I know my bf loves me, or he SAYS he does. He's sweet, and holds my hands and we kiss and hug and what not... but...
i know i'm jsut being insecure, i'm sorry. But he recently had a serious relationship with another girl.... and i kinda feel jealous.... i wonder.... if he still loves her in a way.... cuz when he was going out with her, and she broke up with him, he said that he still loved her...
and i keep seeing her stare at me... as if.. interrogating me...
and ppl keep saying how perfect they were together
and how friends used to give him romantic lines to smooth talk to her...
evn i gave him lines!
and... well... i just feel insecure. Any advice?
2007-03-15 17:11:19 · 8 answers · asked by Juliette 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
oh, btw. yes i know him very well. he is also my best friend
2007-03-15 17:22:35 · update #1
Not really a answer but a true life experience that I had. I guess in a way it is a answer.
When I divorced my high school sweat heart, she was kinda nasty towards me. I still loved her and she loved me but she would get moody and nasty, try to hit me (she did twice) and all that.
I was heartbroken about it. I soon started to see other women and when she found out she really got nasty. Basically saying, she doesn't want me but doesn't want me to be happy with someone else.
This continued for years...I wouldn't take a girlfriend with me to pick up my daughter. I met my wife of 17 years now and when she found out we got married or was planning a wedding...she was a B I T C H!!!
So the point I think I'm trying to make and perhaps I'm wrong...if he loves you he will return calls and try to be with you. If he used you...consider yourself dumped and move on.
2007-03-15 17:25:34 · answer #1 · answered by Magicman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl you gotta get over it he's your man now, and no guy wants to be with some needy, insecure chick....OR maybe you know deep inside you guys got together too soon after his previous GF broke up with him. After a serious relationship ends it can take a long time for someone to get emotionally invested in another relationship. Trust your instincts......you deserve someone who is totally into you, not 50%
2007-03-15 17:20:09 · answer #2 · answered by Sunny SD :) 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He choose to be with you. You have fun together, right? You have a long life ahead of you so you have plenty of time to get to know him better.
Aren't there many people in your life that you care for? If they were a good happy couple, of course he's still going to think about her sometimes.
You could ask him if he thinks his ex is mad at you. That's an innocent enough question and doesn't challenge his loyalties.
2007-03-15 17:22:29 · answer #3 · answered by super_deformed_girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to say this but you might be a rebound girl maybe he should have slowed down and had some alone time to himsellf to sort out his feelings. because if you feel insecure now it will not get better. maybe see if you can seek relationship counsel if you want this to last.
2007-03-15 17:16:45 · answer #4 · answered by Joy A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yea, if anything I think you are just being insecure.. But you have every right to, because all the signs are there. He said he still love his ex and so forth.. The only way for you to not feel insecure is for him to stop talking to his ex gf, but I don't think that's gonna happen.. So heres how you deal with it.. Either you put up with it or you leave him now... Because at end if they ex gf wants to get back w/ him... He's just gonna leave you because he's being love her all this time while he's dating you... I m just bring real, but its your decision.
2007-03-15 17:15:34 · answer #5 · answered by Rain L 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
alot of girls have or had your problem, i would feel insecure too if i were in your position. Maby you should tell your bf how you feel, or tell her how it bothers you or something. or you can just piss her off and be all over him whenever she comes around!
2007-03-15 17:17:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
BE CAREFUL GIRL, HE MIGHT JUST BE ON A REBOUND WITH HIS EX..YOU SHOULD KNOW HOW HE IS ,IF YOU ALSO GAVE HIM ROMANTIC LINES TO SMOOTH TALK HER... WHO'S WRITING HIS FOR YOU?????THINK ABOUT IT...JUST BE CAREFUL AND DONT LET YOUR HEART FOOL YOU,ESPECIALLY IF YOU KNOW THE DEAL ABOUT HIM AND HIS EX...!
2007-03-15 17:19:11 · answer #7 · answered by rcastrojt 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe some communication with your boyfriend...........that's always a start.
2007-03-15 17:16:19 · answer #8 · answered by ms_debbieg 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋