Is it rude to touch someone on the hips while saying excuse me?

Question

When theres like a tight space or you are blocking there way. They do that while saying excuse me. Sometimes it makes you jump because it tickles or sometimes they leave there hands in your hips while passing. Has these ever happened to you? Do you find it annoying.

Answer 1

This is really a cultural thing, or a familiarity issue. In the U.S., it's a bad idea to touch someone's hips as you pass unless you are very attractive, as attractive people are less likely to be chastised for a momentary touch. Generally, it's a better idea to say"excuse me" and let the person move before passing. If it's someone you know, you can touch him or her slightly and probably not create any ill will. And, in some cultures, this kind of touch is acceptable, as all cultures have different requirements for touch and personal space. To be safe - don't touch, but allow the person to move as much as possible before squeezing past.

Answer 2

If I am trying to pass someone in a tight space, I may lightly touch a hip or their back, only because people tend to jump back when startled. But it's a light touch and as soon as my presence is made known by this touch, I move my hand away or the contact is otherwise broken by them moving. I've never left my hand at the contact point, be it hip or back or whatever.

I'd rather that then them jump back and jab an elbow in my stomach or chest or step on my toes.

Answer 3

I think most women have experienced what you're talking about. Some find it offensive, some do not. However, the proper place to tough someone, if you must would be the middle of the back, or maybe the shoulder. Sometimes, depending on the situation, the waist. The hips, on the other hand is aiming a little low.

Answer 4

Hips are definitely a NO Zone.

The person doing that is doing more than excusing themselves, trust me. If the space is tight, there's absolutely no reason a light, short, touch on the shoulder or back wouldn't accomplish the same thing.

Answer 5

I will tap you on the shoulders but never the hips. I would not even do that to my friend, such a touch is a bit invasive.

I think you are attractive and people were just trying to get cheap thrills.

Answer 6

if i got to touch somebody to get thru a crowded place i will tap or lightly touch the shoulder but if you go around touching everybodys hips in a crowded place you are liable to get punched or mased. women will think youre a perv and men will think youre some gay dude feelin up on them. if some guy put his hands on my hips then they would soon be putting their hands on their mouth checking how many teeth they have left. most people dont like strangers touching them in any way. so if you have to touch someone touch them somewhere like the shoulder so its not so personal of an area of the body. i have never had a man do it to me but i have had women put their hands on my hips to kinda squeeze through and i dont care to much about that but it still annoys me cause i got to check my pockets afterwards cause people will also do things like that in attempts to pick pocket people.

Answer 7

If it's someone you don't know well or if it isn't established that they are comfortable with you in their personal space, touching the hip is a bit invasive. I think the shoulder would be much more appropriate.

Answer 8

Oh, this is a huge peeve of mine. I do NOT like to be touched by people as they're saying "excuse me" and trying to pass through. Bumping into is one thing, but when people deliberately touch me, it makes me nuts. Even worse is when someone squeezes by and grabs your arms like they're trying to actually move you out of the way!

Seriously? To all you touchy-feelies out there: I'm not deaf. Say "Excuse me" and I'll move. I promise.

Answer 9

lol good question

I don't think it is rude. Sometimes gives me the shiver4s if it is a person that smells or looks dirty. Or another guy.
i have done it before just so the person knows i am trying no to rub myself against them . so actually less rude than sliding against them i think...I suppose some people might have a different view. For them just grind your groin into their *** next time...Lil OK just kidding but funny huh?

Answer 10

I don't think it's necessarily rude, it's more of a 'hey I'm here behind you' gesture, basically to let you know they're there. I don't like it either though, as I hate anyone touching me, ESPECIALLY people I don't know. As long as they aren't touching your boobs or your ***, it's not really rude. But yeah, it makes me jump too, mainly because I can't stand anyone touching me and it scares me a little.