how old should you be to get married?????????

Question

my friend in a senior in high skool and she thinks she's ready to marry her boyfriend of 21 and she 18 but i dont know if it's a good ideal what should i tell her?????????????? They have been dating for 3 years

Answer 1

I had been dating my boyfriend at the time for almost four years when we got married. I was 18 and had graduated from high school a year early in order to get married and start living my life. I hated high school anyway. We have been married for almost seven years now, been together for over ten. I guess I was mature enough to get married. I had that feeling and I was right about it. Some people just know when they are ready. We also took pre-marital counseling for six months to prepare ourselves. So the question isn't how old she is, but how mature she is and if she is mature enough. Take a look at her life and the choices she has made this far in the game. Go by that. You sound like a good concerned friend and I'm sure you can sit her down and talk to her and go from there. Just be there for her.

Answer 2

That people in China originally wern't allowed to get married until the age of 25. That's what they believe to be the final age of growing, and also means your most mature by this age. I don't know if they still have this law or what but they use to only be allowed to have a child of each sex and that was it- or something like that, wern't allowed that many kids, I know that much. Explain it to her, she might not like it but that's tuff cookies. If she doesn't listen she'll probably get a divorce 3years down the road anyway, my friend did and she married at 19 and is also pregnant with her second may I mind you. Haha hope this helps. Good Luck

Answer 3

She can think she's ready but honestly if she's still in high school she isn't. Before she ties herself down she needs to get out and do things,find herself,and figure out what she wants from life. And especially before getting married it would be wise of she and her boyfriend to try living together because thats how their married life will be and if she cant handle that then she wont be ready for marriage. You really can't tell her to do anything as its her life and her choices but by suggesting maybe they try living together first in a non-challenging way it may make her less likely to think you're trying to tell her what to do or whats best for her. three years is a sufficient enough time i think to be dating before marriage,even if it was high school years.

Answer 4

you can tell your friend.. but in the end it's her choice and her decision. it's a big decision and it's hers to make.. although if you Really think it's wrong then you should tell her.. because she should also value your opinion and can take it into consideration. it's probably not the Best idea to marry without really exploring her options.. but it's her fact to learn. i myself though know MANY couples who got married Right out of high school at 18. so i don't think it's a big deal... if you love them you love them right. it may be disillusioned love, but there's nothing you can really do.

Answer 5

If she is going to be starting college I would tell her to wait. College can change you and your perspectives. Plus, if she gets married now she might not want to further her education. If the relationship doesn't work out, then she won't have anything to fall back on and will regret her decision.

Answer 6

thats nothing my friend married at 20 and only knew each othere for 1.5 months. 3 years is a long time u should honestly except it a let her your not gonna loose a friend dont worry

Answer 7

24 years old is the best age to marry, and if u want i will marry u and if u want anything i'm ready for it

Answer 8

i say no younger then 22 are 23

Answer 9

stay out of their lives! what a shallow problem to think about. let them be.