Me and my bf have been togethr for more than 6 mnths now. When I met him, I was in a situation whereby I had enough of men & dating & how badly they use to treat me.At first I was not interested in him.But he pursued me, & I couldnt help myself but fall for him and his charm.He is a decent guy.Has most of the qualities that I always wanted in a guy.A real sweetheart.But as the months went by, he started to change.Showing me less attention, and being very laid back about our relationship.I started to have this feeling that he was bored with me and our relationship.I confronted him, but he denied. & few days back he admitted that, indeed he is bored with our relationship.But just didnt want to tell me earlier cause he didnt want to hurt me.He is in a differnt country right now, pursuing his final year of college.He is 24 and me 27.He says that he still wants me, but just let him concentrate on his studies for now.Why do guys do tht? Is this normal?how 2 get him intrsted in this again?
2007-03-15 16:34:59 · 7 answers · asked by tingtangtoo21 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He may be bored because he's studying. He may be bored because you keep thinking that he's bored with you, and he's sensed it and has followed suit9you confronted him, a lot of guys are emotional but don't talk about it). Give him the take away. Pull out by allowing him to know you're having a great time without him. Then don't talk to him about four days. If he calls you're in and you need to do some work to keep it interesting. If not, it's over sweetheart.....move on and have fun.....stop putting it out to the world and yourself that you're boring. Be passionate. Live life and love it. Be grateful that you have a relationship with a man, many do not.
2007-03-15 17:11:35 · answer #1 · answered by bn575 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you, him or both of yall aren't working to keep the relationship great, it's going to get boring.
One person cannot do all the work to keep a relationship going because he/she is gonna start believing his/her mate is taking him/her for granted....and will start to resent his/her mate. If the other person doesn't put out more, the relationship is doomed.
By him saying he was bored with the relationship, he's letting you know that you are slacking on your end and need to step it up a little more. If that is true, you better get the ball rolling.
2007-03-15 16:45:05 · answer #2 · answered by brotherb95 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, Okay... I am sorry to tell you but it seems that he has falling out of love in this relationship... I don't think theres anything wrong that you did, its all him.. Even if you try to make a difference in the relationship and get him to love you again? I don't think it would work... To him he's 24 about to finish college, its a new start for him.... I am just stating the facts, but please end this relationship before you get hurt and sad.... End the relationship go hang out with your friends and live your life until you find a new guy in your life.... Pls, don't waste your time thinking about this boy anymore.... Well its just my opinion, but if anything I hope I help..
2007-03-15 16:47:54 · answer #3 · answered by Rain L 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately he's not interested in being with you and he wants to finish his studies. I would move on if I were you and find someone who is willing to give you the attention you crave. I hope that things get better for you!
2007-03-15 16:51:11 · answer #4 · answered by poetry_dreamer2001 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on. It's over. He is being selfish by letting you think there is still a possibility of a relationship.
2007-03-15 16:38:45 · answer #5 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let him concentrate on his studies, go out and find a new man and he will get interested then.....screw him, he said he was bored with your relationship.... thats ignorant, move on, you deserve to have someone be honest to you ALL of the time, and treat you with respect.... tell him to enjoy his studies
2007-03-15 16:45:56 · answer #6 · answered by jim 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
notyou31 is right. this is selfish behavior. men shouldn't treat women like this. chances are, he used you, got what he wanted, and is now bored. right now, the best (and almost only) thing to do is kick him out.
2007-03-15 16:46:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋