My boyfriend has a close female friend who is not fawned of me. She dont even know me. She always tries to find a way to bad mouth me to him, telling him that I'm no good for him; that he desevers better. My bf tells me this only when we have an arguement. I think she has a huge crush on him, and trying to sabatoge our relationship. How do i get her out of our lifes, without my bf thinking that I dont allow him to have any female friends?
2007-03-15 17:19:44 · 6 answers · asked by trophygf 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he's going to have to realize what she's doing on his own. and he's going to have to decide that he wants her out of his life and his relationship with you.
you're right, it sounds like she wants him for herself, and is running you down when you're not around in hopes of ruining your relationship.
if you decide to talk to him about what you feel she's doing, be careful not to get into a fight with him, because if you do, she's winning, and we sure don't want that to happen! you can tell him your suspicions, but he's really going to have to see for himself what she's up to. just tell him to pay attention to how she talks about you when you're not around. and another thing, he needs to put her in her place when she starts trash talking you. you're his girlfriend, he needs to make it clear to her that you come first!
Best Wishes With Everything.
2007-03-15 17:33:44 · answer #1 · answered by atiana 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, if he really knows AND loves you, he'd get sick of hearing her tlak ****, and hell just stop talking to her on his own. Otherwise, I dont think there is a way. If it is still a problem and you feel you need to do something, I think all you can do is tlak to him and say hey... I'm not comfortable with this. If it continues, youre GOING to lose me. Ya gotta just be honest. blunt, brutal, whatever you you want to take it as. Games dont work with most relationships these days. Not REAL relationships anyway
2007-03-15 17:27:33 · answer #2 · answered by Carolyn B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like it can be either two things:
sounds like your boyfriend needs to figure that out. you know it and she knows it and he probably knows it too. he probably is keeping her around just in case you break up with him.
On the other hand, he might be completely oblivious or she just sends the wrong signals. tell your boyfriend how you feel and that you would like to be able to clear it up since it may be a misunderstanding. let him know that you like him alot and that you do not appreciate her bad mouthing you and that you want to be friends. That shows class and as they say keep your friends close and your enemies closer.
2007-03-15 17:26:04 · answer #3 · answered by themoodyspacecadet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't. If you try to push her out of his life it will only make you seem threatened. Just ignore her and ask him to not relay this negative info to you in the future, argument or no argument. If you're secure who care's what she thinks and if he really likes you he will go off what he feels, not what she says.
2007-03-15 17:23:47 · answer #4 · answered by Travis E 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell him the truth. that this girl doesnt like you and thats why shes saying all these mean things. she has nothing better to do than bad-mouth people.
2007-03-15 17:22:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your bf should not tolerate her saying things about you and should tell her that himself without you having to do ANYTHING!!!
2007-03-15 17:26:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋