are women today just not attracted to my type?

Question

first off, when we're talking about the types of guys women like to flirt with and fantasize about, personality is not the first thing that comes to mind. sure if you have confidence or a sense of humor, it will make some women more turned on by you, but that only applies if they can find it in themselves to be turned on by the way you look. plus, i am just not a funny or clever person. i have a sense of humor, but i can never make everyone laugh or be the center of attention. and i'm not popular nor do i have any special status. this wouldn't be a problem if i didn't look the way i do. women are generally attracted to 'handsome guys' or 'cute boys'. i don't have the handsome look, because ei have a nerdy look and i'm scrawny, and even though i'm 18, i don't look like a cute boy. i have thick eyebrows that make me look creepy and i'm hairy. because of this i can't go out and flirt with a women without her getting intimidated. what should i do?

and last time i went on a plane, the way the flight attendant was looking at me made it so obvious she was intimidated. and i don't see why she wouldn't be. i have the stereotypical terrorist look and i'm of arab descent. and she was hot too. i'm really tired of being judged based on the way i look. and i'm really getting tired of feminists justifying womens' actions.

Answer 1

go to a salon and get your eyebrows waxed or tweezed, ALL THE GUYS do it....its just a cleaner, sexier look.... get some contacts if you can, it will help boost your ego and self esteem...(even tho, i personally think that glasses on guys are hotttt..i love the sexy sophisticated look) and give yourself a new hair cut......minor alterations to your looks,will not change the person you are, but will change the way you feel about yourself, which in turn, will boost your confidence when it comes to girls......your 18 and your still growing and changing, so your personality will mature more and more, i really wouldnt worry too much about it.... but like i said, in life, if you dont like somethig, you either learn to live with it, or change it.... and i think you would be successful either way...
just do what makes you happy... good luck hun :)


and dont help the already sterotype of arabic people with terrorism......i hate that.

Answer 2

Have you ever watched Beauty and the Geek? I love that show because you see how normal and cool guys like you can be. Unfortunately most people judge on looks first then fall for the personality. There is nothing wrong with a guy getting into taking care of the way they look to correct the things nature messed up. There are easy things to do that can help. Getting your eyebrows waxed doesn't hurt and can make a world of difference and while your there talk about your problem and ask about what you can do that can still be low maintenance.

Answer 3

What you need to do is change the way you're seeing yourself. The way you see yourself is expressed in every sense of what you say and how you stand, gesture, act. It sounds like you see yourself as bump-ugly and that's all anyone else is going to see too.

You're in a room filled with people. There's a girl in the back of the room who'se self-consious and shy. She doesn't see herself as being special and doesn't know how to act around people. There's another girl in the middle of the room. She's confident in herself and she's happy. You're going to notice that girl in the center of the room, you're never saw the girl in the back of the room.

Guess what? You're the guy in the back of the room. It's not that women aren't attracted to you, women haven't had the chance to see the real you. I'm POSTIVE there is something special about you, dispite what you think. I'm a people-person and I have NEVER met a person that didn't have something that made them interesting.

You need to change the way you see yourself. Maybe fix those eyebrows that sound like they're bugging you. Or better yet, learn to see past it. You mentioned people seemed intimdated by you, maybe it's becaus you don't come off as warm & friendly. People who are down on themselves tend to be more closed off to meeting others. Others in return are not going to want to walk up and have a conversation with someone who doesn't look happy and friendly.

I'm sure you are a friendly person, just learn to let go of imperfections and focus on just enjoying life. This will come more with age too. Don't believe me? I'm walking testimony. I was the girl in the back of the room all though highschool. I see people i graduated with that didn't even know I went to school with them (it wasn't a big school). Confidence changes everything.

Answer 4

I don't know.

I think I am too down to be lifted up. I think it is because nothing seems to come good and right my way the way I love and like things to be that are meant to be.

Love Amie A