Ok so I'm deeply in love with my girlfriend it's like the perfect love story. We met, started dating, lost our v-cards to one another, and been there for each other when we needed it. Now the problem, she kissed one of my friends at a party, tried to date another guy while dating me, and yet has told me that she loves me and never wants to lose me. She says she wants a relationship but actions speak louder than words. So is she too immature for me? and should i stay with someone who continously hurts me and can't be trusted? Keep in mind i love her very much. and please don't give answers that are inconsiderate.
2007-03-15 17:03:32 · 12 answers · asked by cherrylick_124 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I can imagine ur dilemma.
Anyways if she keeps doing you wrong (and this is assuming that you decide to stay with her), you will come to a point where you can take no more and will leave. The only thing is what will you have missed while you were with her. Hopefully it doesn't come to this.
Have you asked her why she did the things she did?
2007-03-15 17:10:54 · answer #1 · answered by Natasha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you two lost your virginity to each other and she is suddenly acting like this, she may have a sort of itch about the fact that you could end up being the only man she sleeps with if your relationship leads to marraige. the kiss doesnt bother me so much, but the trying to date another guy does....that seems a little odd. try to have an open honest talk about it. if the behavior she has exhibited before continues and she does things with other guys, then she may not be the girl for you. ultimatly, that is your decision. i know a guy in a similar situation. he was engaged to this girl, and she has slept with other guys, told various people that "oh no, he and i aren't engaged, we actually broke up" and used a bunch of his money, some of it for a trip to spain for school where she slept with two more guys. why he is still with her i will never know, because he said the first time she cheated if she ever cheated again, that would be the end of it.
2007-03-15 17:10:37 · answer #2 · answered by Ashley M 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, love is a two-sided deal. Loving someone completely who only loves you a little is a recipe for heartbreak. When you lose your virginity with someone, you will always have feelings for that person, sometimes more than you should. I understand that you love her, but actions do speak louder than words. Her actions show that she cares, but is just beginning to have fun. She is not ready to have a commitment to a serious relationship. I hope things work out.
2007-03-15 17:12:44 · answer #3 · answered by rainydaysarebeautiful 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know that you feel that you love her but, actions do speak louder than words. So you must ask. What is love?
1 Corinthians 13.
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. GOD
It's no good unless this description fits both of you. You are blessed with the ability to love. There is someone else who will care about you and love you back in this same way.
2007-03-15 17:14:08 · answer #4 · answered by 4HIM- Christians love 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, she might not be immature, maybe she just don't want a serious relationship, something you're seeking. I say break up. You love her but then she's going behind your back with other guys. She would have suceeded in cheating on you if she got that other guy to date her. It doesn't seem like she feels guilty about it either. I say break up you'll only get hurt more if you stay in.
2007-03-15 17:12:20 · answer #5 · answered by evilkitty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow sounds like what happened to all of my friends?...Have you ever heard the saying once a cheater always a cheater?....well most of the time its true untill the cheater learns a lesson. If you continue on with this relationship you will probably just be showing her that its ok to cheat because she knows you will always take her back, she thinks you'll be mad but you will ge over it. Sorry but I know you really think your in LOVE...all of my friends thougth they were too, but trust me love is TRUST, PASSION, Friendship Etc. and she is not showing love back!...You deserve better for yourself buddy!...good luck and be strong!
2007-03-15 17:12:28 · answer #6 · answered by Adddison 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you two are young. Only you can decide whether you should stay with her. I don't know you but you deserve to be treated better than that. What about taking a break. If this is your first love it probably won't be your last. Hopefully, the next girl will treat you better. Good luck!!
2007-03-15 17:10:55 · answer #7 · answered by brian M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she feels insecure about ur relationship. If you love her let her go!! give her time to be by her self to think about what she wants, be with you or move on to the next guy. Remember that saying if you love let go If it comes back is yours and if not It never really was. even if she doesn't wanna break up you should because it seems like she wants to have other experiences with men.
2007-03-15 17:19:20 · answer #8 · answered by Mystical M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she treats you like that and you are choosing to stay with her out of "love" than that's your own fault. When you love and care for someone you do not act like that! Come on now...she's kissed your friend and tried to date another guy. This girl is telling you that she does not want to be with you and you do not break up with her? Take your dignity back and break up with the b****. You are doing yourself a disservice when you choose to be with someone who disrepects you like that and treats you like a doormat. If you let them..it's your own fault!
2007-03-15 18:01:29 · answer #9 · answered by asiansmile 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
imagine of why you do not "love" your spouse anymore. What makes you imagine you under no circumstances loved that individual? apparently you cared for them because you stayed with them lengthy sufficient to get married yet ask your self if you're IN love with them. If no longer then why? Make a itemizing of the things you experience like are lacking out of your courting. Is it compassion and convenience? Then those should be worked on. perchance you're dealing with what I call a "dry spell" in a courting and don't be disturbed, virtually everybody does this. those who're at the same time for therefore long often times get to a pair extent the position they imagine they don't favor the different individual or they don't love the different individual. i have executed this formerly and that i'm no longer afraid to confess it because individuals have too! circumstances like those make you get excitement out of your spouse. What you should do is take an afternoon without work for in simple terms "you time." flow do the things you want to do. (proceed to be honest for sure.. I in simple terms advise flow out and revel on your pastimes.) even as your gone, attempt to ask your self questions like "Am I lacking my spouse today?", "ought to I get excitement from this more advantageous powerful in the journey that they were right here with me?" It sounds stupid yet attempt it. it ought to artwork.. =)
2016-11-25 23:13:02 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋