I'm depressed and I'm so lonely. How can I make friends and stop feeling inferior?

Question

I'm in college. I'm very shy. Whenever I try to talk to people I feel embaressed and anxious. I take meds for social anxiety disorder, but they don't help. I try talking to a therapist but I'm too shy to be honest with him. I know I would feel better if only I had a friend(s) or significant other. Please help. Thank you.

I'm in college. Everytime I try to talk to someone I feel embaressed and anxious. I've tried joining clubs and going to church. I've tried talking to a therapist and many different meds. I am too shy to speak up with my therapist, and I have tried a number of therapists. Please help. Thanks.

I'm even too shy and ashamed to write my troubles down and give it to my therapist.

Answer 1

sorry to hear about thst.first you need to find a therapist that you feel you can open up to. you have to keep up your meds. i know it sounds awful and the most daunting thing in the world, but push yourself really hard to say hi to the person sitting next to you in the lecture theatre, and reward yourself if you do. you'd be suprised at how many other people are afraid to do this as well, but trust me, onse you've done it once, it gradually gets easier. try joining clubs around campus also.

Answer 2

Ask your therapist to help you find a support group.
Tell the Dr. that you need different meds because these are not helping you.

Whether your shyness and anxieties are inherited or caused by environment is irrelevant. You can ---and will---get well. You will NOT always be "this way". It takes patience and effort. Best wishes !!

Answer 3

You really do need to continue seeing the therapist. If you are very uncomfortable with this therapist--ask to see another one. You have to let the therapist know what is going on--how else will he or she be able to help you.

About the pills that you take--if they are not working, you need to call the doctor who prescribed them, and let him/her know that. You may need a doseage adjustment, or a completely different pill.

Feel better. :)

Answer 4

Write down the things your therapist should know, including suggestions on making friends and doing something about feeling inferior, put it in an envelope and write on the front in large red letters: "WHAT I CAN'T SAY"

Answer 5

Yeah I'm that way too I'm a shy person as well and I know how loney I can get sometimes and it seems like no one cares and everyone just thinks and cares about themself and their own little world. And its true! people don't care about other people such as you or me. people are rotten to the core. I know. but there are some people in this life who do care. And their is only two kinds of people who really care family or god. so talk to god or you're family if you can about this. because all the other "so called' professionals and "so called' friendly people can't help you with you're loneyness, depression, or anyother kind of hurt that you have. Remember if you're family and friends or anyother person can't love you either. Then turn to god because god can change you're heart and give you peace and understanding and you don't really need people you need god. For god is perfect and he is the best friend you can ever have. ALL YOU NEED IS HIM! but if you don't belive me or you don't belive in him. just try it. call his name and ask him in you're life. He'll come trust me. and if you don't want to do that then you won't ever, ever be happy with other people cause you won't know true happyness.

Answer 6

1maybe you should switch the meds
2you should write how you feel and give your journal or a 3piece of paper to your therapist. i have problems expressing myself so i write down my feelings.
4once you let everything out, you can open up to meeting people without being shy.
5joining small or big clubs at your school is a start
6 opening up takes time, patience, and effort

Answer 7

U no wat, just no that ppl r goin thru the same thing and just take a step out in the open....people will respect u for it and want to be ur friend. Offer to get sum coffee by somebody u sit by, even get involved in some on campus activities, they're gr8 4 makin friends! Just have confidence and be ur self and I'm SURE u'll find a friend

Answer 8

i grow to be there 2, approximately 3 years in the past... Its lonely, you cant think of of the destiny with friends and espacially with lady pal.. The trick is no person will in all probability assist you upward thrust and socialize, you need to do it your self! nicely your in all probability locked on your little international of shyness... Its problematical to declare :"only destroy out" using fact it grow to be impossible for me 2. i opt to advise you to start analyzing few books approximately physihology and than grasp your appearing qualifications, skill to mimic, skill to talk and perchance start up vacationing wellbeing. perhaps whilst your chatting with others you permit loose thoughts which you're depressed by way of physique language.. So learn physique language !!! you will possibly be depressed interior, yet that doesnt recommend human beings ought to be certain that. human beings dont opt to attraction to close with depressed human beings. So pass obtainable, destroy your limits, learn physique language, defeat shyness, start up searching for challanges and upward thrust to the suitable ;) GL

Answer 9

Someone I can't remember said "Do the things you fear and your fear will know death".

Someone else I don't remember said "Most of our adult fears are like the childhoods 'boogieman' merely a conglomeration of sinister shadows void of reality".

Just found this one "I love quotes. It is a joy to see the thoughts one might have, beautifully expressed with much authority, by someone recognizably wiser than oneself".-Marlene Dietrich-I think

Answer 10

Find a meetup group that you find interesting. Go to meetup.com, and there is a meetup for every interest. Even if you just listen, people don't care. It is a good starting point.