okay..so my friend (who is a guy) (also my ex) anyways.. whenever he's around a girl or goes out with a girl i get extremely jealous.. but when i have the chance to be in a relationship with him.. or am in a relationship with him.. i dont like him like at all.... im so confuessed. help?
for those of you who want more detail....i have dated other guys.. and i still feel jealousy... i have no idea why... i even have a date to sadies right now and hes going with someone else (who happens to be my good friend) and im worried when they're slow dancing i'll lose controll and break down or something. i really like my date too... it sucks im so confuesed. if you want more detail.. ask and i'll post some
2007-03-15 17:31:22 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I've had this trouble once before. Since you'r not interested in him while your dating him you obviously dont like him, but if your jealous it could just be you like the idea of liking him. That is a major possibility.
You should make a list of everything you like about him, and everything you dont like about him. Think long and hard about it.
You could also make a list of everything he does that makes you jealous. Think about whether your truely jealous or you just want to be jealous. I know that might sound really weird, but it is a possibility.
If your still not sure whether you really like him or if you just like the idea of liking him and thats causing jealousy try avoiding him for awhile. if he's a close friend then dont avoid him completely, just cut him out of a majority of your everyday habbits.
Make sure you talk to both your date and your ex's date before the dance. Just incase you have a "break down" make sure noone will get hurt from this.
I hope this helps!
2007-03-15 17:46:31 · answer #1 · answered by That NorCal Girl. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it has to do with control, i mean, this guy is your ex, (PAST TENSE for a reason obviously) but whenever he gets interested in somebody else it makes you feel that you cant control him (or the situation anymore) like your losing him to somebody else (and that makes you feel insecure) cause you feel this other person may be better than you (no offense)
And eventhough you dont like him anymore, if hes not with somebody else you may feel its still up to you to be with him or not.
Hope this helps...
2007-03-16 00:40:18 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, i hate being confused in the way you are my gf pulled the same stuff (we r back together though) she gave me all of that crap and i felt the same way when i was with another chick and i just think that means that u need to work out the reasons that he broke up with u bc u still feel something for him, but if he doesnt want u then just move on however hard it maybe bc if he really wants u then he will tell u
2007-03-16 00:36:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listennnn..... to ya boy. It real easy, you don't really want him(hate to say it but true). I've seen this many of time, people want what they think they can't have. Once they have it they see its not all as cracked up as it use to be and drop it. Don't feel like a jerk becuase many people do it. Its human nature. Basically you don't really want him becuase if you did, when you have him you would let go. Right?
2007-03-16 00:37:42 · answer #4 · answered by DuvalKing 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey gurl,i guess this situation is normal,u just have to chill down and relax,u maybe like guys because of their looks,thats why you are jealous when they hang out with other girls same as me,u have the same situation as me!its hard to find the perfect guy in your dreams,even i have a boyfriend,i like him so much but when we couple i dont like it,you just have to take things slowly,dont rush,because things take time to be perfect,or either our body is producing some harmones that makes us have this sexuality attraction,i have that all the time,but my mum gives me advice and said you have to pray and be patient so that god give you guide,
i hope that helps!
best of luck,
joanne :)
2007-03-16 00:46:08 · answer #5 · answered by Joanne 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it takes time for feelings to go away. because it used to be you kissing him and holding his hand, and seeing someone else in your place, hurts. you cant just forget him overnight girlie...it takes time. sry your feeling this way. but hes stupid for letting you go.
2007-03-16 00:34:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
it really takes time to stop feeling jealous so i hope the jealously stops
2007-03-16 00:44:56 · answer #7 · answered by hawaiiangrl12 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No offense, but you sound very controlling. I don't know what to do about that.
2007-03-16 00:35:22 · answer #8 · answered by Kirstin 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ok heres wat u do. u need not to give a rats *** what hes doin or who and live ur own life. dont try to hook back up with him, dont try to get with him, leave him out. go and find urself someone new and really dont care wat everhe is doin
2007-03-16 00:38:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋