RSVP??Question?

Question

You know how when you have to RSVP the card looks like this

M_______________________
Number of guest _________
Will Attend_____ Will not attend______
My question is what is the M there for??

So do I use the M and just add the r like for Mr? Or do I just re-write Mr all together? And what if some one wlse is coming but its just a g/f. Then what should it look like?
like this?
M__Mr. John Hader & Meggie Wright?_
or
Mr. John Hader and Meggie Wright?

Well see on the invitation it only had my fiances name (the wedding is for a co-worker) so does that mean Im not invited?

Answer 1

Your name goes where the M is. So the it says Mr, Mrs, Ms, or Miss, etc.

You only check "will attend" or "will not attend" you do not write a number in unless it is LESS then the amount invited on the envelope. You are not entitled to invite a girlfriend to go with you unless it said her name specifically or said "and guest" next to your own name. If it said and guest you can put Mr. Smith & Guest if it said her name put Mr. Smith & Miss/Ms Doe


Since the invite had your fiance's name he/she should be the one RSVPing and should inquire as to whether you were invited or not if there is any question (I imagine if you are a co-worker AND your fiance was invited they probably intended for you to go as well, but etiquette dictates you should be certain for headcount purposes). Generally speaking though it is only for whomever was specifically listed on the envelope.

Answer 2

The M is already there so don't write it again. Fill it in like this: Mr. John Smith and Mrs. Jane Doe. Just add the r and keep writing on the line. As far as if you're invited that is tricky. You would think the co-worker would put exactly what is up there on the invitation: Mr. John Smith and Mrs. Jane Doe. Is he a co-worker of yours as well? Does he know you exist? Maybe it's an honest mistake and he forgot your name or he just assumed you would know to come. I think you should have your fiance casually bring up the wedding to this co-worker sometime soon. He could say something like, "Yeah, Jane is going out tomorrow to look for a brand new dress to wear at your wedding" or "Jane and I are looking forward to attending your wedding". Then if the co-worker intended NOT to invite you, he will most likely say so to those comments. Good luck - I hope everything works out well!

Answer 3

Mr. Mrs, Miss

Yes add the r, rs. iss of the 1st person.
Only the people on the envelope are invited. Have your fiance
call to see if they have room for a date? It should have been addressed to him & your name or date. Meals are prepared by the RSVP count & sometimes dates are not included because of the seating arrangement problems or the expense of the meal.
My daughter's friend is paying $58 per person for the meal for her reception.

Answer 4

Yes, you just add the "r" or "iss" for Mr. or Miss. Well, if the invitation was just addressed to your bf, with no "and guest" - he's on his own! People have to do that with singles sometimes because space is tight.

Answer 5

only respond for the number of guests invited. If it is to mary smith and guest you can bring someone, if it is just to mary smith that is only and invataion for yourself mr and mrs mary smith it is for you and your husband
If it says mary smith and family then your kids if you have any are invited
just incase you needed to know that too

Answer 6

For you to put:
Mr, Mrs, Miss...Not sure what happens if the guests title doesn't start with an 'M' like a 'D' for Dr.

Answer 7

It's for your name. Ms. Sue Jones or Mr. Ron Smith. That's all.

Answer 8

You arent invited, sorry. Unless you are named on the invite as your actual name or as "Guest" then you arent to attend. AND ITS VERY RUDE TO ASK, so dont suggest he go in and ask this guy if he can bring his girlfriend. Brides are very methodical about stuff like invites, we have all read the ettiquette books and know that who you address to means who is invited, so if you were left off, it was intentional.

Answer 9

As the 2 answerers above have stated, it's used for the salutations.

Answer 10

The M is for... Mr. John Smith..... or Mr. & Mrs. John Smith.... or Ms. Jane Smith.... I could go on & on (hehehehe)... Then indicate how many people are going. :)