months later I find out he has a 2nd child that's 4 years old. Now I'm very mad. He gives me the same bs agian I fall for it. A year later me him and my EXbest friend (girl) move in together 2 weeks before we move in I find out that he asked her to 'help' him with some sex stuff I about Killed him He cried I felt like I couldnt trust him but I gave him another chance. 4 months later I find out that hes been talking about sex with another girl he secretly met. I know I'm STUPID, so why do I stay?!? I love him very much, but I don't love what he does.
2007-03-15 18:14:37 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Obviously, he's not worthy of your trust. He's lied to you multiple times and he's also pulling at your heartstrings by crying and all that emotional bs.
Do yourself a favor and leave before you break your heart over and over again. If he hasnt changed after all these acts, what makes you think he will in the future.
And you might want to leave before you get pregnant or get married and then it gets a heck of a lot more complicated. He's not worthy of you... so you need to take care of yourself before you get more involved and stressed, so break if off. Now.
2007-03-15 18:20:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he is playing you. I know how hard it is to trust someone who has let you down and I definitly know how hard it is to break it off with that person, especially if you've been together for a long time.
What i suggest is to give him an ultimatum:
either tell you everything he has been hiding from you, or your going to break up with him.
You've got to be strong on this girl, don't let him hurt you any worse than he already has.
I know it will be hard, but he doesnt sound trustworthy and yoiu can do much better.
Just remember, there are always other fish in the sea.
You can be happy with someone who doesnt lie to you.
And if your sleeping with him, be careful! you don't want to end up having his third child.
2007-03-16 01:23:50 · answer #2 · answered by Pixie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You stay because you have no respect for yourself. You know he's a liar, and either is cheating or is trying to cheat. You know all this and you stay and you tell yourself it's because you love him, and while that might be true, it doesn't change what you know you need to do. Don't worry about about being the bad guy in this situation, if there's a bad person here, it's the liar who's forcing you to break up with him.
You can do better.
2007-03-16 01:19:59 · answer #3 · answered by Jack S 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know you love him and love is blind, and you want to believe that he will eventually do right. But guys do what you let them get away with. If he knows you are going to take him back lie after lie - he has no reason to stop lying. He's obviously young and not ready to settle down. And it seems like he's stringing you along. Loving him is fine, but you have to love yourself more. You deserve better than he is giving you and you are only staying there for your hopes of how things will someday be.....what if that someday never comes? You don't want to waste additional years on someone that is not appreciating you.
2007-03-16 01:19:38 · answer #4 · answered by Nette 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you stay because you love him and because you feel that he can change one day. also you stay because you are scared of not knowing. if you left him you would always wonder what could have been. but honey it seems like youve given it many chances and everytime hes let you down. youre not stupid you just have emotions and fears just like the rest of us. ive gone through something almost like this minus the kids. if you know that in your heart that hes been unfaithful and you cant trust him....its not going to work and you need to find someone you can give your all. i hope this helps. and please dont think you are stupid.....youre just a normal human being. good luck sweetie
2007-03-16 01:21:41 · answer #5 · answered by ♥♫§weetTart§amantha♫♥ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Leave him, there's more stuff to still find out, get out now before that comes out and your hurt yet again. Him having kid's should have tipped you off, think about it, if he didn't tell you about them what kind of dad does that make him, not the kind of dad you'd want for your kid's right? And say you did put that past you and say it 's in his past, he still seems to be doing things behind your back as we speak, get out now if you can BEFORE you get pregnant and it becomes harder on you,mentally. Good luck.
2007-03-16 01:23:53 · answer #6 · answered by Blujeenz♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know the solution yourself and that is to come out of this relationship as soon as possible. What you need to do is just be bold and make your heart a concreate one. I know its easy to say all this stuff and hard to do, but accept it as a challenge and go ahead. You have got so many reasons to hate this guy, he is not at all worth for you sweet lady.
2007-03-16 01:20:27 · answer #7 · answered by ukriti 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i say men are like a bad drug you just have to quit cold turkey!! it is going to be hard but you will be much happier later in life when you say to your self "what was i thinking, thank god i got out when i did" you have to think of your self! what are you worth?? a lot more than he is giving you. remember trust should be the most important thing in a relationship and no lies!
the best of luck to you =)
2007-03-16 01:21:03 · answer #8 · answered by kelly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You neither love nor respect him however you're afraid that he is the best you can do. Being alone is not nearly as painful as being in a relationship with someone who lies to you and treats you badly. Of course, you will never know that as long as you hang on to him. You give him money and sex and he gives you grief. Unless you're addicted to pain it is time to move on.
2007-03-16 01:19:42 · answer #9 · answered by QueenBean 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
the question is why are you staying with someone that does
nothing but lie to you, he has no respect for you and he keep
playing games iwth you, you are not stupid to love this man
but dont continue to let him play you. then you will be stupid
if you allow him to do this to you. you know that you need
to let go. the longer you stay in this the harder it will get to
let go of this man. you need to get rid of this looser and find
you a hero. he not the one.
2007-03-16 01:25:59 · answer #10 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋