she is now pregnant and told me about her past which she hided from me, she has done sex with 3 guys before me and never told me, she fooled around with few and has done oral with couple, all her past relationships were mostly physical, except for her ex with whom she was with two years.
I met her when she ended her relationship with her ex, i never really loved her, i was just suporting her and we came close and started having sex, she is now pregnant and dosent want abortion what should ido, i cannot marry her because i never loved her, she also lied about her past, i was virgin before meeting her and she has had many relationships. so i think its not fair for me to marry her and stick to her, what should i do
2007-03-15 16:50:35 · 23 answers · asked by Krish A 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You don't have to marry her, and you shouldn't if you don't love her, but you have to raise that child so start saving money and reading up on parenting. Good luck.
All of the other stuff is irrelevant.
2007-03-15 16:54:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
She has done an unfair deed. But at this point of time, there is no use playing blame games. The fact is that she is pregnant with your child, does give you some responsibilities.
First of all talk to her that you do not love her and that you cannot marry her. Dont continue blaming her that its her fault that she got pregnant. Your sperms were involved too!!!
So what if she has had past relationships. None of them had got her pregnant.
Then leave the decision entirely to her, weather she wants the baby or not. If she still wants the baby, then fine, have her sign a contract that she will not bug you after she has the baby, and that you can continue with your life and can get married to another girl.
(Though I'm sure she wont sign the contract and will bug you after the birth)
If she doesn't want the baby, then everything's fine.
2007-03-15 18:47:18 · answer #2 · answered by kchl_dk007 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
This is a really hard decision to make because it is your life that will change with what you do. If the girl is actually dishonest and overall not a good character, then do not marry her. Maybe you should give the relationship a try for the sake of your child. But make sure the child is yours before you do anything. Best of luck.
2007-03-15 18:04:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
even after knowing that she had sex with other guys in the past you had sex with her.you say you do not love her,and that you were a virgin.since she is pregnant now does she point you for the same.you should sit and talk with her that you took her to sex just for sex.if she is still not willing to abort it is going to be a night mare for you may have to establish that she might have had sex with any other after you had with her.these are the problem arising out of hasty sex appetite.just tell her all about this and try to keep far away from her .if she starts any blackmailing you have to resort to legal remedies ,which might even turn be more on negative side to you , if any DNA test proves you are the reason for her pregnancy.you asked for it.God help you.
2007-03-15 17:42:40 · answer #4 · answered by dpkdrj 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't marry her!!First off she is kind of promiscuous and for all you know you might not even be the daddy of her baby.Next time you might want to think about what could happen when you get this intimate with someone but don't love them enough to be with them or marry them or want a child with them!What you should do is break up with her and wait until she has the baby-then get a DNA test done to see whether or not your even the father-Because i mean she isn't even faithful so just because she's pregnant doesn't mean you have to put up with that.Stay away from her and remember you don't have to marry her even if this is your baby-pay child support and be in your kids life but don't marry someone just because they are pregnant-this will just end in divorce.So good luck with all this.
2007-03-15 17:00:33 · answer #5 · answered by sweetsmiles69@jennieask-me 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Well it sounds like to me you are making excuses for your self and trying to get yourself out of a bad situation. If you were man enough to have had sex with her she was obviously good enough to be with at the time. Do not try to talk her into having an abortion. That is not a decision that you would have to live with. You need to man up, quit making petty excuses for your self and take care of your responsibilities. I have a sister that ran into a man like you and it is hard to believe that their are people out their like this. I feel sorry for your girlfriend, actually tell her is she needs a someone to talk to I will listen with open ears!! Regardless of how many relationships she has had prior to your she was good enough to lay down with and you should take care of her and your child. Be A MAN!
2007-03-15 17:04:20 · answer #6 · answered by Mandie 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Was it fair from your side to have sex with someone you didn't love, someone you can't commit yourself to? At that time you let your desires take over you without worrying about the consequeences, and now you wanna back off.
Her past has nothing to do with her present. Maybe she fell in love with you and never wanted to disturb the relationship with you. And she dfidn't lie about her past. She told you the truth, didn't she? That's how you came to know about her previous relationships.
Is it fair to impregnate someone and back off?
All the best...
:-)
2007-03-16 16:51:04 · answer #7 · answered by plato's ghost 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You were virgin but you are no more for if you are thinking of marring someone else who is virgin so that nulls.If you were not in love then you just used her now be ready to face it.I just dont understand what to guide your generation who attempt bold but take foot back when comes the testing times.
2007-03-15 17:22:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
only using fact he does not want to have intercourse with you does no longer mean that he's loopy, cheat, gay or despite. He might desire to relax it using fact in case you have been having it each and every of the time on the hour then possibly he only desires a wreck from it or maybe he desires to anticipate marriage or it might desire to be various issues. i became happy to study which you're unlikely to go away him if the intercourse isn't there thats large reason it shows which you do no longer want him basically for intercourse and doubtless he concept thats what you needed from him intercourse basically. the two way stick to him and that i'm hoping that it works out for the two one among you.
2016-10-18 12:18:36 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u shld hv taken full precautions of avoiding pregnancy.and now when she is preganant,so a big prob.i think u shld see tht does she really loves u or she had in the past even got pregnant.if this time she really loves u ,then u shld marry her or just bcoz she is preganat and asking u to marry then don't marry
2007-03-15 20:24:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋