I am throwing a baby shower for my friend on Sunday and not a single person has RSVP'd. Shouldn't that be a requirement. i even wrote on the invite please Rsvp at (555)555-5555 by such and such date and no one did. I hope i am not the only one this happens to.
2007-03-15 16:25:44 · 17 answers · asked by ? 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
They just 'assume' they are included. Not nice.I agree.
Call them. Being polite is the only way to get them to answer. No choice.
2007-03-15 16:34:33 · answer #1 · answered by Nightrider 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One reason: they are rude. They can give all the excuses they want but if they are not dead, then they are just plain rude.
I think you would be totally justified in not being home the day of the party since no one said they were coming. If some of these rude people actually continue their rude behavior and show up at your house without having RSVPed, they will be the ones inconvenienced, not you.
Only by putting some "cost" onto their rudeness will they learn some manners. If they just show up and you do have the party, you will be greatly inconvenienced and they will just have their rude behavior reinforced, so they will do it again in the future.
My practice is to prepare food ONLY for those who RSVP. I then prepare a guest list for the front door. If someone shows up who is not on the list, they are allowed in but informed by the doorman there will be no food for them due to their failure to RSVP. That really gets their attention! Specially if everyone else is eating steak and lobster and all they get is a salad that we managed to "dig up" for them. They also get to set at a back table away from the action.
2007-03-16 00:32:45 · answer #2 · answered by forgivebutdonotforget911 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most people in this day and age don't know what RSVP means. And most people are so busy that they forget. I think the best way to handle invitations now is to send them out and ask for "Regrets only" meaning if you aren't going to be there to call and say so. Then about 3 days before the event, call everyone that hasn't called and remind them of the party...I know what's the point of regrets only? you will actually get some calls and those that you call will be grateful you reminded them.
2007-03-16 11:15:13 · answer #3 · answered by jumbos_mom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I saw just the header of your question I thought some people just forget, or they are very busy and don't know until the last moment whether they'll be able to make it. But NO ONE replied? That seems weird, and rather rude. Either you may have a circle of friends in which RSVP'ing is so unusual they may not know what it means, or maybe something went wrong, did you make a typo in the phone number? I mean it's common that some people don't bother but you'd expect at least a *few* people to reply!
2007-03-16 00:51:44 · answer #4 · answered by Sheriam 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe they don't know what RSVP means? Although it's unlikely. Probably they are a bit thoughtless.
If I didn't receive notification I would plan as though they weren't coming; lay a table and get food for the number you know will be there. Then if they arrive look really apologetic and say that you assumed they wouldn't be coming as they hadn't replied. Say of course they can come in but could they pop out and buy some extra bread, milk etc... whatever as you'd only catered for those who replied. If you are polite to them and welcome them, but let them see that it has caused a big inconvenience, then they should learn for the future.
2007-03-16 09:41:11 · answer #5 · answered by KateScot 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people forget or don't take the RSVP seriously, not considering food, et all is going to be prepared based on the number of guests.
Tehelphone everyone and ask if they are attending, so you can plan on the requirements. I do this one week prior to an event so I can adjust quantities.
2007-03-16 02:25:36 · answer #6 · answered by Pacifica 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not alone, by any means. If you want to know who is coming, you will have to call all of them. The problem is all our social revolutions and freedoms of the 60's and 70's left the manners of past generations in the dust. The hippies felt etiquette was imposing on their freedoms, and did not pass on the old home rules. Plus you have kids raising kids. They simply do not understand how rude this is to the other person planning the party.
2007-03-15 23:55:14 · answer #7 · answered by realjustice 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because they are unsophisticated clods. Any person with a modicum of class knows that RSVP means you need to let the host/ess know if you are coming or not so she can plan accordingly. If you don't have enough sense to do that, you shouldn't have been invited in the first place.
2007-03-16 11:51:52 · answer #8 · answered by Sally G 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is absolutely inconsiderate!! I cannot even imagine not RSVP'ing because that is inconsiderate of the person who is going to so much time and trouble to make the event wonderful for each and every guest and the least the people who have been invited can do is: RSVP!!!
2007-03-16 00:21:04 · answer #9 · answered by zaytox0724 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cancel the shower and don't notify anyone, when they show up tell them the shower was cancelled because no one rsvp'd.
Just take the money you would have spent on the shower and buy your friend a really nice gift.
2007-03-16 16:40:04 · answer #10 · answered by ♥Twinkle♥Toes 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
People are rude and or lazy. My daughter was married 6 months ago and invites were sent out 2 months before and we still had to call people and ask if they were coming.
2007-03-15 23:30:37 · answer #11 · answered by Deeday 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋