Im about 98% positive that im in love with my ex boyfriend. He's always there for me even till this day and we've been through more hell together then most couples 4x our age. I would do anything for him. Just seeing his face makes me so happy i can't stop smiling. Hes not only a bf of the past, but also my best friend. We both admit that we still have feelings for each other. I've known him for about 7 years n weve been dating on and off the entire time.The thing is that because Im only 16, most people don't believe it could b love, more like puppy love. I just wanna no wat you people out there think.
2007-03-15 17:44:15 · 14 answers · asked by Lala 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
By the way, he lives states away and we barely ever get to see each other.
2007-03-15 17:52:06 · update #1
Fact from fiction, truth from diction. "Like", and "love" are often confused as cut from the same cloth. Actually it is not. Upon closer inspection you will see love is the silk to the likes satin.
Like: You may think of him all the time. May like him parsonality, his habbits. May even get frisky with him or get boned down by him in the bedroom. But you will not sell out for him. He is like a vacation home. You know you are not going to retire there. Or move your furniture there. Like can put up with a lot, but there is a breaking point where if they did it one more time, you are gon. Or if they did something bad enough, gone. You do nice things BUT, more so that you want to get them to like you and that is the catalyst to your politeness. Like: is like a lease, love is like ownership
Love: He makes you want to be better than you are, each day. You find that you are willing to sell out, to give up EVERYTHING you own and know to make sure his tomorrow is better than today, which was in turn, better than yesterday. You would give your life that he may life. You would go hungry that he might be fed. To go cold that he may stay warm. You do this because you really want him to be safe, protected and comfortable. Not just because you want him to like you. Love is you would cherish him even if he didn't love you back, and there was no quid pro quot. Love is like having a home you are eager to move your furniture into, and do not want to move out once you have it in there. Love endures no matter what transgression is done. It is a total surrender of your heart to the other, no strings attached. The hurt maybe there, and you may never forget it. But you are willing to forgive or at least deal with it.
2007-03-23 01:44:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What love is:
100% Trustworthy
100% Respectful
100% Faithfulness
100% Generousity
they are needed for you to get through the day
they complete the parts of you that only they can.
... there is more, but I think you see the trend.
Does that sound like a sane person? Love does make you crazy. Why would you allow such a crazy person make decisions for you? No one could say anything negative about him because you would never see it or stand for it.
The glowing review you've given him will not sway me, only you. So this is a wasted effort on your part and on mine.
Come back when all the verbs are in the past tense.
2007-03-15 18:00:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can be in love when you're sixteen. I was in a similar situation (back and forth for 3 years after we broke up originally) with an ex until I had to cut it off. He was my best friend and the only person who could ever make me smile. What I realized is that because whe had gone through so much we couldn't be together. He was my life, and a friend gave me some good advice "Don't make someone your everything because when they leave you have nothing." I would say just let it ride for now, but breathe. Step back and think about the future. You probably do love him, but don't let it be so intense.
2007-03-23 12:22:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like more then puppy love to me. If this guy has been around this long and the feeling Is mutual between the two of you then It can only get better with time and age. I say keep him In your life. BUT continue to see what else Is out there. If Its meant to be then you will know when your ready. Good luck!
2007-03-15 17:49:28 · answer #4 · answered by Jessica B 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm about 98% positive that people who question the difference between love vs. like are NOT in love. But that's kind of the jaded side of me talking.
You're young enough that it could be puppy love. The real test is whether you'd be happy if you saw him happy with another girl. When you only really care about the other person's happiness... you can be sure that you're in love.
2007-03-15 17:48:40 · answer #5 · answered by Buying is Voting 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well, they maybe right... it could be puppy love... but it is not the people around you who is feeling the way you feel about ur ex boyfriend... I can say that it is love. I've been in that situation too, i had fallen so in love when i was 16. He was my first love. Don't mind the people around you, you love the guy, it's really positive... ok?... although you are still young, you will meet new and better guys than your ex bf... :)
2007-03-15 18:01:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe you can be in love with someone at 16 but I'm not convinced that you persnally are. He is someone you admire and care for a great deal, but if you have to question it in the slightest degree, it's not love. When you are truely in love with someone, you can fight it and deny it all you want but you know in your heart it's love. It's an overwhelming sense of warmth and happyness. Their presents isn't what brings it on, it's what sets it free. You will feel this even when they're not there.
It sounds to me that you Love him as a person, but are not IN love with him. There is a difference, and you will feel it sooner or later. Until you hit that point, why even question it? You have feelings for him, you can trust him and you respect him, go for it! You can't gain back what you lost yesterday but you can change tomorrow.
2007-03-15 17:51:49 · answer #7 · answered by Meg 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it doesn't matter whether it's love or like.... what ever it is... if u nthink it's going to be love and u think of joining hands with him for the rest of the life just think for a moment. are u both educated well and ready to face the world out there??? if at all u move out against ur parents how long can u both stay comfortable without money to survive. do atleast one among u have a permanent job to earn for ur survival???
so, what ever it is... make sure u're ready for things out there and the move forward to the next step.
think twice before u act..
2007-03-15 17:54:10 · answer #8 · answered by mew2sharan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you said that you are just 16, and you know him since you were 9.
So he is your childhood best friend, and your teenage boy friend.
In your age, your emotions can be changed easily, I'm confident that if he moves to another city, you will be over him in a couple of weeks.
You just likes the feeling of seeing him around you all the times, due to the 7 years friendship you had.
And who likes to lose her best friend? Of course no one.
2007-03-15 17:50:31 · answer #9 · answered by Sulto 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
While yes, it could be Love,you have to understand as you get older ,you change, i was married to my husband when he was 16 and I was 17. Im now 30, we are happy.....now. when we were younger we lacked alot of self-control and compassion. not saying that we didn't love each other we just didn't love each other well.I hope for the best for you, and you know that saying that time will tell, well, that's true.God bless
2007-03-15 17:58:47 · answer #10 · answered by angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋